Forums: Dating General Discussion: i need advice...please help
2/19/2008 7:36:33 PMi need advice...please help 

es1834
Irving, TX
age: 22

im not looking for sympathy by any means... i was in a 4 1/2 year relationship that ended in a way that my heart was broken into pieces by what i thought was my best friend. i have no idia how to get back out on the dating scene. please help im open for any idias. please help

2/19/2008 7:38:02 PMi need advice...please help 

southbuster
Haughton, LA
age: 31

I dont wanna be the one in trouble for tellin you this but the answer is......Its faster horses.....younger women.....older Whiskey.......and more money. Thats what I was told

2/19/2008 7:40:00 PMi need advice...please help 

garnetlady
Cincinnati, OH
age: 48

Without knowing more about the situation I really don't know what to say. I would give myself some time to heal. Post in the forums, stay away from the drama if you can, let others see your charm and personality. You will make friends I promise and maybe meet a nice young lady. Broken hearts take time to heal, it is a grieving process. Allow yourself to go through the process...it does get better. Good luck

2/19/2008 7:40:35 PMi need advice...please help 

yummyballs75
Las Vegas, NV
age: 29

Bro you are 22 give it time good thing it happened now you don't have to say that you got married to young. Just keep looking their are a lot of great women out there some of them are on here. I was married at 21 although I adore my kids i shouldn't have stayed with that one. Oh well I did get my kids out of it. Just give it time maybe 6 months to a year and then just go meet friends get to know people trust me their is a lot of ruff to find that diamond

2/19/2008 7:44:34 PMi need advice...please help 

chimike
Chicago, IL
age: 57

My daughter, who is 18, has always just hung out in groups, not dated; maybe you should do that for a while, just go out with friends and not worry about finding 'one' person....things have a way of working themselves out.

2/19/2008 7:52:40 PMi need advice...please help 

southbuster
Haughton, LA
age: 31

I've only been hurt REAL bad once.......and well I think the best thing to do is pretend to yourself that you aint hurt have a few beers get a dog.....cause dogs are mans best friend....take a deep breath.....be thankful for what you DO HAVE and before you know it someone will appear

2/19/2008 8:34:07 PMi need advice...please help 

roundhouse
Phoenix, AZ
age: 43

Yeah, it hurts and only time will take the pain away. Stay in your routine and try not to dwell on the "why's" of the whole thing. Do not blame yourself, or her and look for the good that came out of the time you spent together. Main thing is STAY BUSY and breathe deep. Chances are that is it a blessing in disguise to have broken up with her....




Roundhouse in Phoenix, Arizona

2/19/2008 8:41:12 PMi need advice...please help 

gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45

well there's the redneck caring peice of wisdom for you....hope it helped?

Look, I have sons 23 and 21....everyone loses a relationship that matters.... and it's not easy.

It isn't easy.

What you do is don't wallow - which I think in southern talk is fast womne, old whiskey and dogs or something....

But don't lay around - this is hard because your friendship is gone now too. And that's probably hard for the other person too. Those are the ties that really hurt to sever.

Everyone has this happen to them! You are not the only one and you are not alone.

What you're feeling is normal how you handle it shows the man you will be.
Don't hurt others out of your hurt.
Be respectful.
And learn what you're really wanting in the enxt relationship.
Find new friends to replace the one you're missing...look at the people you weren't seeing and were ignoring before out of respect for the relationship

Tomorrow - you're going to stop for gas, eat lunch, go to the bank, study or work and you'll look up and see somebody who's been there and you just didn't SEE before.

See now - and then go for the friendship you're missing first and follow where that goes.....

2/19/2008 8:59:59 PMi need advice...please help 

craftygirl002
Tacoma, WA
age: 40

I agree with gonesailing on this one. I would also add to take advantage of the opportunity to rediscover any parts of yourself you may have given up during the last relationship, or discover new things about yourself. Don't forget that feelings are transitional. The sayings "Time heals all wounds" and "This too shall pass" are true words of wisdom. Reminding myself of those two phrases often, sometimes repeating them over and over in my mind, got me through the break-up of my 12 year marriage. Good luck to you.