Forums: Relationships: What would you do?
2/2/2008 10:34:19 PMWhat would you do? 

kashmir9999
Gilford, NH
age: 42

I dated this woman about and we had great chemistry. Things went to fast and we had a bad break up over the kids and some trust issues. She even told me she never wanted to talk to me again. After time, we ran into ran into each other and would say hi. She started sending me e-mails and IM's, hell, she even started cutting my hair again (she is the only one I can find who will do a good job, she know just what I like). She was telling me this week about a school play her kids were in. She called me about an hour before the play to see if I was coming, and told me she would save me a seat. When I got there, it seemed like she was trying to hold my hand. After the first act, she had to stop, to clap.

I guess I'm really confused by what she said when we broke up, and how she acted tonight and what I should do. How would you take all this?

2/2/2008 10:37:48 PMWhat would you do? 

chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47

Sounds to me like she wants to get back together with you. Be upfront and ask her otherwise you'll keep on wondering.

2/2/2008 11:05:25 PMWhat would you do? 

kashmir9999
Gilford, NH
age: 42

I do have to admit, I do miss her and would love to spend more time with her. Maybe a second time around, and we can take it a little slower.

2/2/2008 11:15:02 PMWhat would you do? 

dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 45

I think you just answered your own question. She may not have been ready for a relationship the first time around. Sounds like you like each other. Continue dating her and take it slow. Good Luck.

2/3/2008 6:21:14 AMWhat would you do? 

fishingmtgirl
Great Falls, MT
age: 38

Sounds like a good goooooo, but go slow my friend.....very slow....

2/4/2008 11:14:34 AMWhat would you do? 

angelzzs
Laconia, NH
age: 33

I wouldn't jump into it like you already know her, start it like it is a new relationship for you and leave the past where it is, in the past... but i would go for it and well good luck...

2/4/2008 12:31:50 PMWhat would you do? 

gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45

Sounds like "do-over" to me....give it a whirl if you're interested....

2/4/2008 12:41:23 PMWhat would you do? 

hotpockets
Maple Shade, NJ
age: 53

Sometimes..a second chance is all we need to see and evaluate how the situation will unfold ...she may agree or disagree, that is human nature...beware of you boundaries according to her family...(you being the outsider)....apparently she likes your company...go with it as everyone has said...see it slowly take a form and enjoy.
God luck!



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2/4/2008 1:41:05 PMWhat would you do? 

pichick712
Brookhaven, PA
age: 50

She is trying to get back together with you. YOu have to decide if you want that. if there are unresolved issues, you need to discuss them BEFORE you get back with her.

2/4/2008 1:56:07 PMWhat would you do? 

katiescarlett72
Justin, TX
age: 35

I can't tell you what to do romantically, but my advice as a human being is to flat-out refuse to be around her children one more second until you have a solid relationship built. If she's not going to protect her kids from her revolving-door love life, then someone should step up to the plate.

2/4/2008 2:25:46 PMWhat would you do? 

kenb5b01
Northport, WA
age: 44

Without knowing where the trust issues lay, (your trusting her or her trusting you) it's a difficult question to answer.
But it sounds like one of two things is happening:
#1) She is giving you a chance to show her that people can and do change. I recommend that you go really slow and keep it real. Be honest and upfront; don't leave any room for doubt in your actions or intentions.
#2) She has realized that she may have made a mistake and wants to make amends. Sometimes people put up walls and feel they have to be deceptive in order to protect themselves. Later they realize it was a mistake and have regrets. But the same advice applies. Keep it real and take it slow.

Just my 1.5 cents.

2/4/2008 2:37:05 PMWhat would you do? 

sea_wench1
Chandler, AZ
age: 55

Sounds like she still has feelings for you.. just cause you had a fight doesn't mean the feelings go away...( wink ) go for it....!

2/4/2008 4:23:21 PMWhat would you do? 

magtag
East York, ON
age: 41

Have to agree with most of the other posters here.
If you are interested in maybe trying again, then do it. Just go slow and be open and talk about it with her prior to getting into it again. Make sure you are both on the same page and looking for the same thing and will be going at the same pace.
I would suggest keeping things platonic around the kids until you are sure this is going to work out...kids need stability and security so tread carefully with them. They're precious.

2/4/2008 4:30:52 PMWhat would you do? 

sitkarains
Sitka, AK
age: 48

It sounds like you have a handle on what went wrong the first time around. I would start th is relationship how you are going to continue. First of all Talk to her, Be as open and honest as you can possibly be. I would also go very slowly..

Sometimes Time heals all wounds other times it just glosses them over. I would be cautious, and I would develop great communication with this lady

Good luck

2/4/2008 4:37:26 PMWhat would you do? 

skypoetone
Lincolnshire
United Kingdom
age: 56

Talk about what she wants in the relationship, if it resonates with you then you’re on to a keeper... plus you save a few bob not having to go to the barbers... j/k... good luck, hope it works out for you both.