| 3/8/2008 7:49:51 AM | A little advice good please? | |
lonely11980
Livonia, MI
age: 28
| I'm really torn on the subject of sex before marriage.I don't want it to be a reason to get married,but fear it might.I also don't want to break any of my vows as a christian.I am really torn and leaning towards sex before.A little advise would help allot.Also if someone let me know of some of the passages that refer to the subject I would really appreciate it. Thanks 
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| 3/8/2008 11:44:08 AM | A little advice good please? | |
oceans5555
Chevy Chase, MD
age: 64
| Hi, Lonely.
I hope you find your answer.
What vows as a Christian are you referring to?
Oceans
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| 3/8/2008 12:24:46 PM | A little advice good please? | |
stringsvrs
Syracuse, NY
age: 51 online now!
|  Brother Lonely
lonely11980
Livonia, MI
age: 28
I'm really torn on the subject of sex before marriage.I don't want it to be a reason to get married,but fear it might.I also don't want to break any of my vows as a christian.I am really torn and leaning towards sex before.A little advise would help allot.Also if someone let me know of some of the passages that refer to the subject I would really appreciate it. Thanks
My Brother,Before the great evolution of the Social Structure the Bond of Holy Matrimony was such a simple process.The attracted couple connected spiritually, then connected through copulation; Had their ups and downs like we all do in their relationships. If in their anger
they mutually separated then that was Divorce.
Why is it that everything is so difficult in these days as we advance in knowledge and spirituality? Does that piece of paper or our Social Structure truly mean more than what your spirits affirm with each of you?
Just a little something to muse over in your decision making process.
In Peace and Love
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| 3/8/2008 12:38:56 PM | A little advice good please? | |
skunkbreath
Saint James, MO
age: 89
| ..strings, "Had their ups and downs like we all do in their
relationships. "...
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| 3/8/2008 12:40:23 PM | A little advice good please? | |
stringsvrs
Syracuse, NY
age: 51 online now!
| Brother skunk
I see the pun in the fun
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| 3/8/2008 12:44:31 PM | A little advice good please? | |
skunkbreath
Saint James, MO
age: 89
| Yes, the spiritual in's and out's, so to speak...
Very good advice!...
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| 3/8/2008 3:23:11 PM | A little advice good please? | |
stringsvrs
Syracuse, NY
age: 51 online now!
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| 3/8/2008 9:07:08 PM | A little advice good please? | |
queenofhearts61
Seymour, IN
age: 62
| I do not understand why anyone would need to ask this question. I would think you would talk it over with your god.
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| 3/8/2008 9:29:00 PM | A little advice good please? | |
deathmetalman77
Crescent City, CA
age: 34
| Well the Bible condones rape and incest, so why not sex before marriage???? (Facts!)
My personal opinion, you should make sure that this is the woman that you want to spend the rest of your life with THIS time.
What if you get married and she's a dead fish and the chestry is not there. Then you are stuck like Chuck!!!
Make sure that you discuss it with her and plan a certain time to "experiment" after you have built the foundation for your relationship. That is MOST important!!!
You can also consider other options such as mutual "manual stimulation" to achieve mutual satisfaction. You know what I mean???? It can be very "handy"!!! Fun pun!!
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| 3/8/2008 10:45:14 PM | A little advice good please? | |
curiousone2
Springfield, IL
age: 42 online now!
| The advice here is good I think.
Sex wasn't considered "dirty" until the Industrial revolution, It was part of life, and people lived with it day in and day out.
Sex is a pwerful and important thing, and I don't think anyone should do it without being responsible and making sure that the partner is comfortable with the decision, and no unwanted pregancies or diseases are going to happen.
jesus says the two most important commandments are love god with all of your heart and soul, and Love one another.
The spiritual aspect of life, and how compassionate you are and placing value in spirit rather than acquisition, and ego, Is what God is concerned with.
when you want to share your time, body, life with someone, you are married. it means to be of the same spirit, of the same intention, when your well beings are intertwined, you are already married,
and when they are no longer entwined, If one of you doesn't want to be together anymore, then you are divorced in spirit. God is within you, it is your spirit sharing that with another person cannot be wrong unless it will damage that persons spirit. so make sure that it is done in an intelligent way, and love each other.
It is what you were created for.
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| 3/8/2008 10:50:22 PM | A little advice good please? | |
curiousone2
Springfield, IL
age: 42 online now!
| Queen,
"talk it over with your God,"
actually means that you will analyze what your spirit tells you you should do, good advice.
