| 2/29/2008 1:15:25 AM | Separated vs. Divorced -- Does it make a big difference? | |
s83biker
Arvada, CO
age: 48
| bella, I'm divorced as divorced can get.
Now how about we get together and discuss this like two concenting adults?
Maybe a little pillow talk too?
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| 2/29/2008 1:19:34 AM | Separated vs. Divorced -- Does it make a big difference? | |
ylekiot
Stateline, NV
age: 52
| Make a trip to Nevada and you can get a "no fault" divorce for $175.
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| 2/29/2008 2:37:00 AM | Separated vs. Divorced -- Does it make a big difference? | |
zeanah
Clarion, PA
age: 49
| I, myself, will not date a man who states he is only seperated. It means he is still attached in some way and not completely free. It means he is seriously over his Ex or at least not running back to her. I do not like dating men just out of a divorce either. Everyone has to "deal" with the finalization of the marriage. Not all, but some men, need to adjust to their new found freedom.
I have a friend who has been seprated for 4 years. He told me he has no intention to file for a divorce for financial reasons that he does not want to deal with. However, he has a woman living with him and says, this way, she cannot asked him about marriage if he is not divorced yet. He is using it as a tool to avoid any other committments, which is selfish and rather being deceitful. I am sure this woman is inwardly hoping for the divorce so he will committment to her with marriage or at least be free from being under his wifes thumb financially. She does not know his real reason for not divorcing.
I would never say never, but I shy away from any man not officially divorced. I do not want to be waiting for something that will never happen. I also do not want to be made a fool of waiting for nothing. Just a way to avoid hurt and dealing with the drama from unfinished business. 
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| 2/29/2008 4:12:45 AM | Separated vs. Divorced -- Does it make a big difference? | |
newlife4me2
Sioux Falls, SD
age: 43
| I have family in Nevada and looked into getting my divorce there. Yes they are easy and cheap to obtain as long as there are no property or child custody disputes. There is a 6 month residency requirement however.
My profile states "separated" and I specifically state it is legal and I am just waiting for the wheels to turn. The separation is legal, the divorce is filed for and pending. It isn't over yet merely due to financial and child custody disputes.
Interested in my fine, not interested in me - well that's fine too.
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| 2/29/2008 4:40:55 AM | Separated vs. Divorced -- Does it make a big difference? | |
bonsaijoe
Vero Beach, FL
age: 41
| well its pretty easy for me cause there is no such thing as seperation legally in florida
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| 2/29/2008 4:43:16 AM | Separated vs. Divorced -- Does it make a big difference? | |
lust4love
Atco, NJ
age: 38
| thats because people in florida have no morals.Inbredation has set in.
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| 2/29/2008 7:40:55 AM | Separated vs. Divorced -- Does it make a big difference? | |
ldy_4evertru
Indianapolis, IN
age: 68
| For me, it depends on the degree of separation. If there's still a chance they'll get back together, I'd pass. You can usually tell that from conversations. I was separated for more than 20 years, before my husband passed away. I considered myself to be single.
So, separated or divorced, in some cases, is not much different.
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| 2/29/2008 7:57:04 AM | Separated vs. Divorced -- Does it make a big difference? | |
stevex86
Rush Springs, OK
age: 40
| WTF was that Florida, inbreeding and no morals crap? 
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| 2/29/2008 8:07:09 AM | Separated vs. Divorced -- Does it make a big difference? | |
lin37
Comstock Park, MI
age: 38
| I'm divorced! It was final on the 4th of Jule 2006! And was seperated from her greedy sorry a** for a year before that, Hell you could eveb ask her if you want to.SHe is the one who found a new BFF while we where still married. I was in the hospital recovering from a heart attack when she told me. I'll I could say was WTF?
Biker i am so sorry about this. that is rude to do that to you in your condition. ok just to do that period was rude.
on the point of the question. I would be ok if the separation was a serious separation with some distance between the 2. I wouldn't like it, but as long as the soon to be ex wasn't the topic of all our conversations and she wasn't calling all the time and still being the doting wife, I might get involved. i would be distant though. i have an issue with feeling like the other woman.
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| 2/29/2008 8:30:59 AM | Separated vs. Divorced -- Does it make a big difference? | |
rocket000
Murrayville, GA
age: 50
| Everyone is entitled to their opinion but personally, I make it a point not to date separated or recently divorced men. In most cases they are not emotionally prepared to be in a relationship unless it's a rebound. So many people think THEY aren't going to have a rebound relationship but that is not typically true.
To me separated ususally means a can of worms. If a couple has been separated for years I can't help but wonder "why". I know there are often financial and custody issues to address but in many cases it appears that inertia sets in and the separated couple feels comfortable with the situation. I don't want to invest my time with a man that is not legally available. I realize there are always exceptions and this is America so everyone can make their own judgment call.
For me, I'll take a pass.
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| 2/29/2008 8:49:06 AM | Separated vs. Divorced -- Does it make a big difference? | |
ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 42 online now!
| thats because people in florida have no morals.Inbredation has set in.
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