| 3/13/2008 6:42:31 AM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 46
| He's looking to see what else he can find................and I'm not a brain surgeon either.
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| 3/13/2008 6:48:10 AM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
marleyfan13
Boston, MA
age: 43
| TWO WORDS! RUN AWAY!
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| 3/13/2008 7:00:34 AM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
susyk65
Appleton, WI
age: 43
| He's addicted to the sites....and to women in general. Kick his ass to the curb...and save yourself the heartache and worry.
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| 3/13/2008 7:03:15 AM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| I have a few more "words" than Marley....LOL!
I think what I see happening here with Michael and the OP is the same as what I see everywhere on this site...
This is a FREE site.
Free = free to be here at no expense
as well as,
Free to write what you wish to
With whatever motives or personal agendas you have inside your OWN head and heart.
And when you - such as the OP, or Michael, as a private individual "express" in writing in the forums your opinions, concerns, FEARS - you allow yourself ot be not only judged, but ATTACKED by entire strangers - who feel justified in extremely bad, negative, and often painful words aimed at harming you.
And why? Because they themselves have alot of hurt and anger from someone else who has done the same thing to them.
It happens over and over here.
And it happens in the name of - "Free speech", "protecting their family/loved one" and sometimes it's just plain old - revenge or jealousy.
Whatever - it's wrong.
And before anybody - any PERSON out here decides to tell me I'm not accurate with this summary - why don't you stop what you're doing right now - take a look at yourself and think about HOW you would feel to be so exposed and attacked by total strangers.
It's a rape of a far different sort.
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| 3/13/2008 7:04:27 AM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
bbwtreasure
Winfield, IL
age: 45
| What bothers me most is the attitude he gave you about it. If he loved you he should have not been so defensive about it. If he loves you he would be work to reassure you about the relationship not leaving you to second guess what is going on. If there is doubt, trust your gut.
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| 3/13/2008 7:12:04 AM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
pwin_here_n_now
Annapolis, MD
age: 38
| Number 1) If he can still "check these women out" Check his profile to see what it says.
Number 2) You need to confront him in person (not over the phone) and ask him what is going on. If he circumvents the question and becomes accusatory- then he is probably up to no good.....
On the postive side.... as I have seen done here many times - you can post a pic together stating that you are taken, and still manage to keep in contact with people you have made freinds with together. Or both agree not to scope the dating sites and take your profiles down.
If it is your computer.... It is your right to check the history. If it is his computer then you should stay out - tho I know all too well, when a woman's instinct kicks in - It does so for a reason.
Bottom line listen to the red flags - They pop up for a reason!
My best to you!
Peace!
P.Win
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| 3/13/2008 7:27:16 AM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
saffire_eyes
Clearfield, UT
age: 38
| lioness you do not want to play detective for the rest of your life (yes I know you stumbled upon the history I am not getting on to you about you finding it) what I am saying is after this you will be on guard and yes he will have a good excuse because he has been given plenty of time to think of one just like gabi said. I am speaking from experience I use to be in a relationship with someone (living with him) one day I was cleaning and went into the office and I could tell that my presence made him a bit nervous (he was reading his email and clicked out of some things really fast anyway he showed me a thing on youtube and I wanted to send it to my sister but he clicked out of it before I could tell him to send it to her . So he said here you do it so I opened an email to compose it then clicked on the recent history to bring it back up and wow the list that came up I was shocked!!!!! and confronted him and he said " it was because he was bored" he felt I spent to much time cleaning grrrr I responded to him with " maybe I wouldnt take so much time cleaning if you got off your butt and helped instead of in here chatting to other women and checking out profiles on dating sites. I told him there is no excuse to be doing that stuff and if he EVER did it again that would be it . (that just made me go into detective mode and sure enough he did it again and I left. NO trust NO relationship shouldnt have wasted either of our time. I think some people are fishers for life and they will continue looking. After I left him I found out through his friends he had gone out with some of them and there were affairs. My advice ... (you said he moved in with you) is pack his shit and dont listen to his excuse.
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| 3/13/2008 7:35:31 AM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| pwin and saffire - you girls rocked with sage words! great job!
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| 3/13/2008 9:11:54 AM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
eightinchbend
Gadsden, AL
age: 44 online now!
| Hello everyone,
First off, it would appear that Simpleman is taking on quite a thumping. Whether you think he has opened himself to this or not, you must at least give him a considerable amount of credit for hanging on until the final bell rings. He sounds like the type that will stand his ground; more power to him if he can go the distance.
I took time to read Lioness's profile; it is written in a way that could strike enough curiosity in a person to send a first-contact email, or a Wink. So, when Simpleman says the profile does not tell him much, there is some truth in his words. I also do not think his remarks regarding Lioness's subscription to other Websites similar to DH was meant to slander her.
