| 2/13/2008 10:52:07 AM | what is a soulmate | | 
wolf_man
Ada, OK
age: 44
| i have had several people that wanted me to post this in the regular forum so everyone could see, and get a aspect on some of the beliefs of what a soulmate is, so here it is
Many theories exist as to what is a soulmate. The original roots of the concept go back to a belief in reincarnation. A soulmate is someone that you have encountered in many different life times and have loved many times. That’s why the first time you meet them in this lifetime you feel as if you have known them forever before you even knew their name. There is a mystical deja vue energy right from the start. Can you have more then one soulmate during your lifetime? Originally, the answer was no. As the definition of the word soulmate has changed, so has that answer. People’s religious and spiritual beliefs deeply affects how they view the concept of soulmates.
First let me give a very basic explanation of reincarnation so that within that context the various theories as to what a soulmate is and how many you can have in one lifetime will make more sense. The core belief regarding reincarnation is that the creator castes the souls down onto the planet to live out a number of lifetimes until a bunch of predetermined lessons have been learned. Once those souls have finished learning all of their lessons, then they no longer have to come back as humans and can move on to another level where they become guardian angels or spirit guides over those who are still living out their life lessons. There are as many different variations on this concept as there are religions.
There has been a lot of research done to try and better understand the whole concept of past lives. You can find thousands of stories of people who have never met that remember the exact same lifetime together. There are stories of people who under hypnosis are able to recite details about a past life that are later researched and proven to be accurate. The research is still going on and nobody has proven for sure that we do or do not live more than once. However, there are enough fascinating case studies to warrant further study and debate.
It was originally believed that soulmates are created when the creator takes a soul and splits it into two as it is caste into human form. Each half is supposed to learn the life lessons at their own pace. When the two halves sometimes cross paths during various lifetimes, they have a cosmic powerful bond because they really are of the same soul. They complete each other. They are often very much alike, and the intensity of the connection is too much for a mere human with emotions and issues to handle, so they painfully end up parting ways. When they both finish their lessons, they are both reunited in heaven and come together as a beautiful representation of love and unity. This is also known as your twin flame. Only one person is the other half of your soul.
Another belief within the reincarnation teachings is that we spend numerous lifetimes with the same group of souls so that we can learn through karma. In one lifetime someone might be your spouse and in the next they might be your twin brother and in the next they might be your worst enemy and so on. The idea is that through all of these lifetimes together you learn cause and effect, an eye for an eye, that what comes around goes around. You may have abandoned your sick mother in one life and in the next life she’s your husband and then abandons you. Now the karma string is cut and you can move on through your other lessons without owing that debt anymore. These karma-mates feel very familiar and intense when you first meet them. It feels like you have some predestined life goal together. You can have many different karma-mates in one life. You can definitely love a karma-mate in numerous lifetimes and to some extent it can be easier then loving a soulmate.
Loving a soulmate or twin flame is often difficult because we are not usually able to love and accept ourselves, so why would we be able to love the other half of our own soul? It is somewhat easier to love a karma-mate because they are not as intense, they usually have a karmic reason for showing up in our lives, and we have agreed to meet and fall in love with them in order to work together on a project. Karma-mates can be easier to love and easier to hate. Soulmates can be deeply psychically connected with amazing love at first sight stories that end in magical happily ever after scenarios. Unfortunately, we are not usually evolved enough to handle something so intense as another person sharing our deepest soul level. Older souls that have many lifetimes of lessons and enlightenment under their belts have an easier time accepting such a deep connection with another person.
Today, people use the word soulmate to mean anyone that you fall madly in love with and feel the heavens have blessed your relationship. There are people claiming that more and more soulmates are being brought together during this time in history so that they can unite their forces to bring healing and loving energy back to this planet. Since nobody can prove or disprove any of this, who’s to say that all of the great loves in your life weren’t all soulmates? It used to mean a very rare and cosmic match that shares your same soul. All love is sacred and holy no matter what you believe about reincarnation and soulmates. We are better off not trying to force it into any one definition or to create a bunch of dogmatic rules around who does or does not get to call their beloved by the name of soulmate. Beautiful love stories will always exist with or without reincarnation being proven true or false. Love at first sight will always exist. Love will always be a mysterious magical unknown that nobody can fully explain.
