| 2/5/2008 5:44:18 PM | Can we be friends? | |
alex4u
West Monroe, LA
age: 36
| How do you go back to being just friends with someone after it has been so much more than that?? Is it possible to be just friends again or should you just go your separate ways? 
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| 2/5/2008 5:57:57 PM | Can we be friends? | |
4321trucker1234
Niagara Falls, ON
age: 43
| I dated this girl soon after my wife and i seperated.We grew up together and known her longer than my X wife of 23 years. we dated for about a year and broke up she never talked to me for 6 mounths which bothered me because we where every good friends before that but never cheated on my wife ever I guess what im saying is that its possible I did it but took a lot of work
[Edited 2/5/2008 5:59:20 PM]
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| 2/5/2008 5:59:53 PM | Can we be friends? | |
alex4u
West Monroe, LA
age: 36
| Thanks trucker. I just wasn't sure if it would be best just to let it go or to try to stay friends with him....still a little confused on the issue, I guess.
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| 2/5/2008 6:06:52 PM | Can we be friends? | |
kfab1023
Jacksonville, FL
age: 52
| sometimes it takes some work but I have been friends with someone I have been with for a long time I think if you are friends first then it can work good luck
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| 2/5/2008 6:08:20 PM | Can we be friends? | |
alex4u
West Monroe, LA
age: 36
| thanks kfab! That's just it, everything went a little too fast, but I was just hoping maybe we could still be friends on some level.
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| 2/5/2008 6:12:38 PM | Can we be friends? | |
susyk65
Appleton, WI
age: 43
| Alex.....
If it was so much more than it will be ever again....it will hurt you more if you stay friends. I would go your own way, meet new people, and in the long run you will be much happier.
You are much better than that. Start new....
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| 2/5/2008 6:25:11 PM | Can we be friends? | |
bassman1959
Santa Rosa, CA
age: 49
| Alex,
I doubt that it can happen. I know I could never do it. I would wonder if those that say they have really put much effort into the relationship to begin with. It take two people that really want to have a good relationship to make it work. If you both can be friends after you break up, WHY break up? What is a friend? To me that is a person you can trust and count on. All my relationships ended because they couldn't be trusted or counted on when they were needed the most. So, they wouldn't make very good friends.
Lose your ex and old BFs and move forward.
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| 2/5/2008 6:27:05 PM | Can we be friends? | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| I think this depends on how much more you've been...sometimes you can't go back, it's like un-doing the squirt of toothpaste....
You dig?
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| 2/5/2008 6:27:56 PM | Can we be friends? | |
alex4u
West Monroe, LA
age: 36
| well, Bass it was my idea to end it. But he said that no matter what happened he would still like to be friends with me-he said this in the beginning. So, should I take him at his word?
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| 2/5/2008 6:30:35 PM | Can we be friends? | |
newinil
Carlock, IL
age: 36
| Is he seeking friendship or benefits?
Only you and he can answer that, and make your decision from there.
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| 2/5/2008 6:30:45 PM | Can we be friends? | |
alex4u
West Monroe, LA
age: 36
| Thanks, Gonesailing. We were so much more  But it was all just happening too fast for me. I think I got scared and ended it. Now I am wondering if we can still be friends or should I just not ever call him again. I don't think he will call me because the last time we spoke he said he did not want to pressure me, that I could call him if I wanted to or needed to.
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| 2/5/2008 6:32:50 PM | Can we be friends? | |
4321trucker1234
Niagara Falls, ON
age: 43
| Alex
thats what happened to me went a little to fast and to soon and we both relized that maybe thats why we are still friends.
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| 2/5/2008 6:33:30 PM | Can we be friends? | |
alex4u
West Monroe, LA
age: 36
| newenil- he said he would always want to be friends if things didn't work out.
Thanks, trucker. I guess I should be more careful what I wish for??
[Edited 2/5/2008 6:35:05 PM]
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| 2/5/2008 6:34:26 PM | Can we be friends? | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| Sorry I had to add something here...sometimes in sharing the level of intimacy reaches too deep....
That's a hard thing to pull back away from once you've crossed that line.
I'll even share a personal time for me which I usually frown on, but this particular time was really special and magical and had depth but...totally messed up a friend.
Had been friends for a very long time with this guy, really long time - friends, good ones. Admired him on a number of levels. Artisitically - brilliant...musically his acoustic guitar playing alone the things of dreams...He was nothing but brilliant...
To me. But always a friend.
Well one evening...changed it all...ok, little bit to drink but not enough to say drunk - we weren't. We both knew what we were doing...
Slept totally wrapped around each other - one of those sleeps where you have no idea where your body ends and his begins...and on waking up that way I thought to myself "oh my God what have we done??!?!?!" he woke more gently and that was beautiful too...but eventually the time came to leave the magic circle bed had made....and dress, and leave...
and as he drove me to my home...the silence inside the cab of that truck was TANGIBLE.
I lost him, a friend that night.
We faced each other three days later and realized what we had done had stopped any chance we had of undoing it...
To this day I'd rather have his friendship than the memory of that one night - even as beautiful as that night was....
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| 2/5/2008 6:35:42 PM | Can we be friends? | |
4321trucker1234
Niagara Falls, ON
age: 43
| It also depends why he is the X so its hard to say
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