| 3/7/2008 9:37:35 PM | Wondering how long people have chatted before meeting someone? | |
animalbites
Costa Mesa, CA
age: 42
| Hey, wondering how long people generally chat with one another online or e-mailing before they actually decide to take the pludge and go out.? I know it depends on the situation but what are some of your experiences.?
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| 3/7/2008 9:58:30 PM | Wondering how long people have chatted before meeting someone? | |
mljsnowbunny
Claremont, NH
age: 47
| Most guys want a phone # just after a wink and you reply with a thank you, then you say you want to chat for a little while and they think after 4 or 5 e-mails they are enjoying your company so much that they want to spend the rest of their lives with you.... be careful of your e-mails {smiles} but for some I would say the guys would want to meet rather quickly, I do not jump so fast as if you tell then no a couple of time they back off then never talk to you again.... ggeezzzzz, I wonder what they wanted.
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| 3/7/2008 9:59:02 PM | Wondering how long people have chatted before meeting someone? | |
belladreams
Binghamton, NY
age: 38
| Hi animal nice to meet you. Well actually i would like to get to know someone over the phone first and know their likes and dislikes before i got out and actually meet the guy. Some guys just want to meet you right away at a bar, or at a local restaurant and get it all over with. Depends on what you feel is more comfortable. Some guys can be on the defensive side. I know some women who almost waited a month. I usually wait at least two weeks. That is my limit, and then i go meet. I do this because i am a single mother and i have a boy to raise and i have other obligations to attend to. If it works out, it works out, and if it doesn't, I just keep looking forward.
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| 3/7/2008 10:04:51 PM | Wondering how long people have chatted before meeting someone? | |
mrmindcandy
Martinsburg, WV
age: 47
| The few encounters I have had, the lady suggested to give me her phome #. It was also her idea to meet. We chatted for a few days, then she gave me her home #. A few more days pass and we make arragements to have dinner at a Mexican resturant. We both had a great time. To answer your question, "when you feel comfortable enough". 
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| 3/8/2008 12:40:47 AM | Wondering how long people have chatted before meeting someone? | |
lonelyguy2008
Meridian, MS
age: 40
| Im new to this, and obviously kinda old fashioned by sum a th messages I get. I havent asked 4 any or 2 see any1 yet but have got a few offers.  What happened 2 getting 2 know sum1 first?
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| 3/8/2008 5:33:01 AM | Wondering how long people have chatted before meeting someone? | |
adameve
Lacombe, LA
age: 46
| Becarefull, and wise, I never ask anyone for phone#; I talk to them; and tryed praying with them;But it seems they are not in to prayer.So I wait. But thats cool with me ; for I know I am looking for someone to pray with.And live a right life; Sex is wonderfull; But I am looking for LOVE. Sex is easy to fine, love is a lot harder.Truly I would like to go to church first; together. Not a bar.I believe thats why we have bad thing happen; Its lusts not LOVE. Sorry.
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| 3/8/2008 5:47:37 AM | Wondering how long people have chatted before meeting someone? | |
coppermare
Grady, AL
age: 48
| I've met someone after talking for a week and after talking for two years! The two year one was a LDR and circumstances kept getting in the way of meeting. Guess which one lasted the longest AFTER meeting? The two year email one.....
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| 3/8/2008 6:05:35 AM | Wondering how long people have chatted before meeting someone? | |
thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
| the people, i've actually met are the ones where I've had little chat and very few emails with.
I don't chat and or email for weeks at a time if the person lives locally. that's a waste of time in my opinion. if the objective is to talk and meet, if you have a vibe within the first few email exchanges, there is nothing wrong with a *67 or exchange of phone numbers and then set up a spot where she's comfortable in meeting. end of story
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| 3/8/2008 6:19:45 AM | Wondering how long people have chatted before meeting someone? | |
garnetlady
Cincinnati, OH
age: 48
| I have no set timeline, my trust level has to be way up there before I meet. I don't do the phone thing, I dislike the phone and my voice for that matter, so not a very good impression.  I've met after only talking about three weeks or for several months. It depends on the man and my comfort level.
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| 3/8/2008 9:57:37 AM | Wondering how long people have chatted before meeting someone? | |
animalbites
Costa Mesa, CA
age: 42
| Wow lots of great opinions out there. I appreciate all of them!
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| 3/8/2008 10:27:02 AM | Wondering how long people have chatted before meeting someone? | |
oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 47
| I like to meet fairly quicky, say after two weeks of emailing almost daily and chatting on the phone. Often one wants to know if the relationship is headed toward friendship only, or if there is some chemistry there that suggests the possibility for more.
Sometimes you can tell that the relationship is destined to be strictly platonic. Heck, there are guys here that I wouldn't mind buying a drink and playing pool with. Or, I'm corresponding with a 20 or 60 year old. But, when you're of appropriate genders, have interests and values in common, and feel there may be a physical attraction, I think it's important to meet sooner than later.
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| 3/8/2008 10:43:57 AM | Wondering how long people have chatted before meeting someone? | |
dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 45
| If you are interested in a local, then just get to know each other a bit, then phone, then set up a date. Just do it. Beating around the bush on a local connection is just a waste of time. Go do a quick meet and greet with them at a mall or coffee shop. Some where safe where the two of you can meet. From there, you can decide weather or not you want to go out again.
As for a long distance relationship, it would be best to have a longer internet courtship. As there is more at stake. The time and money, days off, traveling, are all reasons to get to know someone better before you commit to go see them.
Also keep in mind, what will happen if the two of you ARE the perfect match. If neither can or will realistically relocate, what's the reason for starting something that will never materialize?...
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| 3/8/2008 10:50:06 AM | Wondering how long people have chatted before meeting someone? | |
atlgarn
Longwood, FL
age: 53
| I've been faced with this a few times and it all depends on how the emails are going. Or the IM's. Eventually if all goes well, phone numbers are exchanged and then it builds from there. The shortest amount of time I spend chatting with someone before meeting was about 10 days. The longest? Still haven't met the guy I speak with daily for the past 13 months. Of course he's 10,000 miles away! LOL On that note however: I met another person that is 5,000 miles away after 5 weeks. Still maintaining the IM/phone/email/snail mail relationship and it's been going on since November '07. Now I'm going to meet up on his home turf in about a week and a half. Should be an adventure.
So it just depends on many factors: how you hit it off, how far away you are, etc.
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| 3/8/2008 10:56:22 AM | Wondering how long people have chatted before meeting someone? | |
wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 37 online now!
| i'v done anywhere from the same day to months.it all depends on how comfy you are.sometimes,it's better to take it slow and there's always an issue if there is distance between you.
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| 3/8/2008 10:56:58 AM | Wondering how long people have chatted before meeting someone? | |
luvzhugz12
Richardson, TX
age: 42
| Yes, if its local normally within a couple weeks at least for coffee just to see if you really have things of common interest. However, there have been times when due to schedules it has been a month or two before we got together. Enjoyed getting to know them online but don't want my relationship to be entirely typewritten.
I have been hesitant to pursue any LDR's for the reason Dutch mentioned. I would never expect a man to give up his career for me, and I would have to be completely committed to do so for him, and would hope they would understand that my career is just as important as theirs is. With that in mind, I would be skittish of getting involved with someone unless I was prepared to back it up with my actions.
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