Why do men do this.....

2/5/2008 12:14:14 AM	Why do men do this.....
owensborogirl Owensboro, KY age: 44	Why after talking to you on the phone,about everything. And agreeing you have alot in common.....You meet with these men and bam.....nothing. They like you on the phone and like your personality....I don't think it is worth talking to these men, letting them know what you want in a relationship only not to even get a call saying,"I don't think we are going to click." I thought these men were supposed to be grown. Well shame on me.It won't happen again.
2/5/2008 12:22:43 AM	Why do men do this.....
thepirate1969 Greenville, NC age: 37	I think that the mistake is expecting a relationship without having actually met them!!! Do things gradually. Go out have fun. If they are worth it, then you can start thinking of something more... Untill then enjoy, get a free dinner or a free drink, explore your options. PS there is no such a thing as a grown up man. We are still big mama's boys even when we are in our sixties!!! You need to be patient with us!!! I already know that this statement will rise a lot of controversial comments!!!
2/5/2008 12:26:40 AM	Why do men do this.....
owensborogirl Owensboro, KY age: 44	We did go out. I guess I picked the wrong men My son is more grown then some the ones I have met here.
2/5/2008 12:36:53 AM	Why do men do this.....
thepirate1969 Greenville, NC age: 37	I can only suggest you to stay away from those that love dancing bananas, they are "less grown up" than the rest of the bunch!!! Do not despair, and keep going out without too many expectations. Have fun. Concentrate on having fun and explore the human nature.
2/5/2008 12:49:03 AM	Why do men do this.....
eagleeyes7 Fort Myers, FL age: 60	I'n stil up, and taking a look at these strings as I have time, and this one is of particular importance, at least to the ladies. Unfortunately, there are a lot of men who say one thing and then when it's time to "deliver" find that they aren't really prepared to make even the smallest committment! That is indeed unfortunate, and creates the rift that has become a chasm between men and women. Many men like to tout how sensitive they are, how willing they are to go the the next "level", and when it stares them directly in the face, they lose the will and strength to keep their word. They RUN SCARED!! Scared that what they said that they want is right in front of them, then they have second thoughts, make lame excuses, find stupid reasons to "not be able to make that decision now" and really hurt and disappoint a lot of the ladies who really want to take them at "face value". When confronted by the reality of actually realizing what they claim to seek is at hand, all of the sudden there are so many reasons that it just can't happen now. This is a sign of immaturity, insecurity, and desire to feel wanted, accepted, and sought out as special. When, in truth, they say what they feel is going to make the lady commit to voicing her desire to "BE with them". Sometimes that is all that they really want! I'm seeking, but not promising, and although I have some pretty strict standards, I know that when the RIGHT lady comes along, I will put EVERYTHING ELSE aside, just so that I don't lose her to a shallow promise from a man who creates his own facade!! One suggestion that I have for you is: Post a picture of yourself, so that we can guage better just WHO you are, and why it is that this is happening to you. Just a thought> [Edited 2/5/2008 1:01:27 AM]
2/5/2008 1:02:44 AM	Why do men do this.....
thepirate1969 Greenville, NC age: 37	hey, hey, hey, eagleeyes, I am very sensitive, and very much in touch with the feminine side of me (for what is possible!!!) still I am not even remotely thinking about going to the next level with anybody!!! Not in the nearest future at least!!! [Edited 2/5/2008 1:05:23 AM]
2/5/2008 1:15:49 AM	Why do men do this.....
owensborogirl Owensboro, KY age: 44	eagleeyes very good. Men need to read this also. As far as a pic I only have one of the leggs. the others didn't turn out.
2/5/2008 3:11:40 AM	Why do men do this.....
tsoprano81 Colorado Springs, CO age: 27	owens it is so hard to find that one that you have so much in common with. when you do, embrace it and great things will happen. never give up. i would say just dont give all of yourself right away, take it slow and get to know the person.
2/5/2008 10:42:50 AM	Why do men do this.....
thepirate1969 Greenville, NC age: 37	mmmmm.... those eyes... did you read the thread on Asian women?... enough to build up an immense sense confidence!!! Go read it and make some laughs
2/5/2008 8:02:57 PM	Why do men do this.....
chopperbabe Overland Park, KS age: 47	Instant messaging, phone call, etc isn't the same as actually meeting a person. Chemistry has to be there for any attraction. Expecting too high of hopes will only get you down. If nothing else perhaps you've made a friend
2/5/2008 8:28:46 PM	Why do men do this.....
flagal08 Lake Mary, FL age: 46	I agree with you!! Men run scared when they think that you have a real interest. I was involved with a long distance situation. It was mind blowing. We had such great chemistry and talked on the phone almost every day when we were not together. After six months he dumped me with a lame excuse that he thought everything was wonderful but it was like living in two worlds. His world with me and his world with his job, son and responsiblities. Every time we saw each other he said how awesome it was. He simply disappeared around Christmas after his last visit. Everytime we spoke on phone when he left my house the last time I thought we had worked things out. Then he would hide. Didn't have the courage to tell me that perhaps he was involved with someone else. Just never expected this from him. Guess I am not a good judge of character.
2/11/2008 10:03:11 PM	Why do men do this.....
smilingatyou007 Roseburg, OR age: 61	eagleyes, thank you. I have been saying this for two years about men. Thank you for backing me up on this one. That is sooooooooooooooo true.
2/11/2008 10:08:22 PM	Why do men do this.....
i3uddha Riverside, CA age: 30	physical attraction is an important factor to alot of guys... & ladies too. if you guys dont "click" physically - & hes not intersted - count it as his loss right? you have much to offer that certain someone who is interested.