| 1/29/2008 11:23:38 AM | Why are people scared of Children? | |
wrestlingdad1
Prairieville, LA
age: 44
| Why are the opposite sex scared of people with children? I think my question is age dependent. Someone in their early thirty with kids the same age as mine might feel different than a woman my age who's kids are grown. I'm only guessing. From my point of view, I can see the baggage that an ex(if there is bad blood)could bring to a new relationship and the fear of that with kids involved. I can also see the point of view if your kids are grown (I think?). Someone please send me their point of view!
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| 1/29/2008 11:28:32 AM | Why are people scared of Children? | |
superjelly
Cumberland, KY
age: 30
| mine are so mean im scared of them lol but i dont think that is what you meant
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| 1/29/2008 11:30:47 AM | Why are people scared of Children? | |
candy66
Cheshire
United Kingdom
age: 42
| Hi,
personally i dont think it should matter and definately would not frighten me off and my kids are grown up too. Just hang in there and all will turn out great. GOOD LUCK.
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| 1/29/2008 11:33:06 AM | Why are people scared of Children? | |
collide64
Janesville, WI
age: 43
| Children of the Corn scare me. Seriously, I think when children are involved the adults need to date one on one for awhile and leave the kids out of it until the adults that are dating reach an understanding of the situation. Are the kids ready for their mom or dad to date. Are the exes going to turn the kids against you etc......
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| 1/29/2008 12:22:08 PM | Why are people scared of Children? | |
wrestlingdad1
Prairieville, LA
age: 44
| My kids are ready and my ex is one of my best friends. It seem that most women, younger or older, either have no kids or theirs are grown and are not looking to raise anymore.
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| 1/29/2008 12:37:48 PM | Why are people scared of Children? | |
candy66
Cheshire
United Kingdom
age: 42
| These people are bein shallow then, bet they wud be first to moan if the tide was turned on them
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| 1/29/2008 12:46:17 PM | Why are people scared of Children? | |
evie58
Port Arthur, TX
age: 50
| Why are children refered to as baggage? that would be an insult to me and my children...I have two beautiful daughters and thy would stand behind me 100 percent.One is 17 and the other is 28. They wouldnt like being classified as baggage.I think sometimes teen children can make things difficult only because another person is taking the place where their mother or father once stood.Sometimes they dont know why their parents separated.So adults dont know how to talk with a child that says Your not my Dad or your not my momm why do I have to listen to you? Its hard being a parent. I love kids so it wouldnt matter either way to me.Heck I treated my daughters friends as if they were my own...Good luck to you all Evie58
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| 1/29/2008 12:48:50 PM | Why are people scared of Children? | |
evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35
| Kids mean at some point you will have to meet the person you are dating ex partner.
Kids mean at some point you will have to cancel your plans for them.
Kids mean at one point you will get told that you will never be number one in their life.. the kids will always come before you.
Kids mean you will at some point have to start paying for them.
Kids mean you have to change your life to suit some other person's kids.
NO THANKS
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| 1/29/2008 12:52:25 PM | Why are people scared of Children? | |
evie58
Port Arthur, TX
age: 50
| single ,lonely, and childless NO THANKS
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| 1/29/2008 1:45:30 PM | Why are people scared of Children? | |
aardvark22
Glen Head, NY
age: 46
| For me it is the fact that I myself am single and childless. I would like to have one of my own before I consider taking on somebody else's. Plus as the OP pointed out, potential issues with an ex as well as also having to win over kids in addition to your love interest. I love children and spent a lot of time taking care of my 20 month old Niece for my sister (I have a picture of her with me on my profile). Of course dealing with an infant/toddler is a lot easier than trying to deal with the 5-18 year old range.
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| 1/29/2008 1:47:55 PM | Why are people scared of Children? | |
luvinlifetothem
Biddeford, ME
age: 41
| Jelly....ROFLMFAO...
I feel the same way about mine!