If you love her, and you think that loving her is a good, and right thing, It is spiritually correct, and therefore blessed by god, which also says to me
dude, you should double wrap it until you have enough money to have a kid without struggle, and let your wedding ceremony be taking a condom off maybe? ( although you want a new one every time)
also wearing two condoms, will help it last a little longer, and you both happier, just relax, and do what you know is right.
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| 3/9/2008 11:28:49 AM | A little advice good please? | |
skunkbreath
Saint James, MO
age: 89
| "wearing two condoms,-"....
Which movie was it where both Leslie Nielson and Lisa(?) Presley wear full body condoms.
you mean like that?..
[Edited 3/9/2008 11:31:16 AM]
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| 3/9/2008 12:10:42 PM | A little advice good please? | |
jewelz5
Monteagle, TN
age: 53 online now!
| I think the most responsible thing you could do, is to make damn sure you have plenty of love making sessions before you get married so you know exactly what the hell you are getting involved with.
Otherwise, it is a recipe for a disaster for your sexuality. Your sexual energy is the most strongest energy you have, so you better not overlook that very critical aspect of yourselves by a guilt trip from hell because of what a religion or someone else says.
Why do you think you even brought up this very topic in the first place aye? Because big daddy and company cannot control you without the use of fear and he needs to keep you afraid, very afraid so you feel quilty about getting it up and she feels quilty about giving it up.
That is why you don't understand and know how it is that you cannot ultimately enjoy your own sexualality, or why you were not taught from an early age to have any healthy ideas about what that very important aspect of yourself is all about. You were to never find out you are a power sexual being and that is why your rulers had to shut that down in a big way.
Big daddy invented the aids virus in a laboratory for depopulation control and to scare the holy hell out of you, so you couldn't have a good time in your life, and it worked. Just look at what you are reduced to discussing about your very personal affairs in an open forum.
Why do you think there are all these singles sites loaded with frigid women who don't understand why it is that they cannot connect with anyone of any substance, and who want to control you and are more concerned about their vanity and looking good, so they can go shopping and spend all their money, rather than making love to you?
Sleeping beauty is asleep remember? and big daddy does not want her to wake up. Otherwise all hell would break loose and he cannot have a bunch of happy sexually active freaks running loose on the streets for God sakes. You just might have good time in your life and I know you would just hate for that to happen. sheesh
It's called divide and conquer. And big daddy has divided you in order to conquer you and your relationships in the bedroom, so you could never ultimately get along with your mate, or big daddy would be in big trouble and his fraud scam job from hell on your very life would come to a screaching halt.
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| 3/9/2008 12:56:01 PM | A little advice good please? | |
lees224
Cohoes, NY
age: 50
| why do you think so many sites out there with so many frigid women,who cannot connect,with anyone of or with any substance
Because we r all human,and men r different than women,and on average(definatly not speaking for all) but men usually have more sex drive (heard somewhere that men think about sex like atleast once every six min.now have talked to many and I would say atleast once an hour,anyway women in general dont think the same way..
And women have usually more intuitive feeligs,usually do follow the heart first rather than the penis,or their brain,sorry guys,per y we usually get hurt faster or harder,and it can be hard to keep bouncing back as quickly(and as I dont normally think of sex as often as men so have more time to think in between..
and also if looking as a spiritual view GOD did make r bodies to be joined,to engage in sex,but he gave us concience to try your hardest to make sure all is right first(LOVE,TIME TO KNOW PARTNER,TRUST,KNOWLEDGE of OTHERS LIKES AND DISLIKES),and if man could only wait that long(MORE THAN SIX MINS.)lol maybe that would work better for the woman.
AND ask God to send u someone who might fit this profile,and yes Im still looking,but I will not give up cause this time have trully decided im waiting and not settling for what I might think is right for me.
and if all is good with relationship,and u cant live without this person,or sleep without this person,or dream to be without, this person than marry and, I think GOD will know,and u will know what true LOVE is and he will approve of this joining.
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| 3/9/2008 1:19:15 PM | A little advice good please? | |
curiousone2
Springfield, IL
age: 42 online now!
| I think if you think you can't live without the person, It is an addiction, and an attachment, and that means it is wgo based, and NOT love.
Love is having an invested interest in another humans well being
marriage is a quantifier, It says I like you BETTER than everyone else, and I think you are so much better than everyone else, that I am going to deprive myself of experiencing love with anyone else until I die.
it is not what God had in mind when he made us Love each other.
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