| 3/12/2008 11:57:54 AM | Tears Keep Coming | | 
weaimtoplease
Donalsonville, GA
age: 59
| McMikey - You just take it one day at a time and if that is too hard, one hour at a time. There is no quick fix but you do make it through!
| | 3/12/2008 1:34:07 PM | Tears Keep Coming | | familyguy58103
Los Angeles, CA
age: 89
| And I know it does help to get out and do things, anything. You have to keep busy.
| | 3/15/2008 5:36:05 PM | Tears Keep Coming | | 
cherokeemist
Sedalia, MO
age: 65
| well , I SIT around here on weekends and listen to old time country songs,,and think of the times we shared,,my husband has been gone for over 5 years. is thAT A BAD THING?
| | 3/18/2008 8:39:31 AM | Tears Keep Coming | |
weaimtoplease
Donalsonville, GA
age: 59
| Cherokeemist -That's a very good question! If it feels right to you, then it probably is. Only YOU can decide what is right or wrong for YOU. We all grieve differently and at our own pace.
| | 3/18/2008 10:10:00 AM | Tears Keep Coming | | familyguy58103
Los Angeles, CA
age: 89
| weaim, I think that is a very wise answer, because when you look at the posts on the various threads here, everyone is quite different. Still, I feel that there is a need to get outside of your own head and live something other than your sorrow and grief. I'm not necceasrily talking about dating, but being around people, interacting and living YOUR life in some form and not entirely dwelling on the past. jmo 
| | 3/18/2008 10:54:25 AM | Tears Keep Coming | | 
cottagebithec
Utica, NY
age: 61
| Just wanted to share this with everyone.
My Charlie
Music I Heard
Music I heard with you was more than music,
And bread I broke with you was more than bread;
Now that I am without you, all is desolate;
All that was once so beautiful is dead.
Your hands once touched this table and this silver,
And I have seen your fingers hold this glass.
These things do not remember you, beloved,
And yet your touch upon them will not pass.
For it was in my heart that you moved among them,
And blessed them with your hands and with your eyes;
And in my heart they will remember always,
—They knew you once, O beautiful and wise.
Conrad Potter Aiken
| | 3/22/2008 9:45:48 PM | Tears Keep Coming | | 
1mauibabe1
Lahaina, HI
age: 52
| Cottage that was beautiful.
4 years 4months now. I still find I cry at times... a song, a joke, ryme tyme in the 50 group.. (That was his favorite thing to do and boy could he come up with some duzzies...) Dancing at times, and lately when I held our newest grandchild.. (I did not let my daughter see me cry). Listening to music posted and finding our songs tonight.
Tears still come .....
| | 3/27/2008 5:51:40 PM | Tears Keep Coming | | 
catsmeow13
Elgin, TX
age: 62
| I try not to cry. I am tough- but I miss my love with all my heart.we were a whole- now I am just a half. I am so alone. No children- no family- just my friends have stood by me. I take each day one at a time. I try to find joy in overcoming so many obstacles. I have my happy memories- but I am young- and sure want more than memories. Now and then I have a meltdown. My cats comfort me. Being a widow is not great. my Love died so fast.
| | 5/5/2008 10:23:51 PM | Tears Keep Coming | | 
aliejte
Banning, CA
age: 48
| It's been 8 years this month and I find that its still hard to let anyone close.I did everything fast most of his things,lost the house,went back to work in 2 weeks,I avoided talking about him,or saying his name,had a boyfriend he didn't like when he was here and he hurt my soul, now I distance everything,I recently met a man and was nervous and jumpy as soon as i felt a little close I distanced it,I still haven't found me back. Will I ever? I cry when I'm too tired,sad, or My family talks about him. will this ever stop? Will I ever find someone who will understand? Will the tears ever stop????
| | 5/6/2008 10:19:46 AM | Tears Keep Coming | | 
ms_sugie
Albuquerque, NM
age: 53
| It will be 31 years on May,19th. I still cry for my love and wonder if he still waits for me in heaven like he promised he would. Its been so long...
| | 5/6/2008 7:26:24 PM | Tears Keep Coming | | cmgetting
Austin, TX
age: 66
| My husband just died in November, the 27th to be exact. My heart hurts, I love him so. He was my yesterday, my today and my tomorrow. My yesterdays are gone, and I can't plan tomorrow, so am left with today. I can't stay sad too long, because I have to remember the joy we had and I'm glad of that. He died the way we said we wanted to die. He was here one day and gone the next.
Describing my husband and our marriage I can not do, because it was so wonderful. Yet I know he'd want me to go on, so as a tribute to him and what we had, I am. I will not curl up and waste away.
Last year was a year of death for me. My oldest daughter committed suicide on April 9th, then my husband died November 27. I was still crying for my daughter.
So, dear ones, we must and will go forward. God is with us. God bless.
| | 6/20/2008 4:29:38 PM | Tears Keep Coming | | 
no12luvyet
Philadelphia, PA
age: 53
| weaimtoplease ? not to sound mean or nasty , it might be menapause. my ex used to get that way after she had her HYSTERECTOMY. she refused to take hormone supplements like the DR told her . so i had to put up with her crying ,happy ,angry . i probably could have put up with her being sad at times ,but the anger got to me. she didnt want the hormones ,what was i to do ? so after a couple of years she helped me decide what to do . she had cheated on me .so i divorced not only her but her anger and the sadness . i hope you find out what wrong and be happy again . oh ! i almost forgot WEAIM ,,,,,, good luck with your man , i wish you both all the best in the comming years .
ROB(philly)    <<<<
| | 6/25/2008 11:00:08 PM | Tears Keep Coming | | 
littlebumblebee
Hamilton, OH
age: 48
| I cry when my kids miss there father. I cry when i hear a song we slow danced to. I miss him our baby just graduated from high school and how i would love for him to have been there. It was beautiful. I just want to say Dave i miss you and no you are in heaven waiting someday for me. I miss ya carl she made it through school now on to college. Love both you men and miss you both so much.
| | 6/26/2008 4:03:24 AM | Tears Keep Coming | | 
atlgarn
Longwood, FL
age: 53
| It's been almost 4 years for me and soemone will ask me something that will bring a very specific memory...usually something to do with his death. It takes me back to the last 6 agonizing hours of his life....all spent while they attempted to treat and resuscitate him time and again. I was there the whole time and watched, commented, wondered, prayed, reflected and wondered how it happened like it did. That is a painful time and sometimes it just hits.
Other times it is some situation I am faced with that I find unfair to do alone. Pisses me off and I get angry and sad too.
Although the tears are less frequent I think it all has to do with what is sparked, what the mood is at the time they come and what your personal situation is at that moment. It's all good as long as you are moving forward and not regressing. Just remember that tears can be cleansing and can help you toward your next happy moment.
Be blesses and know it.
| | 6/26/2008 4:06:22 PM | Tears Keep Coming | |
weaimtoplease
Donalsonville, GA
age: 59
| Atl - I know that you loved your husband very much and that the memories have to be hard. You know I'm here if you need me!
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