 Wolf
| | 2/13/2008 10:55:04 AM | what is a soulmate | | 
evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35
| Soulmate is what hollywood created in order for them to sell more movies.
| | 2/13/2008 11:01:19 AM | what is a soulmate | |
newinil
Carlock, IL
age: 36
| A soul mate is simply a term created by the gay and lesbian communities to justify themselves as a couple. The basis for their creating this term goes back to your original post.
The original roots of the concept go back to a belief in reincarnation. A soulmate is someone that you have encountered in many different life times and have loved many times.
They use that statement to justify their homosexual urges as acceptable and "Its not our fault that we happen to both be male/female this time"
Also the alternative to soul mate...Is Life Partner.
| | 2/13/2008 11:10:43 AM | what is a soulmate | |
wolf_man
Ada, OK
age: 44
| its like the old song, alantic rhythm section, sings- Imaginary Lover
| | 2/13/2008 11:23:48 AM | what is a soulmate | | 
im_geminigirl
Willard, MO
age: 44
| ty wolf...I'm glad that someone believes in soulmates...the word has been around since the beginning of time...before hollywood...before the alternative lifestyle movement etc.
oh btw...
gemini
| | 2/13/2008 11:29:06 AM | what is a soulmate | |
evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35
| The first time I heard the expression "soulmate" used by a friend, it was by a twenty-something Canadian woman who began an online relationship with an American in his late teens, moved to live with him, got pregnant, tried working illegally in the US, and eventually (I think) got married. This rather turned me off to the term. This didn't sound, to me, like someone pursuing their "soulmate"; it sounded like two people doing something terribly stupid and permanent because they didn't want to take the time to think through the consequences.
The popular idea of a soulmate, I think, has too much predestination wrapped up into it. It implies that each person has a member of the opposite sex somewhere in the world (but, miraculously, almost always within a few miles of where they're living) with whom they share a spiritual psychic link that means they're cosmically intended to spend the rest of their lives making each other happy.
This is good for fairy tales and popular fiction, but it's a bad way to approach romance. It means that there's one and only one person anywhere on the planet that you can be happy with, which is silly. It means that you'll be eternally joyful together while you're alive, which is wrong. And it means that each person and their soulmate are linked in some ephemeral fashion that gives them a perfect and complete understanding of each other, which is ridiculous. I've never even heard of a longtime-married couple who thought that their relationship was an embodiment of perfect understanding and communication and happiness.
The reality is that true soulmates are made, not born. Couples come together because they have shared interests and goals in life, and they build up from there. Communication is practiced. Understanding is developed. And the joy of being with each other fades an grows, fades and grows with each day that the two people are together. There's an initial illusion of magic because, let's face it, it takes most people years to find just one person who shares even fifty percent of their interests. But that's just statistics, not spirituality.
| | 2/13/2008 11:37:16 AM | what is a soulmate | |
wolf_man
Ada, OK
age: 44
| how come the older generation, you see couples all the time, that has been married 40 50 60 years, and see them kissing and hugging, walking down the street holding hands and still so much in love, and today its takes everything you got, just to keep a relationship going ?? lets here your point of view.
Wolf
| | 2/13/2008 11:38:52 AM | what is a soulmate | |
evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35
| Because they started out as strangers and gradually over time grew to love and respect each other and older generations possess more patience and aren't being force fed sex from every aspect of media and being trained that there is always something better out there for them.
| | 2/13/2008 11:44:05 AM | what is a soulmate | |
wolf_man
Ada, OK
age: 44
| i agree evil, i have allways thought its because to much media, and easy access people think
Wolf
| | 2/13/2008 3:34:54 PM | what is a soulmate | | 
katiescarlett72
Justin, TX
age: 35
| how come the older generation, you see couples all the time, that has been married 40 50 60 years, and see them kissing and hugging, walking down the street holding hands and still so much in love, and today its takes everything you got, just to keep a relationship going ??
