| 3/7/2008 4:42:22 PM | Please offer your opinion.... | |
baydreamer7
Lancaster, PA
age: 48
| I am a plus size lady (trying to whittle away the pounds, however) and I find that I face some interesting criticisms when I talk to people about what I'm looking for in a guy. I'm starting to feel like I don't really deserve what I'm looking for and I want to know if there is enough opinions out there to change my mind. I am attracted to men with athletic and fit bodies (I mean, what sane woman isn't?! ) but I get the sense that people think I should only expect to find men who are overweight (like me), that anything else is out of my reach. I know that men who take care of their bodies and work out would more than likely be drawn to a woman who does the same, yet I know there are some men out there who are fit and still enjoy a bigger woman. Aren't there??!!! While I am also attracted to men who are husky or bigger and not so fit, I don't like the inuendo that I can't ever hope to find someone who is fit unless I am also thinner and in better shape.
Guys, I'd love to hear what you have to say, and ladies, if you are bigger, have you encountered this?
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| 3/7/2008 5:59:36 PM | Please offer your opinion.... | |
chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47
| I go more for the personality for looks fade. If they don't have it inside them then I'm not gonna wanna look at the outside.
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| 3/7/2008 6:34:28 PM | Please offer your opinion.... | |
garravesh
New Harmony, UT
age: 36
| We are most often attracted to those who are in perfect shape IMO it is genetics and inbred into our DNA to be attracted to the best of the best..there is nothing wrong with that...As to the innuendo....let it fly by...Who cares what other think...?? I am a large guy myself not obeeese just 6ft2 and a burly kind of person..I am attracted women who have curves and some weight and I wont let others dictate what I like and do not...If you are comfy with yourself and are healthy then go get yourself a musclebound guy with a six pack..Trust me...we guys like a women who looks good but moreso a women who is a good soul...thats all i got to say about that
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| 3/8/2008 4:07:49 PM | Please offer your opinion.... | |
wino631
Huntington, NY
age: 53
| If you replace the words ,"woman, women, lady,men, guys" in your thread, with their opposites. Thers probably alot of guys out there with the same thought as you baydreamer.
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| 3/8/2008 4:09:47 PM | Please offer your opinion.... | |
evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35
| Men that are in shape want women that are in shape.
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| 3/8/2008 4:14:22 PM | Please offer your opinion.... | |
magtag
East York, ON
age: 41 online now!
| women that are in shape want men that are in shape... eddy 
But...I don't think that means that a person can't be attracted to whomever they are attracted to. And of course, we all have the right to pursue whomever we like. The question is, is it working for us? If not, change of strategy may be required. JMO
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| 3/8/2008 4:15:24 PM | Please offer your opinion.... | |
okitisme
South Lyon, MI
age: 44
| I am a curvy lady. I know how you feel. I have self esteem and know who I am. I know I am a sweetheart and good person, and if all they see is what is on the outside and judge me for that, then they are whom that don't deserve me. I prefer a guy with some meat on bones. But its just a preference. It dont change who they are or who we are. Dont be self conscience, we are just as beautiful as the "skinny"! And if any man tells you different.. well he's a very lonely man.
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| 3/8/2008 4:15:59 PM | Please offer your opinion.... | |
evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35
| women that are in shape want men that are in shape... eddy
But...I don't think that means that a person can't be attracted to whomever they are attracted to. And of course, we all have the right to pursue whomever we like. The question is, is it working for us? If not, change of strategy may be required. JMO
I agree!
You rarely see most people date outside their "league"
unless the man is rich.
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| 3/8/2008 4:17:24 PM | Please offer your opinion.... | |
truegrace
Hagerstown, MD
age: 52
| when you set your standards to finding someone that has a caring loving personality, that makes you feel good about yourself then you may find that the two have you can shape up together if need be that is what I did
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| 3/8/2008 4:19:49 PM | Please offer your opinion.... | |
magtag
East York, ON
age: 41 online now!
| good point truegrace...and what a great way to spend time with someone you're interested in...something I believe is key in a good relationship is having similar values and goals and doing something like this together is actually acting on those similarities.
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| 3/8/2008 4:24:13 PM | Please offer your opinion.... | |
luvzhugz12
Richardson, TX
age: 42
| Well I love men! And men who are healthy and in shape are wonderful. I work out 3 days a week and I'm very healthy, don't get sick, eat foods that are great for me and I'm still not an athletic or thin woman. I want the same in a man. They don't have to have a six pack, but they do have to have energy to face the day and whatever it may hold.
To specifically answer your question, no I haven't run into that verbally, but there may be those that have thought it. Oh well, I'm a fun person with or without them.
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| 3/8/2008 4:30:51 PM | Please offer your opinion.... | |
im_vika
Brooklyn, NY
age: 33
| A shadow dating a supermodel??? I'd say that's delusional.
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| 3/8/2008 4:34:37 PM | Please offer your opinion.... | |
justlooking630
West New York, NJ
age: 48
| I'm full figure in great shape and fit ,,,,Love to walk and yes you have to be attracted to the person your with. But I'm with Chopper on this it's the personality that's what I look for ...You can be with the most beautiful person and there in nothing on the inside ....
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| 3/8/2008 4:34:45 PM | Please offer your opinion.... | |
susie_seashore
Daytona Beach, FL
age: 51
| I think that both men and women who are "in shape" are probably looking for the same in a partner. Personalities do matter but when trying to find someone this way, on the dating site, you can't get to know someone by their personality because you can't get past the looks. It's like shopping out of a catalog, if it doesn't catch your eye, you simply turn the page.
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| 3/8/2008 4:36:12 PM | Please offer your opinion.... | |
christi8680
Ithaca, NY
age: 39
| I'm 5'2" and 130lbs. Some people say that I'm heavy for my height, some say I'm thin. I believe that I'm fine for me. Being heavy, doesn't necessairly mean that someone isn't healthy. I have always been on the "chubby" side, in my own eyes. I've lost over 60 pounds in the last couple years........it hasn't really made a difference regarding people who are attracted to me. People who get to know me say I'm a beautiful person, no matter what size I am........and I tend to agree.
You are pretty woman, and NO you shouldn't listen to others. If you like someone, you like them. Can't change the facts. Right?
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