| 3/14/2008 6:27:51 AM | Revealing the true nature of ourselves-- the flip side | |
dreambuilder07
Gaithersburg, MD
age: 48
| Looking back now, especially with thoughts about what first brought you together, what are the things that failed in your relationship with your ex, and what does that reveal about yourself now.
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| 3/14/2008 6:29:46 AM | Revealing the true nature of ourselves-- the flip side | |
fdman911
Mount Holly, NJ
age: 47
| Communication...alot of anemosity over dumb stuff.That maybe it wasn't a 50/50 relationship
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| 3/14/2008 6:33:42 AM | Revealing the true nature of ourselves-- the flip side | |
saffire_eyes
Clearfield, UT
age: 38
| I gave to many chances. I thought it would prove to them I loved them and if they knew how much I loved them then they wouldnt do those things that hurt me . WRONG ! Now.... I expect as much back as given. I listen to my gut and act upon it.
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| 3/14/2008 6:56:15 AM | Revealing the true nature of ourselves-- the flip side | |
adelinesmother
Fremont, NE
age: 37
| I was settling by being with him. Realized I deserved better, that my life didnt have to be that way. That was 8 yrs ago...so have learned alot along the way.
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| 3/14/2008 7:11:11 AM | Revealing the true nature of ourselves-- the flip side | |
dreambuilder07
Gaithersburg, MD
age: 48
| I think my choice of her was some what based on her timidity. She brought me into her life and made me feel king of her world, and that meant the world to me. Even though I was reluctant to fully commit at first, I came around and committed to a lifetime of love and togetherness. Gently, as time went forward, she recognised my need for empathy and support, and began to withhold that spiritual support. But this is more an indication of my lack of true confidence, rather than suceptibility to manipulation. Eventually, the most effective manipulation of all was to abandon me entirely, and the impact was and is devastation. So, for me now, I have this great gap in my life to fill, but lack the courage. The days go on, the kids need a Dad, and I am looking to find some semblance of me. I smile and pretend, and spend lonely times online, thinking that is an avenue to ending misery.
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| 3/14/2008 7:34:47 AM | Revealing the true nature of ourselves-- the flip side | |
ladynwaiting_47
Philadelphia, PA
age: 48
| Dreambuilder, it is hard to understand that we have to be whole people ourselves before we can be part of a couple.
We are not two halves that make a whole, but two wholes that make each other better.
[Edited 3/14/2008 7:35:09 AM]
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| 3/14/2008 7:57:50 AM | Revealing the true nature of ourselves-- the flip side | |
coppermare
Grady, AL
age: 48
| Hmm dreams sounds a little familiar.
My first one was an addicted alcoholic and druggy. I divorced him when the kids got grown and I'd had quite enough. Yep sometimes takes me a while to have my fill but once I do..it's gone!
The second may be a little like yours. But I think a jealous daughter played the biggest part of it.
I learned so very much from both relationships it would be to much to type here. In short, like the song says " I may not know what love is, but I know what it aint"
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| 3/14/2008 8:04:58 AM | Revealing the true nature of ourselves-- the flip side | |
luvzhugz12
Richardson, TX
age: 42
| I learned that both my husband and I did not have good examples on how to settle conflict when growing up and took that into our marriage. I have now been having to concentrate on learning new ways to do this so I can go into my next relationship a healthier person.
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