| 2/24/2008 8:41:42 AM | This is just a booty call right???? | |
thenewme
New Castle, PA
age: 45
| I know I am new to the dating scene again, but I need to know if this is just something
around here or if this a common problem. I have met a couple nice men in the "real world", but they seem to have troubles asking me out on a date. One guy was a customer where I used to work, we have talked on the phone, he once said "call me if you get bored this weekend." Then another time after telling me about his favorite bar ( about 2 hours away near were he has a cabin) he said "if you ever want to check out that bar you have my number". Another guy I met through friends, we have run into each other a couple times and have a nice talk. Then after I leave he sends me a text saing "so when are you going to let me take you out to dinner." I replied "when are you going to ask me in person?"
I would love for a guy to say "would you like to go out on Saturday night for dinner and a movie?" Am I holding my standards too high??????
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| 2/24/2008 8:44:19 AM | This is just a booty call right???? | |
immabluefish
Orlando, FL
age: 44
| Sometimes guys are shy and are feeling you out to see if you're interested...You don't bite when they make those comments so I would reckon they don't see you as wanting to go out...Lifes too short...Ask a man out!!!
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| 2/24/2008 8:47:16 AM | This is just a booty call right???? | |
texastony72
Decatur, AL
age: 36
| Your not expecting too much and keep your standards with what your wanting. I feel lowering them would put you in a position you do not want to be in. It does sound like booty calls though.
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| 2/24/2008 8:48:35 AM | This is just a booty call right???? | |
flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 46
| Guys are like that nowadays. That is what I've noticed anyway.
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| 2/24/2008 8:50:36 AM | This is just a booty call right???? | |
guylokin
Mukwonago, WI
age: 32
| I'd say that both of those men were interested in you. I think that they were just hoping you would meet them half to get that first date on.
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| 2/24/2008 8:56:45 AM | This is just a booty call right???? | |
oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 46
| The first two sound like booty calls. The third one sounds genuine. But, appearances can be deceiving. The third one should have asked you point blank after your response.
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| 2/24/2008 8:58:17 AM | This is just a booty call right???? | |
thenewme
New Castle, PA
age: 45
| I appreciate the input. The one that texts me answered that he would remember to ask me in person. I know he is just shy. The other is older, divorced and I confident in him self, but when a guy suggests a bar over 2 hours away with us both knowing he spends a lot of time at his cabin there.....only one thought comes to my mind!!
Imma, I agree with your thinking and I probably will get up the nerve someday to ask a guy out, but not yet I am still hung up on the old fashioned ideas!
[Edited 2/24/2008 9:01:38 AM]
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| 2/24/2008 9:17:03 AM | This is just a booty call right???? | |
oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 46
| Still, it's rather like "pulling one's punches". If you want to ask, ASK!
How would you like it if your date asked your permission to kiss you? Either one gets clear signals, or one doesn't.
When I meet someone I like, my biggest concern is if they are already involved with someone. I might be roundabout and ask, "So, why hasn't your guy taken you to ". If she indicates that she is single, I will just ask, point-blank, if she'd like me to.
And, I consider myself somewhat shy, but I would be direct if I wanted to ask someone out.
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| 2/24/2008 3:42:04 PM | This is just a booty call right???? | |
chimike
Chicago, IL
age: 57
| Yep, can't read people's minds....go with door #3 and have a great time. You're making it too hard on him...give him some slack and say 'yes' and when and where, and there you go, you're on a date.
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| 2/24/2008 3:52:15 PM | This is just a booty call right???? | |
thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
| i agree with chimike, don't go back and forth with the 3rd guy, just give him a chance.
also @thenewme, does your old fashioned ideas including cooking for your mate, and being submissive etc. also in a relationship? those are traditional values. with regards to being submissive, im not talking about bowing down to a man and waiting on him hand and foot. that's the biggest misconception about being submissive in a relationship.
[Edited 2/24/2008 3:55:55 PM]
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| 2/24/2008 6:14:04 PM | This is just a booty call right???? | |
rocket000
Murrayville, GA
age: 50
| I've heard several of my women friends complain about a man texting them for a date. They don't like it and I wouldn't either. My good friend texted back and said if he were interested in going out she'd be delighted to hear from him when he called her on the phone. I think her response politely showed him what she considered acceptable.
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| 2/24/2008 6:21:36 PM | This is just a booty call right???? | |
belladreams
Binghamton, NY
age: 38
| Both of the guys are looking for complete sex and nothing else. A real man would ask you in person and in private. Would you like to go to a movie sometime and perhaps dinner? Then they would call you and talk to you on the phone, and chat with you for awhile and get to know you. A guy just dont get on the phone and say wanna meet me at a bar? Cmon gentleman, that is not proper and you know it. That is a pickup line and he wants to get laid. Or hey baby come to my cabin if your bored this weekend. Guys used to say that to me and my friends all the time, and it ended up with cuddling under a blanket, and i said oh time to powder my nose and i got in my car as fast as i could and i got the hell out of there and went to go party with my friends. Don't believe it. If a man really likes you he will do it the proper way. Not that kind of way. Why are you guys telling this girl all lies?
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| 2/24/2008 7:38:44 PM | This is just a booty call right???? | |
thenewme
New Castle, PA
age: 45
| I am mostly oldfashioned, I dont really like to cook much but once in awhile I like to make a special dinner for someone special. But I do like it when a man will make decisions in a relationship and take the lead.
I remember when I was dating as a teenager my mother thought it was just terrible for a girl to call a guy no matter what! I have progressed in that area but somethings I just wont give up especially for the first date.
Thanks for all the differant opinions on this it really helps.
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| 2/24/2008 7:41:47 PM | This is just a booty call right???? | |
sweetfyr
Woodbridge, VA
age: 34
| NO,NO,NO...a car even come with standards....So you have standards is a good thing.....
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| 2/24/2008 7:48:33 PM | This is just a booty call right???? | |
towtrk1
Groton, CT
age: 36
| Hold the phone, Bella...
I have asked girls to meet me at a bar or something casual like that. It doesnt mean I wanna just get in their pants. It means if they wanna get together and hang out socially, low key, no pressure, then they're welcome. Of course, I usually dont do the bar scene, so I will substitute the bar for someothing else, say coffee, casual dinner, etc.
As far as the resoning behind the OP's situation. I have to agree that the guys most likely are just shy and not sure of the vibe she is giving off, so treading lightly is their gameplan.
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