| 2/17/2008 6:39:04 AM | what to do about deleted winks/emails.... | |
yoolenspeegl
Laurel, MD
age: 48
| i'm not quite sure how to address this but....i've had a couple of really nasty emails when i've deleted someone's wink or message...i didn't realize they could see that ....
i'm not meaning to be hurtful, it's just that i'm not interested in that person for whatever reason.
first of all, how do they know they've been deleted?
secondly, what do you folks do for those you're not interested in?
clueless in md....
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| 2/17/2008 6:46:00 AM | what to do about deleted winks/emails.... | |
cmjanew
Sayre, PA
age: 48
| When you click on sent messages it tells if the receiver has read or deleted it. Deleted doesn't mean unread.
I guess I'd just "delete" the nasty follow-ups as well.
I don't recall deleting any of my received mails. I think they just go away after a period of time anyway.
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| 2/17/2008 7:36:03 AM | what to do about deleted winks/emails.... | |
l2kids44
Lanesville, IN
age: 45
| You can delete received messages by clicking on the box next to them then click on the delete button at the top. Sent messages show read,sent reply or deleted. They fall off as you acquire new ones or 30 days whichever come first.
[Edited 2/17/2008 7:36:24 AM]
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| 2/17/2008 7:52:09 AM | what to do about deleted winks/emails.... | |
harley68
San Antonio, TX
age: 39
| Welcome to DHU!
Don't worry about deleting your emails and winks. We all do it for one reason or another. I have stated in my profile I don't respond to winks or shadows, but I get them anyway. For those nasty emails, you can block them, when you read the email just click on block and they can't contact you again.
One more thing...
Be careful of opening pictures that are attached that you didn't ask for, you may get a surprise you didn't want! It happens to a lot of women, just block, block, block.
good luck, there's a lot of great guys here!
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| 2/17/2008 9:04:54 AM | what to do about deleted winks/emails.... | |
yoolenspeegl
Laurel, MD
age: 48
| thanks harley,
that makes me feel a bit better. i wasn't trying to be hurtful, just weeding out so to speak. i did figure out the "blocking" feature tho.
btw, i was born in san antonio...hot as fire down there!
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| 2/17/2008 12:27:56 PM | what to do about deleted winks/emails.... | |
thankuvets
Oklahoma City, OK
age: 40
| I read em and the ones I want to keep I save, the others I delete or let slide off. You can only save so many also.. So its just a matter of space for me..
Dont worry about it, if there that insecure, you dont want them anyway...
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| 2/17/2008 12:39:15 PM | what to do about deleted winks/emails.... | |
nashoba_miko
Oklahoma City, OK
age: 39
| I have 88 pages so far....I GOTTA go thru and start deleting.
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| 2/18/2008 4:09:09 AM | what to do about deleted winks/emails.... | |
thankuvets
Oklahoma City, OK
age: 40
| Writing to yourself dont count MIKO................ AND we know who most are from anyway..
Something to do with a bird I think.....
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| 2/18/2008 8:56:40 AM | what to do about deleted winks/emails.... | |
esirah
Roosevelt, NY
age: 37
| Clairvoyance on your part!  if the reaction is to send you a nasty email, then it just sounds like you made the right decision to delete the mail.
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| 2/18/2008 9:35:49 AM | what to do about deleted winks/emails.... | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| Sorry this has happened to you - it's one of the "perks" of having your own free will at DH - it's limited.
Block user on anyone who hassles you and don't allow yourself to feel guilty.
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| 2/18/2008 2:40:10 PM | what to do about deleted winks/emails.... | |
mrsmiles4444
Culpeper, VA
age: 52
| hey yoolenspeegl, is that where my winks and emails have been going to? My my, what a waste of goodtyping, great conversation, fabulous punch lines, and time, not to mention time it took me to write all those books i emailed you? you were to proof read them for a comment on the publishing.
just kidding, but had to put my 2 cents in. The delete feature is there for a reason.........................and if they don't like it.....well! they can kiss my........naaaaaaah I won't go there..........
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| 2/18/2008 2:47:03 PM | what to do about deleted winks/emails.... | |
michaelcee
Sarasota, FL
age: 51
| I will..... ASS!!
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| 2/18/2008 2:59:43 PM | what to do about deleted winks/emails.... | |
yoolenspeegl
Laurel, MD
age: 48
| thanks for the feedback..that was my gut reaction as well....
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| 2/18/2008 6:40:26 PM | what to do about deleted winks/emails.... | |
pleasurepirate
Shreveport, LA
age: 47
| .
if anyone's nasty to you, block-em and report them. no second chances. one-strike rule.
if you even think they'll be nasty to you, block-em. zero-strike rule. you're entitled!!
being here does not give anyone the right to be abusive to you.
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| 2/26/2008 3:02:47 PM | what to do about deleted winks/emails.... | |
barrydalmi
Baltimore, MD
age: 45
| It takes a lot of "courage" to put ourselves "out here" so to speak. So I tend to respond to whomever has written me....or winked (which I actually really hate). But I respond with a thank you,not interested, good luck with your search. Or we have a pleasant exchange and life goes on from there.
Sometimes (as I have done at times)...the persona may just be interested in something in your profile and just wants an answer to a question or something about you just clicked for them and they took the chance to reach out. A short thanks...but no thanks is the least I can do.
I think of this as the hallways of a building. Everyone who says hello to you isn't trying to jump your bones at lunch that day or marry you by the next Friday. They may just be looking for a soul with which to connect...if even for a brief moment.
That all being said...when I have been "blown off" by someone I tend to chalk it up to Karma and I'm glad I didn't waste further time on them anyway.
What we give to the "least" of us.... is what I learned.
We all want a millionaire Adonis or a nymphomaniac supermodel...but sometimes our soulmate...the person that is just right for us and will be there at the end of our days, happily, is that funny looking guy with the solid job who has love to give.
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