Forums: Relationships: i want to try this again guys {no jokes please}
2/6/2008 8:40:31 PMi want to try this again guys {no jokes please} 

radarlove28
Florence, AL
age: 28

im being truelly honest i dont know if i come on to strong on a guy or not and i would like to have some tips on this subject. just anything that a woman could do to make a man turn you down or run from you. this would help me out alot here...

2/6/2008 8:53:52 PMi want to try this again guys {no jokes please} 

elanabanana
Fort Lauderdale, FL
age: 24

What makes you think you're coming on too strong? You need to give us alittle more info if you want our opinions.

The best way to not "scare guys off" as most people put it, is to just keep it cool. Don't get all gushy after the first few dates, like tell him "how much he means to you" and stuff. Save these conversations for after he's willing to say he loves you.

I know one thing guys are scared of, and that's a girl who hears wedding bells after only a week of dating! LOL

2/6/2008 8:57:53 PMi want to try this again guys {no jokes please} 

radarlove28
Florence, AL
age: 28

i dont know what it is but some people say i come on to strong. and they want tell me they just change the subject. i dont know what im doing wrong. i never say marry me or anything like that. but i do joke around alot and stuff like that.

2/6/2008 9:01:44 PMi want to try this again guys {no jokes please} 

newinil
Carlock, IL
age: 36

You just answered it yourself. If your joking around about stuff like that, you might as well write the whole thing off. Thats not a joking matter.

If you joke about it in the beginning, how will he know when your serious.

I'm going to stop at that before I really start going off. Find something else to joke about with him.



2/6/2008 9:02:42 PMi want to try this again guys {no jokes please} 

radarlove28
Florence, AL
age: 28

my jokes are not bad they get a kick out of me. ok like this one guy i know for about three years. i like him alot. well one night i finally told him i want to be with him and it lead one thing to another. and he is my best friend but some reason why he is still hooked up on this wh*re who isnt worth nothen. she doesnt have a thing to her name but i got everything he could ask for and plus more. i feel like thats all guys are after is worthless skanks. whats up with this? how do i get his attion?

2/6/2008 9:11:14 PMi want to try this again guys {no jokes please} 

easy111
Prior Lake, MN
age: 55

Guys like to be told how funny and hot we are. We don't want to hear about crap you're going through at work or with your friends or relartives. We like you to talk about us. Stroke our egos and show interest in us. Flirt a little (not too much) we don't want you to sound needy.
Show interest in us. I personally don't like talking about my work that much I'm much more interested in talking about fun experiences in my life and would like to hear more about them in the woman that I'm talking to. I guess some guys like to brag about their toys and accomplishmeants but that's not me. Of course I'm older and material things I know really don't bring joy. So I recommend that you get yourself in shape, mentally and physically and just have fun. Stop trying to figure out guys just enjoy us. Like we enjoy women. We men have figured out long ago that women are soooo different from us that we....does anyone else want to finish this sentence?


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2/6/2008 9:17:02 PMi want to try this again guys {no jokes please} 

chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47

How would you be around your female friends??? Be the same with the males. Friendship first then perhaps the relationship will change. If not, you've got a friend at least. Trying too hard will make him go the other direction as it would for a female if it was in reverse. Just be yourself.

2/6/2008 9:33:04 PMi want to try this again guys {no jokes please} 

elanabanana
Fort Lauderdale, FL
age: 24

Your situation reminds me of a friend I used to have with the same problem. Everytime she got to know a guy, she'd like him. Then (because she's a very honest person), she'd flat out tell them she likes them. Then they'd dissappear.


Guys don't usually like it when a girl blurts out right away that she's crazy for them, and they're not even dating. It sort of makes them feel trapped, like you expect them to respond to you that they like you right away, and they haven't even gotten the chance to search themselves if they really do or not. It's like when someone comes up to you and says "I love you". You're automatic response is to say "I love you, too." But what if you honestly don't know how you feel about the person? They sort of feel like they're being put on the spot.


Now this friend of yours is someone you've known for years, right? So you'd think, since he knows me so well, I can be blatant with him. Right?

Not necassarily. You see, no matter how many years you've known him, he's thought of you as a FRIEND. You have to give him a chance to try and see you under a different light now. He has to take his time to decide whether he wants more or not. But whatever he decides, you have to respect it.

Even if his decision is to date "wh*res". It might not be the best decision he could make, but it's still his choice.

If he choses other "skanks" over you, then that's his loss. You shouldn't hang up on it. Cut your losses and move on.

2/6/2008 9:37:27 PMi want to try this again guys {no jokes please} 

classyguy333
West Fargo, ND
age: 57

Lordy! If I could only find a gal that would tell me she's crazy about me. I'd be in heaven.

2/6/2008 9:38:13 PMi want to try this again guys {no jokes please} 

radarlove28
Florence, AL
age: 28

thank you all for your help. if he trully wants me then he knows were i am at until its to late then i can slam it in his face.

2/6/2008 9:40:42 PMi want to try this again guys {no jokes please} 

elanabanana
Fort Lauderdale, FL
age: 24

LOL Class.

You don't count, Silly. I'm talking about IMMATURE men.


You know, men, who cringe at the though of a monogomous relationsip. Men who have to be dragged kicking and screaming to the altar.

2/7/2008 2:40:20 AMi want to try this again guys {no jokes please} 

cmjanew
Sayre, PA
age: 48

Maybe '...the one thing that the other led to...' wasn't that great from his perspective.



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