If anyone, including Simpleman, wanted to have more insight to Lioness's situation, it could be found within her posts to the forum. Please note, this discussion thread she has created is her first. Prior to this moment, she has tweleve posts. There is a gap between 11/07 and 03/08. This gap supports a comment I found about time spent in her relationship. She also has mentioned other community Websites, how she came to know this man, and her interests with forums. Read them all for yourself; how it came to pass that she originated this topic is easily understood. I can understand concerns she has about finding information in her email account on her personal computer. I am curious to know why he did not employ his own computer, or laptop. An additional concern would be whether or not he has violated any of her sensitive information. He only mentioned these other Cyber profiles during a phone conversation. Would he have said anything on his own if she had not found these files?
Her forum history indicates she really likes the people here in the DHU discussions, so give her more encouragement.
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| 3/13/2008 9:38:32 AM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
lust4love
Atco, NJ
age: 37
| Is he really away on business or is he giving some new lady his business ?
I think its a bad sign if he is still browsing single women.
There are a couple things he could be doing here.
He maybe one of those guy searching for a sugar mama. someone to pay his bills
or maybe he is just addicted to meeting new women.I got like that for awhile. I did'nt
want to settle for anyone but I don't think if I moved in with someone I would try that.
Im wondering how much of an age diffence there is here ? That may be a factor although you look super for 49.
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| 3/13/2008 9:59:44 AM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
surelyugest
Nanaimo, BC
age: 50
| I might be missing something here.... does his profile actually say he's still seeking? did it say that when you met him? maybe he never altered it. If this was the case then I would exxpect he would.. rather than be defensive and talk about his privacy being invaded.. say to you it's no big deal and we can do something aboutit when he returns from being out of town. Chances are though no matter what his intentions are on the site he didn't expect you to throw that at him from left field rather than waiting til he got back. Therefore.. defensive. He does have a little 'splainin to do though and hopefully you'll keep an open enough mind to listen.
As for what you find on your computer.. that's yours to look at and as someone there said.. under your roof and as a partner, there's no reason for this to have been kept secret.
good luck
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| 3/13/2008 10:07:57 AM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
blond227
Nottingham, MD
age: 54
| Lioness 7
I had the same thing happen to me only we had not moved into togeather. We were dating for a little over 3 months. I saw him 5 days out of the week, every week. He refered to me as his girlfriend and himself as my boyfriend. A week earier he said he had fallen in love with me. Everything was great until my oldest daughter asked me to send her a pic of him, so I went to the dating site where we met and saw he was actively looking that day. I myself felt much like you. It really hurt me. When I asked him about this his responce was that it was no big deal. He just liked looking and he saw no harm in it. I did not share his feelings. It left me with the feeling he was looking and if he found something better, he would check it out. That honestly did not set well with me. I really did care for him, but I also cared enough about myself that I walked away. He has called a few times but I have never returned his calls. In my heart he was a player and that was not what I was looking for. I wish you the very best of luck and hope everything works out for you!!!
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| 3/13/2008 10:14:57 AM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
kenb5b01
Northport, WA
age: 44
| And when you - such as the OP, or Michael, as a private individual "express" in writing in the forums your opinions, concerns, FEARS - you allow yourself ot be not only judged, but ATTACKED by entire strangers - who feel justified in extremely bad, negative, and often painful words aimed at harming you.
~ GSB ~
I hate to say this dear but I think that entire post was out of line and uncalled for.
Why? Well your perception is flawed because of the fact that the OP asked for the opinions of others. When a person airs their laundry publicly and requests the input and opinions of others one invites ALL comers.
I think it is unfair and unrealistic for a person to ask people to peek inside the intricacies of ones personal life and then scream foul because their life is exposed.
And before anybody - any PERSON out here decides to tell me I'm not accurate with this summary - why don't you stop what you're doing right now - take a look at yourself and think about HOW you would feel to be so exposed and attacked by total strangers.
It's a rape of a far different sort.
If I ask somebody to evaluate my personal life, it is ridiculous to take exception to the offered perception of those evaluations.
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| 3/13/2008 1:31:46 PM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
cece123
Warren, MI
age: 48
| Hold up.... moved into gether after three months.... tip... ONLY FOOLS RUSH IN!!!!
My mamma would say... "men stop looking when they are 10 feet under."
When my last husband and I were first dating... he had roaming eyes... for those little hotties at the bar... I got p-o'ed... one night and said.... Ya know if you keep this up, I am gonna tell that young lady, that I am your sister and you want to F#*k her...., and it will be the end of us bud... From that day on... his eyes were on me....
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| 3/13/2008 1:43:43 PM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
me4aminute_1
Rutland, IA
age: 35
| This is JMO, but why ask people on a dating site what the right answer is? I'm sure we all could be talking to someone that is just like the man you are with and would never know it. Heck someone that posted in this thread could be doing the same thing. I'm not saying he is right or wrong. Only you can decide that.
If it were me I would wait for him to get home and you both talk it out and if you still have those funny feelings just ask him while you are sitting right beside him to email these women about you and the situation that he is currently in. If he says okay you know you are good if he says no.........you know to start packing his things. JMO
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