| 2/25/2008 10:14:48 AM | Okay Men, This Is For You... | |
lnsmecwgrl
Fredonia, TX
age: 72
| I've never been brave enough to do any of the following, but often wanted to. Please tell me how you feel about it.
1. If you had a couple of dates and you were afraid of being rejected, but wanted to continue the dating , would you want your lady friend to ask you out ?
2. How do you men feel about going Dutch. I know that for some men dating could be a financial burden, but I wouldn't know how or whether to offer to pay for me or both of us.
3.Would a woman who approached you first scare you off?
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| 2/25/2008 10:17:00 AM | Okay Men, This Is For You... | |
msdmarie
Brunswick, GA
age: 55
| Great questions! We women all want to know.
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| 2/25/2008 10:17:16 AM | Okay Men, This Is For You... | |
dreamsmaycome
Seven Springs, NC
age: 53
| Good thread cwgrl...I'd be interested in some of the answers myself. Now I will back out and just listen to responses. Thanks for the topic though.
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| 2/25/2008 10:19:50 AM | Okay Men, This Is For You... | |
ken325
Seminole, AL
age: 59
| 1. Yes
2. When and if it was agreeded upon in advance. If you're going to continue to date after the first meeting, sometimes it would be nice to have the Lady treat or at least share the expense. But you would need to talk about it first.
3. No
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| 2/25/2008 10:22:45 AM | Okay Men, This Is For You... | |
lnsmecwgrl
Fredonia, TX
age: 72
| Thanks, Ken. And, ladies, glad to do it. I tried it at another thread, got no response, so decided to see if people would notice with it's own topic thread. I can't wait for all the results to come in. Hope we learn something.
I have at times, suggested a picnic at a park and I bring the food, he brings ice and drinks. that works well.
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| 2/25/2008 10:25:29 AM | Okay Men, This Is For You... | |
jhny_777
Rogers, AR
age: 56
| For me!Hey I'm fifty if you like me
why wouldn't i want you to contact me
why wouldn't i like it if we went dutch hey youcan pay if you want
no would be flattered if you said "hello do you wanna go out,and i'll treat"
Sweetie High Scool was over for me a long time ago!!!!
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| 2/25/2008 10:30:13 AM | Okay Men, This Is For You... | |
rmoore
Corpus Christi, TX
age: 57
| If she's already gone out with me twice, the odds of rejection are becoming smaller. Usually, I would know by the second date if it was a no go for the third; but, it couldn't hurt for her to ask.
If I ask someone out then I feel it's my obligation to pay. If after two or three dates, she wants to pay, fantastic.
If a woman approached me for a first date, I would be thrilled beyond measure.
Ron
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| 2/25/2008 10:36:06 AM | Okay Men, This Is For You... | |
stargazzer
Creighton, NE
age: 60
| It allways desired my me for a lady to let her wants, questions, and feelings be right up front!! Being forward is a good thing as socity has demasulated us somewhat and we are offten a little timed and for good resions!!! Keeps us out of trubble....smiles.
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| 2/25/2008 10:39:05 AM | Okay Men, This Is For You... | |
bluboy
Elsberry, MO
age: 56
| 1) If you had a couple of dates and you were afraid of being rejected, but wanted to continue the dating , would you want your lady friend to ask you out ?
a) Yes, but must asked myself Why he's not asking, after couple of date. I wouldn't asked someone out, but maybe call and just see what they have been doing.. Maybe give them an opening to ask..
2. How do you men feel about going Dutch. I know that for some men dating could be a financial burden, but I wouldn't know how or whether to offer to pay for me or both of us.
a) Never been Dutch, But that maybe the prefect way to ask for a date as noted above. Call and say . Your going somewhere and didn't want to go alone. Wonder if we could just meet there as friend and go Dutch.
I do have or had a drinking buddy. Sometimes she or I would call the other one and say. I'm not staying home this weekend again, what are you doing.
Come to think of it we only went Dutch once... But sometime I would buy dinner and she the drinks later, when we went dancing..
3.Would a woman who approached you first scare you off?
a) Not at all, wish more would.. But like men, you got to be able to handle rejection and take no for an answer. Without putting them on the spot.
Later, Blu
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| 2/25/2008 10:45:31 AM | Okay Men, This Is For You... | |
woody22257
Massillon, OH
age: 51
| I think it would be great if the girl asked me to do something with her. Asking someone out is usually easier than saying "I really like you." Everybody is afraid of getting their feelings hurt.
I prefer to pay. I'm not against Dutch but would feel awkword.
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| 2/25/2008 10:48:21 AM | Okay Men, This Is For You... | |
poleshift
Charlottesville, VA
age: 71
| 1. I would be flattered to be asked out by a lady, that I had dated.
3. Would she scare me off?. I would want a minute or so to assess the situation or the person. I have been approached by married ladies a couple times, and point blank say no.
2. This is a sticky question. Under normal circumstances, I think Dutch would be fine. But, if the Man and Lady were at an expensive place?. No, the man should pay, for the entire meal including the gratuity, coat check girl, etc. But, I am willing to bet, that there will be no date between a couple if he is financially strapped. Either the lady will not date the man or most cases the man will be too proud to admit to the situation.
Hope this helps. 
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| 2/25/2008 11:07:47 AM | Okay Men, This Is For You... | |
classof63
Dunkirk, NY
age: 63
| 1. Wouldn't expect her to ask me out, but it certainly would be flattering if she did. I would "toss the dice" and ask.
2. I would never expect a lady to pay for anything the first couple of dates, but if things went well, and a couple of dates turned into many, it wouldnt bother me to go Dutch...especially since I really dont have all that much extra money..
3. Would a woman scare me off by approaching me???? Heck no, though I might faint because its never happened yet....
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| 2/25/2008 11:12:18 AM | Okay Men, This Is For You... | |
tn_tx_lady
Chattanooga, TN
age: 65
| OK Class, now how far away are you? We definitely would enjoy great music together!  
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| 2/25/2008 11:29:15 AM | Okay Men, This Is For You... | |
lnsmecwgrl
Fredonia, TX
age: 72
| Thanks, jhny,ron,stargazzer, blu,woody and pole. Your comments are a bit surprising. Having been at dating age in the fifties, I was taught that you never call a boy. Men don't like forward women. I wonder if that was really true. I doubt it. But maybe it was then. I am so happy to learn that at least for some men that has changed.
One of you, commented that there probably wouldn't be a date if the man were strapped for cash. I don't agree with that. I would never date or not date based on how much money the man had. If finances were hard for him, I would get really creative in finding things to do that were either free or nearly so. there are a lot of things I enjoy doing which don't cost much money, except for now, when the gas is so expensive. I live long country drives.
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| 2/25/2008 11:30:27 AM | Okay Men, This Is For You... | |
sunnyx56
Rochester, NH
age: 57 online now!
| I never gave it much thought, but it would show she was interested in continuing with see me.
Maybe after the first three dates, I would feel comfortable with her paying something, jury is still out on that.
It wouldn't bother me if she contacted me first, because I could misread something in a profile and not contact her, thinking I was a bad match.
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