Forums: Relationships: Do other people influence how you feel about someone
2/5/2008 8:25:56 PMDo other people influence how you feel about someone 

pisceslady30
York, PA
age: 30

Do you ever doubt a relationship you're in because of other people, do their opinions matter when you're seeing someone be it family or friends?Just wondered what other people's thoughts are.

2/5/2008 8:29:26 PMDo other people influence how you feel about someone 

missyroo375
Suffern, NY
age: 21

Yes it has happened for me,my sister is like a second mother to me,But I never forget to think about whats going to make me truly happy for myself not just what other people say is best for me.But in a way it has help me to hear other advice

2/5/2008 8:32:37 PMDo other people influence how you feel about someone 

missyroo375
Suffern, NY
age: 21

but for the most part it all comes down to what I'm going to do,its up to me,sometimes hearing more advice can make me more confused alsoit goes both way's for me
I don't know if I should say this or not but it helps me to pray about alot of things that I can't seem to make up my mind about even after advice

2/5/2008 8:32:40 PMDo other people influence how you feel about someone 

tsoprano81
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 27

sometimes it can but it should never be. you are the only one that really knows how the other person is. its nice to get opinions from other but in the end the choice should be yours no matter what anyone else thinks.

2/5/2008 8:53:09 PMDo other people influence how you feel about someone 

nicrkitty36
Lake Worth, FL
age: 37

i like my friends alot and spend alot of time with them.....so i think its important that they get along with my guy......and i get along with his friends too..... is it the end all be all?? no.....but i value thier veiws on my guy.....because i know they have my best intrest at heart.....

2/5/2008 8:59:50 PMDo other people influence how you feel about someone 

lovesflowers2
Fort Smith, AR
age: 47

My friends can see what I can't because of the blinders that are put on in the begining of a relationship...now do they make the final decision for me...no...I'm quite capbable of handing that one....

2/5/2008 9:06:11 PMDo other people influence how you feel about someone 

chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47

No, for I married them anyways. Just like me telling them my thoughts and it went through one ear and out the other. You can point out things in general and let them decided but accept their decision. One way to bring the two of them together is to try and push your friend's interest away.

2/5/2008 9:23:47 PMDo other people influence how you feel about someone 

dena214
Altoona, PA
age: 38

there are always gonna be people trying to influence you because they care about you but dont let it affect your views ive been ther and remember not everyone wants to see people happy misery loves company be careful and smart

2/6/2008 9:41:20 AMDo other people influence how you feel about someone 

ethie
Brentwood, NY
age: 39

The only persons advice I listen to about someone I'm dating is my mother.
That's because in most cases, My so called friends have uhderlying reasons for the comments they may make about someone I'm interested in. But Mommy is just keeping it real. She has my best interest in mind.

2/6/2008 10:39:24 AMDo other people influence how you feel about someone 

ferrari348
Milford, OH
age: 47

ethie...oh how true It can be a twisted lot...

2/6/2008 10:41:50 AMDo other people influence how you feel about someone 

mindyb
Park Rapids, MN
age: 43

Never!

2/6/2008 12:13:58 PMDo other people influence how you feel about someone 

jules34
Quincy, IL
age: 35

I have friends and family that are very wise and sometimes nudge me to open my eyes or remind me to be careful. It's easier for other people to be objective when I'm already emotionally attatched. That said I'm extremely stubborn and usually still go with my emotions anyway.

2/6/2008 12:17:48 PMDo other people influence how you feel about someone 

markmeunier
Timmins, ON
age: 41

If my friends decided to become that involved in my life to the level of making my decisions for me then I would be on the market for new friends. Regardless of any length of time we had shared. Family would be treated the exact same. No one can ever truly know how I feel, they will always add their personal inflection to the idea and I really have no intesrest in being other than myself. My life, my decisions. Honest input without ulterior motives may get a listen but never will it impair my own decisions.

Mark

2/6/2008 3:15:53 PMDo other people influence how you feel about someone 

rocket000
Murrayville, GA
age: 50

If you keep hearing the same concern amongst several trusted friends and/or family it would behoove you to listen. If the person you are dating has a history of lying, cheating, being abusive please don't walk but RUN. Don't be foolish enough to believe them when they tell you that you're the only one who "understands" them and they've never felt like this before. A leopard doesn't change their spots.