| 1/30/2008 2:25:59 PM | Boyfriend and Exboyfriend problems | |
cassieleisweety
Cape Girardeau, MO
age: 19
| So, I'm still really good friends with my ex boyfriend... he's in the army and wants me to come see him in texas on my spring break... but i have a new boyfriend now.. and I dont know how ot ask my new boyfriend.. or tell him taht i really want to go without making him mad... opinions on this please... should i go? or not go? how should i ask or tell or what? I really don't know what to do.
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| 1/30/2008 2:28:21 PM | Boyfriend and Exboyfriend problems | |
sea_dragon
Crystal River, FL
age: 31
| be upfront and honest. you cannot control your boyfriend's reaction, but at least you will have peace of mind.
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| 1/30/2008 2:30:25 PM | Boyfriend and Exboyfriend problems | |
cassieleisweety
Cape Girardeau, MO
age: 19
| but if he gets mad and forbids me to go.. should i not go? or should i go and just let him be mad?
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| 1/30/2008 2:43:12 PM | Boyfriend and Exboyfriend problems | |
maddog561
Boise, ID
age: 25
| first off he can't 'forbid' you. If you've been honest, he should know you're still friends/talk with your ex already right?
if you really want to go, i'd just tell him so he knows what's up. of course you can't control his reactions either 
just depends how reasonable the current bf is.
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| 1/30/2008 2:45:06 PM | Boyfriend and Exboyfriend problems | |
sea_dragon
Crystal River, FL
age: 31
| forbid you?  you are your own person to make your own life choices. if your boyfriend really cares about you, he will support your wants and needs. if you conceal and go, then you will have guilt. if your boyfriend finds out, then it will destroy trust.
[Edited 1/30/2008 2:45:25 PM]
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| 1/30/2008 2:45:25 PM | Boyfriend and Exboyfriend problems | |
cassieleisweety
Cape Girardeau, MO
age: 19
| yea, he knows we talk, but him and my ex used to work together and they both hate each other... but i have ot go.. but ill check this topic tomorrow.. sorry to post and run...
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| 1/30/2008 2:48:19 PM | Boyfriend and Exboyfriend problems | |
faith32
Bedford, IN
age: 48
| cassie, would you be OK with your boyfriend going to see an ex of his? If you answer yes to that then go, but don't be surprised if your boyfriend becomes an ex.
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| 1/30/2008 3:17:44 PM | Boyfriend and Exboyfriend problems | |
cmjanew
Sayre, PA
age: 48
| You have no problem here. Just be ready for the consequences and accept them. They will be tied directly to your actions.
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| 1/30/2008 3:21:50 PM | Boyfriend and Exboyfriend problems | |
bassman1959
Santa Rosa, CA
age: 49
| He can't control what you do. However, you need to ask yourself what is important to you. The signal you are sending to me is that you still haven't set your old boy friend free. So, the new BF isn't really that important.
If I was your BF, I would just tell you to do what you think is right. If you went to see your old BF, I would be looking for a new girl friend.
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| 1/30/2008 3:57:36 PM | Boyfriend and Exboyfriend problems | |
thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
| Reverse the situation and think about if he wanted to see his ex, and be totally honest with yourself of how you would react. There's your answer.
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| 1/30/2008 4:57:08 PM | Boyfriend and Exboyfriend problems | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| well, occasionally I forget about being young....
It sounds as though out of immaturity Boyfriend #2 is likely to have an issue with you going.
Boyfriend #1 shouldn't have to be focused on Boyfriend #2 or any game playing from a little girl he left at home while he's serving us - so
in the interest of becoming a fine young woman listen...
Lesson 1 - NO MAN FORBIDS YOU - except your daddy and your God.
Lesson 2 - any man who tries - is no good - get out.
Lesson 3 - if you feel you have no choice and must go to Texas - are you going to see HIM or are you going cuz Spring Break in Texas sounds HOT and you figure you can make Boyfriend #2 forget it when you get home.
None of these are judgements - you gotta do what you gotta do - but be a woman and be honest about what the truth is with BOTH men.
It makes you a GOOD woman.
And one who is Mature enough to be handling relationships of this type with 2 men who deserve your respect. 
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| 1/30/2008 5:03:51 PM | Boyfriend and Exboyfriend problems | |
italianlady05
Omaha, NE
age: 53 online now!
| Hmmm...I just can't see this working...you pretty much know that if you go, BF #2 is going to be pissed...and I can't say that I blame him. Are you trying to make trouble here? If you really want to see BF #1, then go, but don't be surprised that you won't have #2 when you get back..JMO
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