| 2/7/2008 2:24:52 AM | Intelligent conversation ???? | |
donna63
Ringgold, GA
age: 45
| I have seen these words on so man profile and it amazes me every time I see it. Maybe it's my hair color or the fact that I have live a sheltered life but could someone PLEASE explain to me what is considered an Intelligent conversation.
Politics is always a no no even in marriage this topic seems to cause more fusses than conversation.
Religion see above same as politics
Current Events I've yet to get an email about anything going on it the world today, much less here in the US.
Books Does anyone really care to know what book(s) I have read in the last 10 years?
Sports Has always been considered a great conversation between men but when it comes to women do you really want to talk sports?
Family Never anything really intelligent when it comes to family, just concerns and love.
I ask this because I have yet to get an email about intelligent conversation, most take a day or so to find out as little as possible and then they want to meet. I don't have a problem giving out my phone number, talking on the phone, or meeting but for some reason I can't comprehend what Intelligent conversation mean. I'm clue less.
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| 2/7/2008 2:48:13 AM | Intelligent conversation ???? | |
mzzzwright
El Dorado Hills, CA
age: 38 online now!
| You are not clueless.. you are inquisitive, and it's a good thing.
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| 2/7/2008 2:53:57 AM | Intelligent conversation ???? | |
donna63
Ringgold, GA
age: 45
| "inquisitive" I love that, I need to add it to my profile.
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| 2/7/2008 3:00:45 AM | Intelligent conversation ???? | |
thankuvets
Oklahoma City, OK
age: 40
| Well, intelligent conversations can be anything to me, I like riding my bike, I live writing poetry, I like alot of things.
To me its not about yacking or jus a talking about nothing, or if you prefer a more ececltic tastes.. LOL
WOW, what a word..
I talk about what is interesting to me, and if meeting someone with "better" tastes I will talk to them, I am one that knows a little about a lot of things.
I am just me, love it or leave it.. I dont try to be what I am not..
Be who you are, that is the only thing that matters.
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| 2/7/2008 3:11:46 AM | Intelligent conversation ???? | |
donna63
Ringgold, GA
age: 45
| "ececltic" OH my show how intelligent I am what is ececltic?
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| 2/7/2008 4:17:39 AM | Intelligent conversation ???? | |
whalemstr
Corning, CA
age: 51
| Don't wanna be picky, but it's eclectic -
adj
1. varied: made up of parts from various sources
an eclectic collection of paintings
2. choosing from various sources: choosing what is best or preferred from a variety of sources or styles
an eclectic taste in music
Okee dokee!!
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| 2/7/2008 5:02:02 AM | Intelligent conversation ???? | |
cmjanew
Sayre, PA
age: 48
| I thought it was when the Irish got their wires crossed.
That just goes to show you.....I know a little about little, and less about electricity.
[Edited 2/7/2008 5:03:55 AM]
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| 2/7/2008 7:05:23 AM | Intelligent conversation ???? | |
flimsyman25
Alton, IL
age: 26
| Now, I've NEVER claimed to be anything other than a colossal dork. Regardless:
Politics and religion will cause more arguments than conversation . . . IF the people involved are incapable of discussing differing ideas rationally. As for myself, my ethics are very important to me, and they translate directly to my political and religious beliefs. If a woman is interested in me but doesn't care about my most important beliefs in any way at all, well, that's certainly her right. But I probably won't be interested in her.
Current events: See above. A person's opinion on an important current event can reveal a great deal about the depth of their intellect AND their character.
Yes, I absolutely care to know the books that you've read in the last ten years. Which have been your favorites?
I've never cared about sports.
Family: See above. If family is important to you, why shouldn't you discuss it? I don't know if I would call it "intelligent" conversation, but meaningful conversation nonetheless, no?
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| 2/7/2008 7:21:21 AM | Intelligent conversation ???? | |
huckleberrysqr
Renton, WA
age: 38
| donna, there's nothing wrong with what you've posted here.
Yes there are guys out there that think much the same as you. In some ways I kind of disagree with you though, at least for me.
I think discussing topics such as religion and politics are very important, simply because these are 2 areas I think a couple needs to be compatible with.
For example, I would want to know if someone was very far left or right of center in political thinking, because that person just wouldn't be a good match for me, so discussing that would be a smart move.
As for the religion thing, unless both parties are very very tolerant, coming from 2 completely different religions would be a serious difficulty. Especially if both people were very devout in their beliefs. So I would want to discuss a potential partner's religious and spiritual views to make sure that person was compatible with mine.
Now on to the good stuff. Like you seem to be, I'm an avid reader, so yes, I would love to know what books my partner has read, just like I would love to know what music they like, wether or not they are into things such as theatre, museums, opera, dance and poetry.
For me, I don't like to spend too much time writing emails back and forth with a potential date if they live close by. That would be because emails are don't give me a true idea of what the person is like. I need to be able to see into that person's eyes, and to read their body language for that.
That's why I think something like a coffee date fairly early on is a good thing. Luckily for me, I love coffee, and Seattle has an abundance of great little coffee shops LOL.
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| 2/7/2008 7:25:22 AM | Intelligent conversation ???? | |
yankeesweet
Aiken, SC
age: 58
| There you go...Flimsyman has got it...you talk about things that are
important and meaningful to you.