I found this on the internet:
A man and woman had been married for more than 60 years. They had shared everything. They had talked about everything. They had kept no secrets from each other except for the fact that the little old woman had a shoe box in the top of her closet that she had cautioned her husband never to open or ask her about.
For all of these years, he had never thought about the box, but one day the little old woman got very sick and the doctor said she would not recover. In trying to sort out their affairs, the little old man finally took down the shoe box and took it to his wife's bedside. She agreed that it was time that he should know what was in the box.
When he opened it at her request, he found two crocheted dolls and a stack of money totaling $25,000. Surprised, he asked her about the contents.
"When we were to be married," she said, "my grandmother told me the secret of a happy marriage was to never argue irrationally. She told me that if I ever got angry with you, instead of venting my anger, I should just keep quiet and crochet a doll."
The little old man was so moved; he had to fight back tears. Only two precious dolls were in the box. She had only been angry with him two times in all those years of living and loving. He burst with emotions of surprise at the thought of how much he had pleased his wife all those years.
"Honey," he said, "that explains the two dolls, but what about all of this money? Where did it come from?"
"Oh," she said, "that's the money I made from selling the dolls."
| | 2/13/2008 4:12:55 PM | what is a soulmate | |
im_geminigirl
Willard, MO
age: 44
| 'Captain and Tennille'
Good lookin guys come a dime a dozen
Try to find you one who's gonna give you true 
I don't believe everything I read here or anywhere else...when the media hijacks a perfectly good thing and corrupts it...I don't believe that we should throw the baby out with the bath water.
| | 2/13/2008 5:25:25 PM | what is a soulmate | | 
truckersmother
Campbellsville, KY
age: 62 online now!
| everyone has an openion, I had a soul mate, and He died three weeks ago after 46 years, and when you loose someone like that you lose all reality, about other things, and you feel like part of you has died also
| | 2/13/2008 11:14:25 PM | what is a soulmate | | 
classytoo
South Australia
Australia
age: 61
| Hey, I believe a soulmate is someone you feel completely comfortable with, and yes I believe in past lives.
Sometimes things don't work with a soulmate in present lives I have found but you don't forget them.
I am just waiting to find mine in this lifetime
| | 2/13/2008 11:29:28 PM | what is a soulmate | |
dancinglynx
Reedsburg, WI
age: 44
| I agree,it's someone you do feel completly comfortable with. I also think that you can have more than one. I have met my soulmate from a previous life in this life, unfortunatly he's married in this life, but we're the best of friends. We both agree that we have known each other for a whole lot longer than we have in this life. we'll be together again somewhere down the road, till that life comes around, we truely enjoy being just friends.
| | 2/13/2008 11:52:29 PM | what is a soulmate | | 
blueyedsinger
Yuma, AZ
age: 45
| I believe I met my soulmate many years ago. I was a clerk in a Circle K and when he came into the store the mutual attraction was immediate. We never went anywhere with it because we were both married. Several years later I was bartending and ran into him again. I was single and he was engaged. Again nothing happened. A few years later I ran into him again and he was getting divorced. We started dating and eventually moved in together. He was born on the same day as I but a year earlier. The relationship was awesome. I never thought a relationship could be so loving, giving and unselfish. We were very much alike and I think that is what made it so good. In the end we parted but not because we fought but because his ex-wife told him to get me out of his life or she would take their baby out of state. I told him never to call me again because I was very hurt. Now 5 years later he is married again and I am single and he is calling me. It is very hard to say no, but I have to. I truly believe that years from now we may come together for good. Life keeps throwing us together for a reason.
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