AND...I always say..I could single handed stop the underage birth population of my town, require all juniors and seniors to babysit just ONE night at my house....
Bwaah ha ha haaaah haa aa ha.
I laugh because its true.
Oh, and eviledy? They are the smartest, funniest human beings I have ever had the pleasure to know...and YOU are soooo missing out. Poor baby.
You dont know unconditional love til you have a kid love you like that.
But...good luck with that honey!
My kids make me crazy...and they also keep me sane.
They are the hardest job I have ever had..and the best thing that has ever happened to me. I wouldnt give up a second...and I love a great babysitter.
Aint life a beyotch?!?!?
Kids also mean that someone looks at you like you are the smartest man that ever lived on the face of the earth.
Kids also mean that you can feel like you are the best thing that ever happened to them.
Kids also mean so much that the sacrifices you have to make mean nothing...
So..edy...I suggest you go babysit or something...you are sooo missing out!
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| 1/29/2008 2:25:06 PM | Why are people scared of Children? | |
wrestlingdad1
Prairieville, LA
age: 44
| Well, I'm definately not scare of my kids. They are a big part of my life. They are "ALL" very active in sports.
I would understand if people took the time to get to know me and my kids and then say I'm not ready for this. When I tell them I have four kids, its seems to be the deal breaker. I don't lie or play games. I'm truthful upfront. I thought this would be different from the first time (25 years ago).
Thanks to everyone for y'alls comments.
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| 1/29/2008 2:40:31 PM | Why are people scared of Children? | |
michaelcee
Sarasota, FL
age: 51
| My ex-stepdaughter single handedly ruined my marriage
(with the help of her grandmother)
Before anyone bashes me for that statement please consider I am "thick as thieves" with my stepson.
I wont go into any details here... but let it suffice to say neither of us can even tolerate his little sister and we both think his Mother was a fool to drive me away.
Life goes on.
Would I enter into another relationship with someone with children?
(living at home)
Maybe.
But I would be SO guarded it might ruin the thing from the beginning.
Sorry.... been burned once.
Burned BADLY!!!
Michael
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| 1/29/2008 2:45:58 PM | Why are people scared of Children? | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| Children AND ex-relationships can be a challenge and eventually an insurmountable obstacle to the relationship, but again as you age (ha ha ha ha!) they occasionally become more manageable or (maybe you get too old to get worked up???)
Personally - I love children. I have dated men with them and men without them, I have found generally speaking the men with them are more understanding of my DEVOTION to my own sons... but.....???
Again I would never BASE a decision on a man based on his income, his smoking choices, his children or his past... it's about who he is now, who he will be in the future and who WE are together.
I also think a childrens behavior will be based largely upon the environment they are raised in - if a woman or man has unmanageable hellions for children who lack respect or decency I think there's a reason - look to the parents and then ask - "am I really where I want to be?"
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| 1/29/2008 3:00:36 PM | Why are people scared of Children? | |
silver_rain1011
Springfield, VA
age: 22
| Yes, I am scared of getting into a relationship with a man who has children (also depends on how old he is, etc). That's a huge red flag for me. #1 I don't particularly like children myself (stems from being old enough to remember my brothers as infants who were collic... those boys did nothing but scream and cry every 5 minutes!).
My aversion is mostly with infants and very small children (which pretty much emcompasses everyone my age). It has a lot to do with being responsible and making good life choices. When I hear of a man who's never been married and has 2 children out of wedlock with 2 separate women, that just screams "irresponsible" in my mind.
I think children put an unnecessary strain on a relationship, when relationships already have the potential for so many strains. It could also be a jealousy factor. I've still retained a kind of Id mentality (the my, me, mine, and right now) and anything that separates or takes a man's love away from me is seen as a BAD thing. I can deal with his love for cars, machines, war, sports, and whatever else men are into. It's great that your kids are #1 in your life, but I need to be the #1 love in a man's life.
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