Forums: Relationships: Man that takes 2 weeks 2 frorgive u
2/28/2008 11:14:07 PMMan that takes 2 weeks 2 frorgive u 

isabellaoc
Chicago, IL
age: 47

Hi everyone,
Heres a good one I was dating this man who I adoredat the9 we were to go away for the weekend) last minute did a drunk calling to me said nasty things.Then said no were not going
I then 2 days later did the same but not drunk and now he wont move on i never mentioned what he did and he just turns it all around on me .
I texted him and told him I would not be a beggar as it had been enough time w/ out specking, then he called yesterday , but nothing today what is his problem is he teaching me a lesson i have just about had it.
Any ideas out there

2/29/2008 12:47:47 AMMan that takes 2 weeks 2 frorgive u 

jbnoosaheads
Queensland
Australia
age: 55

Sweethart i would move on by the sounds of all that there are plenty of fish in the sea.

2/29/2008 3:52:28 PMMan that takes 2 weeks 2 frorgive u 

winesong
Bend, OR
age: 88

Not enough information..
how long have you been a couple?
Do you argue often?
Is drinking a problem, and provides hostile environment...(bye bye!!!)

Good luck,
if you repeat the same things over again,that create conflict,
and expect different results...
you will be disappointed, again and again.

Wine

2/29/2008 3:58:19 PMMan that takes 2 weeks 2 frorgive u 

krupa1
Abilene, TX
age: 40

I don't believe in forgiveness. Works for me.

2/29/2008 4:09:53 PMMan that takes 2 weeks 2 frorgive u 

oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 46

Why should HE forgive YOU? He was the one who was rude?

2/29/2008 4:58:04 PMMan that takes 2 weeks 2 frorgive u 

lin37
Comstock Park, MI
age: 38

Have you ever been involved with an alcoholic before??? I married one. the lashing out and the projection of fault is part of the disease. Now i don't know if this guy is an alcoholic, but if he calls you when drunk and is angry and verbally abusive, there will come a time when you are sucked in and become codependent.
that's how alcholics control you and keep you in check and under their control. because they are so out of control, they need to know you are the one thing they have power over. Non alcholics can follow this pattern too...but get out while you can. this will only esculate.
to answer the question...YES he is teaching you a lesson. he is teaching you to NEED him and BEG him to come back. RUN before you need or want him to come back.

2/29/2008 5:16:13 PMMan that takes 2 weeks 2 frorgive u 

fishingmtgirl
Great Falls, MT
age: 38

too many fish, run the opposite way, doesn't sound positive, sounds like negative energy without even knowing much. Life is wayyyyy to short. Look at the long road of it, is this the kind of behavior you want to be married to? Is this the kind of relationship you were looking for (knowing it takes 2 to fight 2 to make it work)?

Just look at the long road, if it doesn't fit...........turn JMO

2/29/2008 5:19:52 PMMan that takes 2 weeks 2 frorgive u 

lin37
Comstock Park, MI
age: 38

I second that. RUN RUN RUN...my ex was so controling that one night at 2am after he came home from the bar, he loaded a double barrell shot gun and aimed it at me telling me i'd never leave him. i of course told him to pull the trigger and then not too long after that I made a run for it when he was in jail for his 2nd DUI.
Please don't take this guy's drinking lightly. it's a helluva situation to be in. get out if you can...and soon.

2/29/2008 5:48:57 PMMan that takes 2 weeks 2 frorgive u 

cece123
Madison Heights, MI
age: 48

Nothing like being in love with a sociopath.... who doesn't believe in forgiveness.... I broke up with the same guy three times since christmas. It's like dating a guy with a split personality..... He's so sweet.... so promising.... so caring and giving... then all of a suddent, he rears his ugly head and says... I am not here to brush your ego. And he argues with me. And your left thinking... wow.. why do I keep going back to be psychologically abused.... How can I let him reign such control over me?

2/29/2008 6:05:31 PMMan that takes 2 weeks 2 frorgive u 

tn_tx_lady
Chattanooga, TN
age: 65

Isabel, He is controlling you. That is often done by people that have low self asteem and making you look bad in his eyes makes him feel better about himself. He will not quite this, it will only get worse. He has to figure out he has a problem and get help for it. YOU cannot change him and he does not see that he has a problen. LOL, always blams it on you.

Run don't walk and get away from him.



2/29/2008 6:07:53 PMMan that takes 2 weeks 2 frorgive u 

lin37
Comstock Park, MI
age: 38

How can I let him reign such control over me?

listen to what you just said in that post, cece. and then answer this question. you know he's weird. you know being involved with him is wrong. you go back to him.
please don't hear this as mean...but welcome to being codependent. once YOU break your cycle you will be free. right now, you feel you are responsible for his feelings. you are not. you will learn that once you step back and watch what you are doing.
that's what i did. it was like watching a TV show and i was in the audience. it's the weirdest thing ever. but try it. step out of the situation and watch it instead.



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2/29/2008 6:08:54 PMMan that takes 2 weeks 2 frorgive u 

tishy123
Manistee, MI
age: 49

Run fast!! Definately not worth your time!

2/29/2008 6:10:47 PMMan that takes 2 weeks 2 frorgive u 

lin37
Comstock Park, MI
age: 38

i know some women stay because they don't want to be alone. but once you're away from him you will breathe a sigh of relieve and you'll have your life back. it'll feel like a wave swept over you and washed you back to the shores of you. believe me. i was there. now i'm not.
my choices were...1.) drown in his drinking and abuse or 2.) live again. that far outweighs being with him. when your life is your own again and you're not walking on eggshells, you'll be ok.

2/29/2008 10:57:36 PMMan that takes 2 weeks 2 frorgive u 

genuinegal72
Queensland
Australia
age: 35

Get the hell out of there! Sounds like my ex. Leads to scarey shit dear!

2/29/2008 11:19:06 PMMan that takes 2 weeks 2 frorgive u 

kat46218
Indianapolis, IN
age: 30

Ignore. Block. Disregard. Oh, and run.


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