how do i get back out there

2/19/2008 7:27:43 PM	how do i get back out there
es1834 Irving, TX age: 22	ive been single for 4months and just cant see myself going out to meet anyone new. i was in a 4 1/2year relationship that i thought was the one. i am extremely lonely. please help.
2/19/2008 7:41:12 PM	how do i get back out there
nate_23 Greenville, MI age: 23	just my two cents, get out there and give it a try. If you wait and procrastinate, you will wish you would have done it sooner, trust me. I have only had a few long term relationships and I might be young but it doesnt help to sit and think about how lonely you are feeling. Get out and make friends, see where it goes, it wont hurt will it? --Nate
2/19/2008 7:48:13 PM	how do i get back out there
pandorazzz_box Saco, ME age: 37	Hey es1834, I'm sorry about the break up. I know how devastating they can be, after so much time invested. It takes time to heal when your hearts been broken, and while it's been four months since the break up, maybe you need a little more time? If you really are ready to get out there and start looking around you've got to try and have a positive, open minded attitude. If you project any negativity or skepticism about dating, women will likely pick up on it. Being lonely can really be miserable, but maybe it isn't another relationship you need to fill the void right now. Try spending time with friends and or family, keep yourself active, get involved in a project or volunteering.....something that will make you feel good about yourself. In my experience, it's when I'm NOT looking for someone that "someone" comes along..lol. Also..you are super young... and while this might not sound like any consolation, you have youth and time on your side. Eventually you will find someone for you, and this too shall pass. Good luck, and keep your chin up! ~Pandora
2/19/2008 8:54:45 PM	how do i get back out there
winesong Bend, OR age: 88	I am sorry for your recent break up...it does take a bit of time and a process to recover. I recall there are 7 stages of grieving..(I did have an article a year ago RE the stages). When you go from one stage to the next...you are not aware of it..it just happens. Time does not heal...it is what you do with your time that does the healing. I had an 8 year LTR that I thought was the last one of my life... I was devastated...and it has been a year. I am still mending my spirit, & my ego. Time spent during healing for one person, may be different for you.. You have reached out to DH...and we welcome you to the home of the caring people, that have been there, and many of us are still healing. We are in some form of recovery, and meeting the challenge...in order to have a new person in your life, you have to be emotionally available. I just recently reached that point. Welcome to DH..counts us as your new friends...we are here for each other. Wine
2/19/2008 8:59:33 PM	how do i get back out there
wileyguy Wilkes Barre, PA age: 37	take your time.go out with friends and when the time is right you will know it.besides,things happen when you least expect so don't try to find someone.let them find you.
2/19/2008 9:11:35 PM	how do i get back out there
gonesailingbabe Des Moines, IA age: 45	jeez dude go to California she was hot....! go slow and good luck! make friends!!!!
2/20/2008 3:45:40 AM	how do i get back out there
cmjanew Sayre, PA age: 48	Get a haircut. Kidding. My son's is even longer. Does remind me, sort of, of the "signs" song(?) help me old farts. Actually, what wiley(?) said. Go out in groups and have some fun. I should take that advice more often. The 'trained professionals' would tell you ONE YEAR! NO EXCEPTIONS!
2/20/2008 3:54:46 AM	how do i get back out there
tattooedblondie Escondido, CA age: 20	Get some friends and just go out.. because if you stay cooped up in your house you will just continue to be lonely. and you might even pass someone amazing up.. I know its hard but you have to try and just move on honey or it will just eat you up.. Private message me if you ever wanna talk...