| 3/7/2008 4:03:01 PM | Playin A Fool's Game | |
bayougirl6969
Marrero, LA
age: 47
| Well, I finally open my heart after 10 years and thought I met someone special and went out my way to please him and i got blown out the water,need to know the signs of a scam artist if anyone knows them,thanks  
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| 3/7/2008 4:14:54 PM | Playin A Fool's Game | |
virgomomof1
Brunswick, ME
age: 36
| ohhhh I'm sorry to hear that. It's tough to know who is good and who is bad when the person tells you everything that you want to hear. On this site I have learned real quick to have your guard up and not to take anything serious. I seem to attract all the liars and game players on here...But just keep your head up and don't fall too fast like most of us do when we just want to find someone special. It's funny how I hear men saying they're having bad luck with finding a good woman who is honest and loyal and decent, and we are too but nobody is hooking up!! 
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| 3/7/2008 4:22:02 PM | Playin A Fool's Game | |
pichick712
Brookhaven, PA
age: 50
| OMG!!!! I am soooooooooooo sorry for you. ((((((((( )))))))
the signs I look for are
secretive nature,
being unreachable,
never being invited to his family functions OR his home,
never meeting his kids,
stories that don't add up either at the time or in retrospect.
If you truly think back on the relationship, I think you will find some of these "things" were present and maybe you made excuses for what you didn't want to see.
It hurts, I know.
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| 3/7/2008 4:30:09 PM | Playin A Fool's Game | |
littlebumblebee
Hamilton, OH
age: 48
| Me to i attract the game players and weirdo. They just want me for one thing and not a relationship i guess when you a lit on the chubby side they think you hard up men are evil and i havent meant a nice won. 
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| 3/7/2008 4:33:57 PM | Playin A Fool's Game | |
jimmy61
Titusville, FL
age: 47
| Is it really a scam or a game? I wonder myself at times. I have had a couple gals on here chat for a while, and just when you start to really want to know more...Poof!, they are gone. I have had the experience in the past of getting involved with a "married" someone going through an abusive relationship. At first, I was a friendly face, someone to lean on and vent to. I guess nature took it's course and it went farther. Anyway, she stood up and left the guy and got a divorce. Then it was like I was the German Shepperd that guarded her house after she sold it. She didn't need me around anymore. I have heard the term, "Night Light" used for this. Maybe I was. Maybe we are used as a stepping stone to get up the nerve to really pursue an active relationship. Like when one tests the water, per say. Does any of this make any sense?
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| 3/7/2008 4:40:42 PM | Playin A Fool's Game | |
mattskur
Kunkletown, PA
age: 45
| Lets start by saying I am not a player. If anything i have been played. by my ex. I lost alot not only money but trust. Its hard to get that trust back. I am staeting over again. But thats along story. So is it a game yes. I have learned alot
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| 3/7/2008 4:43:55 PM | Playin A Fool's Game | |
flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 46
| Welcome to life people. It is full of risks and full of game players. The trick is to be really selective...........
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| 3/7/2008 4:45:39 PM | Playin A Fool's Game | |
okitisme
South Lyon, MI
age: 44
| Im so sorry. dont be afraid to open your heart again. If you dont, you can lose yourself. I have too been there. Hang in there
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| 3/7/2008 4:57:01 PM | Playin A Fool's Game | |
daddyduck
Splendora, TX
age: 55
| The more you love the deepeer it hurts, and the more you love, it can be a circle sometimes they don't mean to hurt you. But it doesn't hurt any less. I'd rather be hurt by a scam artist at least that way you don't feel like you lost as much. It's easier to just feel like a fool, than to wonder if there was anything you could have done to prevent it.
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| 3/7/2008 7:59:33 PM | Playin A Fool's Game | |
flowerchild629
Glen Allen, VA
age: 44
| I think the signs are there in the beginning. Sometimes when a thing is good and you feel happy, one tends to ignore the signs. I am was in a similar situation. I was with a man that I was friends with for over 1 1/2 years. The break up was bad, because of the lies he told, that he didn't thought I knew and he still don't know what I know.
The signs were there. I just ignored it because ...well I guess I actually loved him and he was my bestfriend.
Just pay attention. Even if its hurts, know when to leave. Living in peace is better than living in mess. Of course it gets lonely, but at least you are in peace or beginning to live in peace. Just thank God that it ended. You might not understand now, but you will in the short run.
One thing that you can do is learn the lesson.  There is always a message.
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| 3/8/2008 10:31:05 AM | Playin A Fool's Game | |
thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
| Sorry to hear that.
What you look for are inconsistencies, empty promises, actions not backing up words. Take words on the surface, but always, always, always, look at a person's actions.
Actions are the biggest factor.
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| 3/10/2008 10:42:11 PM | Playin A Fool's Game | |
bayougirl6969
Marrero, LA
age: 47
| Thank you all for your inputs and I will take them to heart and mind.He had the nerve to contact me after the weekend was over ,like nothing happen,lol.After the weekend was over.lol.I told kiss where the sun doesn't shine and more.I feel better now.Listen well learned.Thanks ya'll.
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| 3/10/2008 11:47:23 PM | Playin A Fool's Game | |
katlicata
Owensville, MO
age: 32
| Going out of your way to please someone is a pretty good sign that it is not a good balanced relationship.
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| 3/12/2008 6:57:14 AM | Playin A Fool's Game | |
bayougirl6969
Marrero, LA
age: 47
| Thank you for that input, I understand it well ,now.
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| 3/12/2008 7:11:26 AM | Playin A Fool's Game | |
elaine47
Petersburg, IN
age: 47
| jimmy61.......makes a lot of sence to me.
but how do we get ourselves tangeled up in this crap?
I'm starting to think that maybe guys do think
women with weight are hardup.
not the case at all because there is always billybob
for such things.maybe we tend to give,give,give and they take,take,take!
and no i'm not talking about sex there.
YA KNOW WHAT EVERYONE?????????????????????????????????????????????????????
I'M ABOUT TO SAY TO HECK WITH THIS - - - - - - - WHOLE CHERAIDS!!!!
I'M ABOUT TO DO LIKE HANK SAY'S " THINK I'LL JUST SET HERE AND DRINK"
 
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