Forums: Dating General Discussion: Why do people exciept a friend's request and
2/17/2008 6:11:12 AMWhy do people exciept a friend's request and 

yepper12
Norristown, PA
age: 57

Why do people exciept a friend's request and then if you try to IM them they do not talk to you whats up with that??? I just do not understand.


2/17/2008 6:16:15 AMWhy do people exciept a friend's request and 

cyberangel45
Apalachicola, FL
age: 46

maybe they are working and can't chat, it has happened to me but I do send them a message explaining why .

2/17/2008 7:02:17 AMWhy do people exciept a friend's request and 

truegrace
Hagerstown, MD
age: 52

u have my email address talk whenever you want you know that

2/17/2008 7:53:28 AMWhy do people exciept a friend's request and 

gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45

Alex makes VERY good points!
VERY good!

I don't accept friends requests of people I don't speak to frequently.
I also do not have the time to chat online and I don't appreciate people asking me to chat that I do not know at all and have never spoken with - it's rude.

Develop a rapoort and some communication with an individual before you ask to be friends and be polite in determining when the time is to chat.

People get too pushy and aggressive and forget that this is no different than how you should behave in real life.

Manner!
Manners!
Manners!


2/17/2008 12:39:44 PMWhy do people exciept a friend's request and 

thankuvets
Oklahoma City, OK
age: 40

I do it sometimes, but it messes up my other stuff, so I usually only do it when I am not busy...

Email is fine for me, you can answer and talk just as fast really.. just delete them as you read them.....

2/17/2008 12:43:17 PMWhy do people exciept a friend's request and 

dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 45

Lot's of prople here don't like the IM system here. So try an EMail instead. I dislike the IM feature here and will seldom use it.

2/17/2008 12:47:08 PMWhy do people exciept a friend's request and 

katiescarlett72
Dallas, TX
age: 35

I don't care how many friends I end up with on here, because it doesn't really give them any access to me that anyone else has. However, I find the IM function on this website really annoying and not user-friendly, so there's only a couple of people that I'm willing to talk to in DH IM.

2/17/2008 1:14:17 PMWhy do people exciept a friend's request and 

sitkarains
Sitka, AK
age: 48

I will accept a friends request I have and will again. I won't do the IM on this site.
It crashes, also if I am working and running several windows at the same time, It will freeze up my screen.
I also when I know you well enough will add you to my yahoo messenger. But IM'ing on here is for the birds.
I have even put a disclaimer on my profile somehow ppl can read my interests and such but miss that.

2/17/2008 1:52:50 PMWhy do people exciept a friend's request and 

garnetlady
Cincinnati, OH
age: 48

I use to use the IM here and have since disconnected. Why? Because men contacted me and wanted to talk dirty....not my game. Nor do I wish to talk to married men who want a bit of fluff on the side. Email is much easier to block and delete if I don't like the content.

2/17/2008 2:54:09 PMWhy do people exciept a friend's request and 

chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47

I have to get to know someone first before accepted a "friend" request. I just don't add to add. I'm not into the numbers game. Just like in the real world, I don't walk up to someone and say "Will you be my friend???". I have to get to know them and be in my comfy zone.

2/17/2008 3:26:49 PMWhy do people exciept a friend's request and 

thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34 online now!

They are busy doing something else

OR

They are chatting with someone else, talking on the phone with someone else, or communicating with someone esle and don't feel like chatting with you at that particular time.

You have to understand, women receive tons of notes and attention from thirsty guys. Don't take it personal. Move on to the next one.



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2/17/2008 5:08:04 PMWhy do people exciept a friend's request and 

skypoetone
Lincolnshire
United Kingdom
age: 56

OP, why do you think it's okay to IM those who are on friend's lists? Isn't it assuming a little more than you should... as others have said: 'It's polite to ask first'...

Imagine if you have a whole list of friends and they all want to IM at the same time...

I don’t know if it works the same way as yahoo/MSM or whatever, but I couldn't handle that...

I would be confused/have been, and at times it got embarrassingly so. Lol!



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