| 2/14/2008 4:02:24 PM | Help , Is there is any out here ? | |
rmtucker
Stephenville, TX
age: 39
| Unfortunately after a 14 year relationship I also find myself not only single but without family.Ive waited over a year to begin dating, or should I say trying to build female friendships to see where they lead.Does a person such as myself have much of an opportunity to locate not just attractive,but family orientated, decent, women? Have any of yall, started good friendships or relationships here? I began this site a few weeks back, just to see if I could build some friendships here and have been speaking (wether on this site or via telephone) with a very limited amount of women. I did take a chance and met with one woman, however apparently she wasn't telling the truth on her profile nor over our phone conversations. I should have seen that one coming.I guess this is a multiple question series for me.
1) Have any of yall, done well here? friendships, relationships...
2) Your thoughts on after a year, I believe I`m ready, what would you do?
3) Have you started any relations that weren't local to you?
4) Any tips? I`m just trying to be myself, and be honest...
5) How do you think my chances are?
6) Constructive criticism is welcome, if your looking to slam someone ,be destructive,or not help, I`d rather you post your own topic...
Questions,questions,questions, but thank you for the advice all the same....
Lastly, if its extremely personal suggestion, I`d rather you message me directly..
A friend,
Tucker
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| 2/14/2008 4:26:11 PM | Help , Is there is any out here ? | |
rmtucker
Stephenville, TX
age: 39
| anyone here? lol
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| 2/14/2008 4:28:13 PM | Help , Is there is any out here ? | |
alemap
Waukon, IA
age: 40
|  Hey Trucker!
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| 2/14/2008 4:31:33 PM | Help , Is there is any out here ? | |
rmtucker
Stephenville, TX
age: 39
| trucker? im no trucker...lol im a tucker, but howdy !!!
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| 2/14/2008 4:33:01 PM | Help , Is there is any out here ? | |
alemap
Waukon, IA
age: 40
|  my fingers & my mind weren't working together again. Must be all the snow up here today
Just be yourself is all you can do...honesty is the best policy in my book. And after a year I would think you are ready too.
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| 2/14/2008 4:34:08 PM | Help , Is there is any out here ? | |
rmtucker
Stephenville, TX
age: 39
| snow????? no thank you, ive shoveled driveways and sidewalks, id rather sweat in the heat anyday
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| 2/14/2008 4:36:06 PM | Help , Is there is any out here ? | |
alemap
Waukon, IA
age: 40
| I would agree with ya...think I should move south too, but with the kids I guess that will have to wait a few years until they are out of school anyway.
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| 2/14/2008 4:37:47 PM | Help , Is there is any out here ? | |
arreis
Cottonwood, AZ
age: 46
| ...tucker....
1)yes it is possible to make good friends here...or at least, I feel that I have and I believe that you can too.
2)If you feel that you are ready, then you must be ready. We all work at our own pace and you should consider that when meeting a woman. Personally, It took me 5yrs.
3)Yes, and it is still a work in progress.
4)tips.....you have a great profile and many friends already. Give it time. The best relationships are founded on friendship.
5) The chances are great for all of us. Life is what we make of it.
6) Good~Luck
Oops...spelled your name wrong
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| 2/14/2008 4:43:41 PM | Help , Is there is any out here ? | |
rmtucker
Stephenville, TX
age: 39
| thank you ma lady
(tips, hat and winks)
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| 2/14/2008 5:36:01 PM | Help , Is there is any out here ? | |
r_bogdewic
Ellsworth, PA
age: 30
| One of the biggest tips is to look at relationships like the sales market, because we all do it all the times in our lives, seriously. Think about it, you want something really bad (anything really), e.g. a car. You're not going to show the car sellsman that you're too eager for that car right away (even though you want it that bad). You're going to hagle the salesman so he will lower the price. The salesman also plays mindgames with you too. He tries to manipulate you (in a manner of speaking) to make you feel that you should accept this car at the price "as is" because you won't value it as much if you didn't have to work hard to pay that price, e.g. the price of the merchandise itself. But you can make up for the cost value with the value of getting what you want on your terms.
Relationships are the same way. If there is a woman that you really like and you approach her, you're essentially selling yourself to her, and she's selling herself to you as well (and giving each other objections to overcome). How you do it though really makes you valuable in her mind or not. Will you value somepne like her if you had to work hard just to get her, and once you've gotten her, will you loose interest after a while, and "trade her in" for another woman. People, not just women, all think this way, but I just gave an alalogy to make it more understandable. (please by no means place a person on the black market and try to sell them)
Sometimes you get a person who may be a lemmon as well. They look very valuable at first, but the more you get to know them, the ugly side starts to come out.
Also, look at rejection as a way in a sales analogy. The more no's you get only lead you one step closer to that yes.
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| 2/14/2008 5:53:59 PM | Help , Is there is any out here ? | |
belladreams
Binghamton, NY
age: 38
| Bog, i am beginning to think that you hate women. After that one date it is like you are pointing the finger at all of us. You must remember not all women are that way. It took me seven years to get over the father of my child, but I never took it out on anyone. I was the one who was in denial. I am the one who had to pick up the pieces and move on and make a life for my son. I don't know what has gotten into you lately but you are definitely not the same person I used to know when we first talked in an email. You were so sweet and kind. What happened? If this keeps continuing with women, I am afraid that you are going to be alone for the rest of your life.  Instead of blaming yourself for everything, why don't you get off your couch and take a jog, clear your mind, and think things through. I have no idea what else to say to you, but you are not the same person I know. It seems like you are putting women down just because of that one date that you had. You need to lighten up and come to reality.
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| 2/14/2008 6:03:53 PM | Help , Is there is any out here ? | |
r_bogdewic
Ellsworth, PA
age: 30
| My bad Bella. You're taking that way out of context.....I don't hate women.....I love women. I wrote a topic called "Relationship Analogy"
This post was a quick post reply that I editied up and made more appealing in my other topic "Relationship Analogy"
Eay killer, calm down there sister, and take a valume.
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| 2/14/2008 6:16:43 PM | Help , Is there is any out here ? | |
rmtucker
Stephenville, TX
age: 39
| well obviously, we don't know each other, i don't recall ever speaking with you in any form,i`m sorry you thought i was down on all women, as i said, that was one women, i don't think i categorized all of yall into one lump sum, that'd be foolish, i was simply looking for advice into my own situation,if you've got issues or confused about who I am than maybe theres a format for that also. I am me, and I think I`m am a decent man, looking for advice from men, or women. Surely didn't mean to offend or put all women into my one time situation.an individual is just that an individual.
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| 2/14/2008 6:18:12 PM | Help , Is there is any out here ? | |
rmtucker
Stephenville, TX
age: 39
| BRAVO r_bogdewic !!! THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP MY FRIEND!!! AND IT DOES.
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| 2/14/2008 7:17:28 PM | Help , Is there is any out here ? | |
rmtucker
Stephenville, TX
age: 39
| any other opinions out here?
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