| 2/21/2008 8:05:35 PM | why do guys lie? | |
alludreemof
Springfield, TN
age: 51
| Women lie too...but why...I have no idea. I recently was asked to dance by a man who was on the surface super. He was a great dancer...and we hit it off from the start. But then at the end of the evening he gave me his card...with his home number crossed out and his cell circled. I looked at him as the red flag went up. "You are married" I stated. And to my surprise he said..."Yes I am". Then came the I'm filing for divorce and all that. So I handed him back his card...told him I had a great evening but call me when he was not married.
There are signs you can pick up on before you get too involved and one of the major ones is that cell phone and the ole always over at your house routine. On the internet....you have to watch conversation....married men won't talk about themselves in detail or their familys. They don't post pictures and they always have odd hours online.
[Edited 2/21/2008 8:05:56 PM]
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| 2/21/2008 8:07:02 PM | why do guys lie? | |
yummyballs75
Las Vegas, NV
age: 29
| Because women confuse us by the time they are done talking we don't even remember what we were saying in the first place.
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| 2/21/2008 8:45:57 PM | why do guys lie? | |
lusbty21
Tupelo, MS
age: 20
| You wanna know the reason I think guys lie...Because they want to feel in control..They don't want to feel like they are giving you all of them..But I mean that's one of the reason besides the fact that it's in their blood,they are greedy,they don't really have any kind of emotions..expect when it benefits them..They want every women..But they want them to love him and cherish him and think he's a god or something ...
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| 2/22/2008 7:24:23 AM | why do guys lie? | |
stevex86
Rush Springs, OK
age: 40
| Neither men or women lie; Liars lie!
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| 2/22/2008 9:53:26 AM | why do guys lie? | |
bottomdweller
Whittier, CA
age: 41
| absolutly! here -here!
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| 2/22/2008 10:19:01 AM | why do guys lie? | |
candy4u2
Chicago, IL
age: 37
|  men lie because they think women are stupid. My ex lied about going to the movies with his best friend and the friend was goin to ay for the movies, i had his passcode to his phone listened to the message and heard the girl's voicemail when i asked him about it he lied for 1 hour. so men think women are stupid
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| 2/22/2008 10:29:40 AM | why do guys lie? | |
sd_rob
Winchester, KY
age: 42
| nice one grneyed!
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| 2/22/2008 10:30:48 AM | why do guys lie? | |
bestlover
Wellton, AZ
age: 74
| ICEDSNOW I'M PROUD OF YOU.YOU STATED IT LIKE YOU KNOW IT IS.
I AM UPFRONT ALSO AND YES A LOT OF WOMEN CAN'T HANDLE IT.IT'S HARD TO FIND A WOMAN OF MY AGE AND ESPECIALLY AS I WONT SLIM TO AVGERAGE. THEY LOOK AT THEIR FRIENDS AND SAY I'M AVG TO THEM.ALL 40 TO 100lbs + OVERWEIGHT.I CAN BE A FRIEND TO THEM BUT NOT A LOVER.
GET OUT UR THRASHING STICKS LADIES.     
[Edited 2/22/2008 10:32:07 AM]
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| 2/22/2008 2:20:13 PM | why do guys lie? | |
bouquet
Temecula, CA
age: 63
| I honestly don't care "what size woman you simply must have" ~ Are there lines forming out side your door ? ~ Its very funny to me that you think you are sooooooooooo attractive to all sizes of women . 
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| 2/22/2008 2:32:37 PM | why do guys lie? | |
bry11ca
Canton, MI
age: 43
| Hmmm, why do men lie?
Because women ask questions for which there is no right answer? 
(Take cover, Bry)
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| 2/23/2008 6:30:00 PM | why do guys lie? | |
basicwoman1
Grand Rapids, MI
age: 49
| Becuz thay can...and us girls dont do shit about it.and when we do thay say i didnt lie,i didnt do that.or turn it around on you ,and try to make us look like the ass.
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| 2/26/2008 4:48:52 AM | why do guys lie? | |
levigirl44
Sayre, PA
age: 45
| there's a difference between a lie and a little white lie. It's true both women and men lie, most people lie to get what they want. Liars r shallow people,I'll never understand why people lie I think honesty is best especially if u want a relationship with someone because sooner or later that person will find out u r a liar so why lie does it make u feel good? There's nothing worse than a liar, cheater and a stealer. Once a liar always a liar, once a cheater always a cheater keep that in mind and move on hopefully u wont run into another liar.But good luck!
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| 2/26/2008 8:00:17 AM | why do guys lie? | |
carislove
Thornhill, ON
age: 29
| why do girls lie?
tsk tsk
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| 2/26/2008 9:20:30 AM | why do guys lie? | |
ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 42 online now!
| You know the old saying, "No good deed goes unpunished".
Before anyone judges and executes anyone for lying you really have to examine the cause and effect of this lie. Lying is an affect, with the cause being a culmination of how one was raised in regards to being honest, (i.e. was honesty rewarded or was the punishment less severe from your parents while growing up?) and/or is the persons defense mechanisms kicking in pertaining to the enabler (YOU). Yep I typed it, you could be an enabler and actual cause of someone lying to you. And the cause could be that you both aren't in a stable relationship. Definition of a stable relationship include:
* There is spoken and unspoken dialogue. It is frank and direct with space for difference in world views.
* There is empathy, that accurate under-standing of the other's world as seen, felt and understood from the inside.
* We are curious about how the other thinks as well as what they think.
* There is room for individuality and at the same time the couple is unambiguously cohesive.
* Power is thus distributed equally and conflict handled transparently through negotiation, without force or threat.
* Each can fully express strong emotion and deepest fear without abuse or causing harm.
* They show consistent discipline with the kids, not involving them in the normal disagreements of the adults.
* There is forgiveness and redemption, which releases each without charge, from bondage to past, present or future.
* Together, these provide conditions hostile to dishonesty and entrapment and welcoming of deep democracy.
If you both are not working on and improving any of these factors, well, no wonder why there are lies abound.
Disclaimer: Any mental or psychological dis-ease changes things dramatically.
So to sum it all up. Reward honesty at all costs. Honesty isn't its own reward. The reward has to be added. All that is really needed is that honesty be praised. You can work on forgiveness which is a different thread.
[Edited 2/26/2008 9:20:46 AM]
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