| 2/10/2008 6:34:34 AM | Am I overracting or no? | |
lovelywmnofindy
Indianapolis, IN
age: 27
| hey all 
ok... i had planned to go out w/my sis. we were gonna go dancing. i invited this guy i recently met, to come along, more of a casual date i guess. well something came up and my sister cancelled. so, he and i decided to go shoot pool instead. the place we chose was a smoke free place, which was good since neither of us smoke. lol, neither of us had been there in awhile cuz the place was closed down.
so, i start to name off places we could go to shoot pool. he did not want to really go to any other place. so im like... ok...
i was very disappointed that he didn't want to go anywhere else. so we went our seperate ways at this point.
basically i don't want to talk to him again. i felt like he wasted my time. things don't always go as planned, but u roll w/the choices u got? right?
am i being petty?
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| 2/10/2008 6:42:14 AM | Am I overracting or no? | |
newinil
Carlock, IL
age: 36
| Maybe he was more interested in your sister? Might be a reach/Might not be.
Sorry if I seem harsh on this, but it may not have been that he didn't want to go someplace else, rather he didn't want to go someplace with you. He may have offered to go to the one place with you to not seem shallow, and was looking for a reason to not go out with you.
I don't know why he would feel that way. Don't know you well enough to make that kind of decision. (Notice I did not say judgment, it's not my place to judge you.)
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| 2/10/2008 8:02:38 AM | Am I overracting or no? | |
lovelywmnofindy
Indianapolis, IN
age: 27
| i understand, but he has no idea who my sis is and what she looks like.
i can see if it was a blind date, maybe he didnt like way i looked or if i was loud or lol goofy acting ... ok, but he initiated the whole "hangin out" thing. why invite if not really interested?
anyone else...
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| 2/10/2008 8:16:00 AM | Am I overracting or no? | |
tazzper23
Texarkana, TX
age: 45 online now!
| babygirl anytime u r with someone and they only have one thing in mind late him go . cause if he is total interested in you no matter where you go he would be happy as long as the both of u are together . women make that mistake of over looking the little thing that show them right off that a man is a good man are not
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| 2/10/2008 8:19:08 AM | Am I overracting or no? | |
sue614
Elkhart, IN
age: 54
| Maybe he'd been to those places and had a bad experience, or was afraid of running into someone he knew hung out there.
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| 2/10/2008 8:19:59 AM | Am I overracting or no? | |
ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 41 online now!
| Maybe he thought there were cues from you (sister conveniently cancelled leaving you two alone) and maybe was a little bit suspicious (or hopeful) that you wanted something more than just going out? The pool hall being closed probably got it clicked in his head that you weren't wanting a one-nighter since you didn't suggest your place or his place as one of the likely places to go. He was probably too bashful to suggest it on a first date?
Just a guess.
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| 2/10/2008 8:22:41 AM | Am I overracting or no? | |
stormygrl
Longmont, CO
age: 42
| Sounds like he felt safe at that place - like at the others he may run into someone - like hmmmmmmmmmm a wife or g/f. But if you didn't have fun then I wouldn't worry about it and just move on.
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| 2/10/2008 8:27:14 AM | Am I overracting or no? | |
soulcrazy
San Clemente, CA
age: 39
| you sooooo over reacted . why couldn't you see it his way? do you always have to have it your way ?this isn't burger king . try to compromise next time . that was very petty in my opinion. you must not really like him that much . jmo
soul
[Edited 2/10/2008 8:28:01 AM]
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| 2/10/2008 8:30:29 AM | Am I overracting or no? | |
nomad2
Falmouth, KY
age: 60
| JMO: GET OVER IT not everything goes the way we want it to !
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| 2/10/2008 8:32:22 AM | Am I overracting or no? | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| I'm a little clueless here...if the goal was to go out dancing with your sister, who bailed, and what does the smoke free issue have to do with any of it????
I don't think I"d be so turned off of a guy who didn't want to cruise bars that I wouldn't even speak to him.... simply for that ONE reason?
I think you were looking for an easy excuse to out a relationship when the truth is you weren't in to him.
You said it was casual.
When he didn't JUMP to do what you suggested - you took offense and found a way to blame him for not being "the One"
I think if you're honest with yourself you'll see - you weren't really all that into him and hence the easy choice to never speak with him again. You were more into you and not into him.
Which is fine...just admit that and don't blame it on his lacks...
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| 2/10/2008 8:33:38 AM | Am I overracting or no? | |
soulcrazy
San Clemente, CA
age: 39
| i agree with her
soul
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| 2/10/2008 8:55:57 AM | Am I overracting or no? | |
newinil
Carlock, IL
age: 36
| Any one else pick up on these contradictions?
Her original post "i invited this guy i recently met, to come along, more of a casual date i guess."
Her post in response to my first one "ok, but he initiated the whole "hangin out" thing. why invite if not really interested?"
Maybe its just me, but makes me wonder if there isn't more to this story that isn't being shared so we accurately give input.
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| 2/10/2008 2:04:26 PM | Am I overracting or no? | |
lovelywmnofindy
Indianapolis, IN
age: 27
| grneyedluvr... ur funny
soulcrazy... just stop it 
newinil... he wanted to meet me in person so i figured it would be cool to invite him out with my sister and i, we planned goin out sat night so i figured it was no harm in in him goin out with us. hopefully i cleared up my contradiction(s)
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ms. gonesailingbabe
my sister bailed. it didnt suggest cruising bars but named a few of them to pick from. there was no relationship to get out of, we just met. as far as him JUMPING, im not sure what u mean, after my sister bailed, he and i agree to go shoot pool. since neither he or i smoke it was very cool (IMO) to play billiards in a smoke free environment. oh and also cuz he didn't JUMP, what does that have to do w/him being or not being "the one"?
ah..
nomad2 it seems u agree with me
i thank u ALL for ur thoughts and comments
[Edited 2/10/2008 2:13:17 PM]
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| 2/10/2008 2:08:42 PM | Am I overracting or no? | |
lovelywmnofindy
Indianapolis, IN
age: 27
| tazzper23... i think ur dead on, thanks.
sue614... it's funny u said that, cuz i suggested some places downtown before hand and he did mention having bad experiences down there. thank you
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| 2/10/2008 2:41:35 PM | Am I overracting or no? | |
r_bogdewic
Ellsworth, PA
age: 30
| Hey lovely, take a xanax and chill for a moment. You really sounded like you were not really comfortable with your sister bailing on you, and that alone set a snowball effect faster and faster downhill.
You were already uncomfortable being all alone with a guy you just met. Sure that would make ANYONE uncomfortable these days. I would be. Who knows the outcomes and possibilities of atrocities that could've happened.
At the same time, who knows the outcomes and possibilities that could have come out for the better too.
You need to think about your actions as well, and not just what a guy did to "piss you off". Maybe he was uncomfortable as well, as he didn't know what to expect from you either (all horror stories that women put guys through as well.)
Maybe he felt his comfort zone, and by you being pushy and demanding to go to other places (you simply implying a few places over and over again IS pushy), you already scared him off way before you even found a way out of this already.
JMO, but as the old saying goes, "opinions are like assholes. Everyone has one, and they all stink".
Please don't be so insecure as well to defend yourself. You asked for opinions, and you're getting them. Just take them in and learn what you can from them (constructive critisism).
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