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3/12/2008 2:26:06 AMAm i cursed?? 

thundergod405
Oklahoma City, OK
age: 29

I promise this is not a post for pity and im not looking for encouragement at this point. Im just so damn frustrated that i had to let it out. I met someone at the movies the other day and we talked for a while and seemed to be hitting it off. We exchanged numbers and went about our day. We started talking on the phone for a few days and it seemed there was some interest. Well she called this morning and asked what I was doing this evening and if id like to go out.So we made plans for the evening and ended the call. Well naturally (because i havent been out in a while) i was seriously excited about the evening. I went and bought a new outfit (not that my closets empty but you know excitement) and bought some flowers for her. Well you can only guess at the rest. There i sat waiting in my new clothes with flowers in hand. I thought well maybe shes just nervous and gave her a call. No answer no callback. My excitement dissipated to say the least and here i am telling everyone this now. Am i cursed?? Is there any decent people left anymore?? not stereotyping (well a little) but not trying to. Thanks for letting me spout.

3/12/2008 2:35:38 AMAm i cursed?? 

justmemaree
Queensland
Australia
age: 45

Hey thunder................. im feelin for ya.....thats just soooooooo wrong....your not cursed, you are just another sincere person on this planet that has been duped, and with every negative there comes a positive!!! the positive being that she has lost out in getting to know a great person...........her loss, not yours!! keep on keeping on!!

3/12/2008 3:20:06 AMAm i cursed?? 

whomper
Greenwood, IN
age: 64

She called YOU up and asked you to go out, and then stood you up? ::signplease:

That doesn't make any sense at all. Maybe something happened that prevented her from keeping your date. Perhaps you should call her. She might be sick. Sometimes people have chronic illnesses that act up. Give her the benefit of a doubt.

I would call her and ask her (nicely) ask for a explanation.

I think it's really sweet that you bought her flowers. You'll find someone who will appreciate your consideration.

3/12/2008 3:25:16 AMAm i cursed?? 

musicman_zzz
Decatur, AL
age: 40

I've rarely seen that shoe being fitted in our direction, wow. Sorry to hear about that Thunder. First though, before you get too upset, or I should say, before you jump the gun entirely, at least give her the benefit of doubt. Maybe, and I sincerely hope that this isn't the case, but maybe something happened( and I don't "wan't" to say "bad", but given the way sh-t happens ) and she had to leave for some odd reason or another, and just didn't have the time, patience, and/or ability to, answer or call. People now days, live such fast paced lives, that it's sometimes hard to keep up with everyone and everything we would like, and then we've got that proverbial saying so many of us use, " what can go wrong, "will" go wrong ". God forbid something (bad) happened to "her". With all of the crazy drivers who truely "don't deserve to have a drivers license", out on our roads and freeways, and flyways( I so like to call them), we have to be even more careful and cautious now about the " other " driver.

If this just happened last night, or the night before or so, sometimes it pays to have a little patience, and understanding that sometimes things "do" happen, and "do" go wrong.

At least give the "both" of you, the benefit of doubt, that maybe something happened that called her away, and she couldn't help not being able to call you and let you know. It would be such a shame, if you found out that your first thought's, ( she stood me up ) were wrong, and left you embarrassed, and her saying ( hummmmm...... why is he (or)why should he be, so upset ) for jumping the gun too fast, and not giving her Ample time to respond.

Now on the other hand, if you find, that she just flat out "stood you up", without no respect for you by not at least calling to let you know? Well then, just swallow what's left of your pride, and quickly move on with your quest, knowing that you're the "better" for "not" overacting, and for giving her the benefit of doubt.

I hope it all works out for ya my friend.


And that's all I have to say abo-out tha-at ! ! !

Z I P



[Edited 3/12/2008 3:28:50 AM]

3/12/2008 3:35:15 AMAm i cursed?? 

cabaret
Lancashire
United Kingdom
age: 41

Well said Musicman, I agree, just didnt want to write it.

You could always get yourself another date quickly and then you could re use the flowers before they wilt! (Nothing like a practicle woman)

3/12/2008 3:39:20 AMAm i cursed?? 

flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 46

thundergod - may I ask a question? How does one go about asking for a date at the movies? I've seen guys there but I wouldn't dare even if if I liked the look of them. You Americans seem so game that way you go about things. Anyway I sympathize with you but that's life. I've been rejected before by guys so I guess we are all fair game.

3/12/2008 4:08:23 AMAm i cursed?? 

garnetlady
Cincinnati, OH
age: 48 online now!

I don't know what to say thunder, except I'm sorry that happened.

3/12/2008 4:35:01 AMAm i cursed?? 

irparis39
New York, NY
age: 48

You are not cursed.

Not that I hope anything to happen to her, but it would be the only reason for her callous and insensitive behaviour to not called and tell you she's been detained. I can't imagine ever being so cowardly that I at least go through the date if someone is waiting for me. That's just bad form and I am sorry it happened.

Paris

3/12/2008 5:04:08 AMAm i cursed?? 

lainey285
Belington, WV
age: 43

Thunder first of all you are not cursed. Yes there are some good women out there. Give her the benefit of the doubt. It seems like you both hit it off. Maybe something came up. Try to call again. I am sorry this happened to you. Take care

3/12/2008 5:06:48 AMAm i cursed?? 

jasmom
Quincy, IL
age: 35

Sorry Thunder...it's happened to me too. Don't waste too much sleep over her.It probably had more to do with her than you.

3/12/2008 5:21:46 AMAm i cursed?? 

damurf
Columbia, MO
age: 48

Have had the same type of thing happen to me several times, I think it is very rude and disrespectful to do to someone. Don't give up though, not everyone is like that...thank God!

3/12/2008 6:31:04 AMAm i cursed?? 

timetogolf
Au Gres, MI
age: 54

Thunder.....so sorry for what happened. I think we've all been there.
But I do agree with several of the others out here....give her a call and inquire as to what happened. I don't know the size of the community in which you live, but is it possible you agreed to meet someplace that has more than one of those places?? Like a Starbucks with one at one end of town and another at the other????
Or she could have taken ill. Give her benenfit of the doubt, be a gentleman and call her just to show that you are a quality guy who is concerned about her. If something did happen to her, she'll appreciate your kindness, and if she is the "bad witch" in this story, then at least you know her for who she is. Save that new outfit for someone who will appreciate it, and more importantly, you.
Good Luck.

3/12/2008 2:07:49 PMAm i cursed?? 

smileingheart
Bellingham, WA
age: 41

Thunder i`m sorry she did you like that.You will meet someone
nice who will treat you good.

3/12/2008 2:12:37 PMAm i cursed?? 

rlynn_1
Hedgesville, WV
age: 39

thunder just look at it this way ,she might not have been who you thought she was .