| 3/12/2008 1:29:36 PM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
lioness7
Oklahoma City, OK
age: 49
| Guys - Need your opinions, please. I got into a new relationship about 3 of months ago -met him at another dating site. We decided to give living together a try with the view of it becoming permanent. Just found out that although he LOVES me - he's still ck'ing
out women at the site where we met - even though when he moved in with me, I deleted my
profile there. I accidently found their pics - and other things, on my computer. Haven't
gotten to confront him yet face to face as he is out of town, but it was mentioned during
phone calls. He said "it doesn't mean anything - that it's just entertainment". And got
very mad and accused me of invading his privacy. I found the stuff while in MY EMAIL
Favorites history area and was shocked to my soul. Still am in shock and deeply hurt and
wondering if he is playing me.   
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| 3/12/2008 1:33:15 PM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
outdoor4me
Houston, TX
age: 53
| Probably is just entertainment. Send him some good links to you-tube to keep him occupied. Maybe there are other sites in your area where people post to forums, and are not just for singles. Good luck.
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| 3/12/2008 1:35:56 PM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
fl_zx_ride
Orlando, FL
age: 20
| If he wants just entertainment, tell him to go to youporn.com I don't mean to sound sexist or anything, (I don't know if that did, really) but things do happen. Now, if he is trying to meet other people and meet up with them, then ditch him. If he is looking to see what else is out there, chances are he may be thinking about dropping the relationship if he can find something else.
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| 3/12/2008 1:36:30 PM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
aka_neo
Marathon, FL
age: 51
| He's playing you and using you to save money on the cost of housing and food.
Use the force young lady ,get him out of your life .
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| 3/12/2008 1:36:49 PM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
crowdog3
Ponca City, OK
age: 34
| He is playing you for sure...other wise he wouldn't accuse you of what he did unless he has something too hide
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| 3/12/2008 1:38:10 PM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
smileingheart
Bellingham, WA
age: 41
| I agree he is playing you.
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| 3/12/2008 1:39:28 PM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
stormygrl
Longmont, CO
age: 42
| Kick his ass to the curb
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| 3/12/2008 1:39:53 PM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 46 online now!
| I wouldn't trust him. He's kept secrets from you that a reasonable person would believe would upset you if you knew. That's "cheating" by many standards.
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| 3/12/2008 1:41:17 PM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
bigguy1234
Spokane, WA
age: 44
| Wow. He moved in and is still ck'ing out other women? To me there are several things here that bother me and would have me being cautious. His stating that you invaded "his privacy" is a concern. If the information is on your computer and under your roof, then you have every right to know what is going on. Also, his defensiveness is a concern. Why the reaction if it is just for "entertainment" only? Maybe a sit down face to face would help the two of you get a better understanding. It would be best to find out now what his definition of LOVES you, rather than find out when something else happens. Hope this helps some.
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| 3/12/2008 1:41:25 PM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
carnut1968
Fond du Lac, WI
age: 49
| I wouldn't be checking out anyone else if I had you!!! My profile would have been deleted as soon as we started dating I think he's using you no reason too still be looking
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| 3/12/2008 1:42:17 PM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
traveljunkie
Pittsburgh, PA
age: 38
| I'm not defending him but I think the angst of dating sites and personal companies is that with so many to choose from, you may be absolutely happy with the person your dating but still wondering if there's not more out there. I'm not saying that's the case here at all. Just got me to thinking.
If you guys are living together and sharing things, such as the computer, you should respect his privacy. Maybe he made friendships on the site he'd like to retain inspite of his love for you. It's hard to tell. I don't think it's great that he's still browsing the site but then again, it could be completely innocent. Best to have a rational conversation with him, without accusing him of anything - otherwise, he may completely clam up and think you don't trust him. A two-way conversation about honestly why he prefers to remain on the site and your concerns about him remaining on the site would be best. And be prepared for an answer you might not like. He might be completely into you and still want to maintain connections with a few gal-pals he's made. You don't want to appear insecure even if that's the way you are feeling about it. Also, if you chose to remove your page, that was your decision. Did you two sit down and discuss removing both pages or did you do that on your own? You shouldn't expect him to act/react exactly as you. If you want him to remove his account you should simply express that. Again, in the end it will be his decision to remove himself or not. We can only control ourselves and our own actions. Sadly. =) If only we could impose ourselves on the ones we love and get them to understand and do things our way....hum, that's never going to work or happen. We all have free will.
I wish you the best and hope you both can work through this!!!!
Very truly,
TJ
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| 3/12/2008 1:45:40 PM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
crowdog3
Ponca City, OK
age: 34
| Not too sound rude here, but also after only knowin each other for 3 months he moves in?
Sounds like you both could be just goin off of looks with each other and that's it, or you are really lonely and this guy told you everyhing that you wanted too hear, and you fell for it JMO
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| 3/12/2008 1:46:03 PM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
lioness7
Oklahoma City, OK
age: 49
| AKA...thank you kind sir for complimenting my age. And Carnut...thank you for your
compliment, too. So far, most of you guys are saying what I am fearing.
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| 3/12/2008 1:49:59 PM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
crowdog3
Ponca City, OK
age: 34
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| 3/12/2008 1:51:04 PM | Guys! Need your opinion, please. "He loves me" but he's still ck'ing | |
lioness7
Oklahoma City, OK
age: 49
| Crowdog...thanks for your opinion. We didn't just jump into things, I assure you. However, now I am wondering if all he said were just to get the relationship further.
And he went through some really bad times WITH me when I know that most guys would have
said...call me when your life settles down. I thought that indicated that he really did
care about me. Now I'm so confused!
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