Forums: Relationships: Why are guys bothered by a woman that brings home more money?
2/2/2008 8:05:52 PMWhy are guys bothered by a woman that brings home more money? 

skylark2627
Eldridge, IA
age: 28

Let's just say...I've got my shit together. I am fairly young, own my own house, have a nice car, have a high-powered job, know where I'm going in life...etc. This seems to intimidate a lot of guys that I date. I've also noticed that it bothers a lot of the guys that I date if I make more money than them. Why is this? Does this really matter? Men, what are your thoughts on this, and, ladies, have you experienced this?

2/2/2008 8:15:39 PMWhy are guys bothered by a woman that brings home more money? 

dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 45

It doesn't bother me a bit. Nice that you have your stuff together and you have a good job. It sure makes life easier if you and your partner both have good jobs and good financial sense.

I guess some guys find it hard to deal with because society has always said they should be the major bread winner. They feel they should take care of the lady.

I welcome a good lady with a good job. As long as I get to see her once in a while. It would be sad to have a bunch of disposable income and no one to spend it with because she is always working.



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2/2/2008 8:28:57 PMWhy are guys bothered by a woman that brings home more money? 

ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 41 online now!

As long as you still allow me to open doors for you and pick up the tab from time to time it's all good

2/2/2008 8:34:00 PMWhy are guys bothered by a woman that brings home more money? 

dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 45

I like that Geo.

Good point, The man still needs to feel like a man. You can't allow yourself to belittle him. If you do, he will rebel. Please don't keep throwing it in his face. And when in public, don't let anyone know. The man will feel like less of a man. Especially if you keep bringing it up.

Let us treat you like a lady as well.



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2/2/2008 8:38:17 PMWhy are guys bothered by a woman that brings home more money? 

kfab1023
Jacksonville, FL
age: 51

Hi dutchthat happened at times with me and my husband no big deal if you are secure it doesn't matter

2/2/2008 8:39:47 PMWhy are guys bothered by a woman that brings home more money? 

ricco34
Jacksonville, FL
age: 34

That wouldn't bother me at all either. They should accept you for who you are! A very beautiful young lady who knows where she's going in life, shouldn't be a bad thing. They may be nervous/jealous, who knows.

2/2/2008 9:00:54 PMWhy are guys bothered by a woman that brings home more money? 

apprscott
Westminster, SC
age: 44

Ok, that is it, lets get together. I dont descriminate because a lady earns more than me, heck just means she does have her shit together. YOu go girl

2/2/2008 9:02:48 PMWhy are guys bothered by a woman that brings home more money? 

krupa1
Abilene, TX
age: 40

As long as she understands that she has to have her own place just like I will have my place....I could care less what she makes. I prefer dating an equal.

2/2/2008 9:30:00 PMWhy are guys bothered by a woman that brings home more money? 

skylark2627
Eldridge, IA
age: 28

Thanks for the replies. You are giving me hope!

2/3/2008 6:25:37 AMWhy are guys bothered by a woman that brings home more money? 

allstadt
East Hampton, CT
age: 34

My marriage lasted 13 years and she always had more earning power than me, Partially because, early on, I worked while she attended school. We split most responsabilities 50/50. I made up for it with home improvements that built equity. Before she left we discussed children, the plan was that I would be the available parent because of the flexibility of my schedule vs. her earning power. In the end, I suspect one of the reasons she left was because she would have prefured to stay home if we started a family and we couldn't do that on my dime, not sure.

2/3/2008 12:11:57 PMWhy are guys bothered by a woman that brings home more money? 

cmjanew
Sayre, PA
age: 48

A Problem? A PROBLEM? NO Freak'n way its a problem. Bring it on. My Dream - at least one of them.

2/3/2008 1:16:45 PMWhy are guys bothered by a woman that brings home more money? 

bigdaddy86
Carbondale, IL
age: 24

<--- doesn't mind at all. I actually enjoy being a house wife.

2/3/2008 2:14:21 PMWhy are guys bothered by a woman that brings home more money? 

osoroho
Mesquite, TX
age: 57

Is your mother single? Willy

2/3/2008 7:50:06 PMWhy are guys bothered by a woman that brings home more money? 

huckleberrysqr
Renton, WA
age: 38

It doesn't bother me. I do ok for myself financially. I might not be rich, but I can take care of myself, and I love what I do. As a massage therapist, I make alot of money on an hourly basis, but that's tempered by the fact that I don't keep a large clientelle. There are very few wealthy massage therapists out there. I didn't get into it to become rich, I became one to heal people, and help others.
If I am with someone that makes more money than me, it's ok by me, so long as I'm not belittled by her for it.
I have a great passion for what I do, and will not change it just to go back to making better money. Keep up your hope hon, you will find the right guy for you. There are still some of us guys around that are smart enough not to throw a good woman away because of our egos.

Big bear hugs

2/3/2008 8:06:40 PMWhy are guys bothered by a woman that brings home more money? 

thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34 online now!

Some guys are intimidated by your description, some such as myself, not all intimidated.

Money doesn't make the person. Character and attitude in my book is #1 over money any day - doesn't matter how much a person makes. A person can make over 100k and could be an asshole, arrogant, have a mental problem, not sociable, don't have a heart, etc...

I would like to add that some women make the mistake of rubbing it into the man's face if they are in a relationship and marriage which will pose a problem and this happens. When things get tough, when debates or arguments happen, many women rub it in their mate's face from various angles.

And by the way, the #1 cause for divorce is FINANCES.



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