I watch the news every day, I am interested in what is going on in the
world. I am interested in the elections, the economy, the environment,
my sport, my business, my family, etc. These are all things you can
talk about and in the process find things out about the other person.
Take family, for instance...I had a really great childhood growing up...the
best anyone could ask for. Family is important to me and I would hope
whomever I am with it would be important they they come from a "stable"
family as well...so I WOULD be interested in having an intelligent
conversation about it.
Its not rocket science...its common sense and what you care about
as an individual.
Was this an intelligent post? I don't know  what do you think...
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| 2/7/2008 7:36:29 AM | Intelligent conversation ???? | |
nambrosia
Attleboro, MA
age: 26
|  I usually find that I myself have to begin any conversations. For a few exceptions I end up feeling like an ass when I'm half way through the convo, as i've initiated every single subject and have had little input. Those are the guys who may try and contact me again, but I've already given up. If a conversation with a person requires THAT much effort on my part with none being given from the other person, I'm really all set.
Of course, I just spoke with someone last night and he brought up the oddest things and I'm fairly certain it was some sort of test. I don't like being tested on the first bloody phone call, especially not blatantly by some guy who is trying to shock me. I sat through the entire phone call nearly silent just shaking my head in amazement. BTW, WTF is "modern-primitive lifestyle"?!? Sounds like a damn oxymoron to me. 
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| 2/7/2008 8:38:22 AM | Intelligent conversation ???? | |
katiescarlett72
Justin, TX
age: 35
| I'm with huck and grneyed (that's happening more and more often grn - WTF? LOL). IF you don't want to talk about any of these, then what exactly DO you talk about? Knitting?
I realize I'm not a guy, but here's my response to the topics you brought up nonetheless.
Politics is always a no no even in marriage this topic seems to cause more fusses than conversation.
I disagree. Politics is something that I often bring up. Here's why: how a couple disagrees from day 1 says a TON about whether they're compatible. Even if I don't see eye to eye with a guy about our political views, if we can disagree respectfully, then that is a huge green flag. I once went on a date with a guy who thought all political conservatives should be tied to the back of a VW bus, dragged to the Berkeley campus, and dumped in front of the Fidel Castro Building for the Continuing Study of Why America Sucks. The fact that he thought that wasn't the problem - the fact that he was an overbearing ass in stating his opinion WAS.
Religion see above same as politics
For me, my faith is important to me. I'm not dating an athiest or an agnostic. I'm not dating a Muslim or a Jew. I'm not dating someone who is a Scientologist, a Mormon or a Jehovah's Witness. I actually attend church every week and it's a big deal in my life and my kids' lives. If it's not something we can share, then we have a problem.
Current Events I've yet to get an email about anything going on it the world today, much less here in the US.
So you bring it up. Goodness knows there's a couple things going on.
Books Does anyone really care to know what book(s) I have read in the last 10 years?
I think for most guys, "read any good books lately" would seem like a really lame starter line.
Sports Has always been considered a great conversation between men but when it comes to women do you really want to talk sports?
If it's football, hell yah!!! LOL
Family Never anything really intelligent when it comes to family, just concerns and love.
I think I speak for a few of us when I say, "huh???"
I ask this because I have yet to get an email about intelligent conversation, most take a day or so to find out as little as possible and then they want to meet. I don't have a problem giving out my phone number, talking on the phone, or meeting but for some reason I can't comprehend what Intelligent conversation mean. I'm clue less.
I really mean this nicely, but I think you're getting out of it exactly what you're putting into it.
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| 2/7/2008 8:54:03 AM | Intelligent conversation ???? | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| The list of people I agree with in this thread is too long to list so basically everyone from green eyes down...
(I aslo am agreeing with green eyes??? Did the world tip?)
For myself - politics, and religion are important pieces of who I am and how I am, if we can't talk about those -then the guy is not the "RIGHT" one for me.
If it causes a fuss - I am OUT OF THERE.
In as much as I have my opinions and do not mind stating them I also am not into confrontation in my relationships. I love a good healthy debate but not a ______ kicking fight or brawl...
I read earlier this morning a thread where a man was saying he wanted us (women) to be telling him how hot he is and listening to his day and he had no interest in hearing about ours...it was basically all about him....?
Huh?
Gimme 50-50; 60-40, 30-70 give and take day by day because that's how life is...
If you can't speak intelligently with me it isn't going to matter one iota how good you think you are in bed.
Ecclectic.
Ecclectic.
Diverse.
Uncommon.
Having a varied number of attributes, not necessarily common ones.
That's a GOOD thing...
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| 2/7/2008 8:59:13 AM | Intelligent conversation ???? | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| Nah - sweetie - you're really growing on me!
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| 2/7/2008 9:08:04 AM | Intelligent conversation ???? | |
thepirate1969
Greenville, NC
age: 37
| For me, all can be intelligent conversation.
Pleasure to listen and statements of diversity, are all part of it. It is the desire to understand, agree and/or disagree and growing, shaking and questioning who we are and our beliefs. Anyone that engages me in this, makes intelligent enjoyable conversation...
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