| 3/16/2008 8:38:55 PM | No nice guys | |
jj197622
Fort Worth, TX
age: 32
| The following below is from a blog from a smart, beautiful woman that i think rings al ot of truth on what a woman should look for in a man and what a man should strive to become.
3 legged dog out
By pammey
http://www.[blocked site].com/ursoocoool
I Don't Want a Nice Guy
Category: Religion and Philosophy
I don't want a nice guy. I don't want a guy who is nice and says all the right things. "Step inside me - see my mind - see my life. Feel it with me." Open me with welcome arms into his deepest thoughts and troubled mind - use my emotions to gain his strength. One who will feed off my very soul - he is so nice and he needs me.
But he is not the man I thought he was.
The thing about a women worth having is - she cares. She can see past your failings, your strange unyielding desires and your weakness - to the man you could be. She will call you out on the things you thought you had cleverly hidden. She is willing to help you get there. She loves you for the man you are and are capable of becoming - she sees you as her hero...
But there are two types of men. One who embraces this woman - he is strong and recognizes he needs that woman to give him the comfort he craves to carry on, to make his dreams come true - make their dreams come true. He sees the value and will never let her go. He sees that softness in her eyes, in her body, in her soul and he wants her to stay that way. To be a woman. He will be a strong man for her so that she can be what her heart desires to be, the best woman she can be for him.
Then the other man. He sees opportunity. He sees hope in her eyes and he feeds off of it. He waits and bides his time in her heart. She may not realize soon enough to save her feelings but she will come to know. He is good at sucking out her life force without returning anything to her, until she finally needs to save her own life and not continue to drown in his - he has no purpose - he is lost. Flattering and sweet at the right times. But he does not stand up for himself - his beliefs - he backs down from the world and he feels like a coward. So who does he take his feeling of inadequacy out on? The woman who has stood by him is the easy target.
What kind of man are you?
God intended for a man to be strong, passionate, confident and full of love - for life, for people, for children for God. He is to be the leader worth following. When he is weak he turns to her for strength and she is there, just waiting to hold him and tell him how strong he truly is. She respects him. Worth giving your heart to, worth your heart - trusting him with it. He is made in the image of God and his life shows it.
He is not a nice guy - he is a man.
What a precious gift a woman is to this man. What amazing love he will have - all his desires met with passion unequaled. He will be satisfied. He will be the definition of a man.
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| 3/16/2008 9:09:31 PM | No nice guys | |
nashoba_miko
Oklahoma City, OK
age: 39
| EXACTLY JJ!! See the man "inside".
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| 3/16/2008 9:50:15 PM | No nice guys | |
belle37
Cocoa, FL
age: 37
| even men that appear to be an asshole may have reason why and get to know him and see may open up and not be an asshole after all ,
most people put a shield we put up so dont judge poeple so quick i know easier too but miss out on great people sometimes if you do
i like nice guys not knocking you actually men but let me rephrase my self ...
if you meet someone that seems rough around edges ,defense male or female ,take time to get to know them,even nice guys tend to shy away from woman that aint ideal ladies ,so it goes both ways
if it was easy for any of us who are nice to meet good people ,we would not be single
me i guess some men seem to nice and im afraid nice is just a front like my ex husband was ,
just be yourself guys being to nice can run some of us off too and its not you being nice guy it is what might be hiding behind
[Edited 3/16/2008 10:07:08 PM]
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| 3/16/2008 9:59:46 PM | No nice guys | |
mrandrews247
Tampa, FL
age: 27
| And this is why I am the nice guys that are left in this world here and i will prove it 
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| 3/16/2008 10:04:24 PM | No nice guys | |
onelife2live
Janesville, WI
age: 43
| Don't judge a book by it's cover. I look like an ass, sound like an ass (most of the time) but really I'm not. Same with women.
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| 3/16/2008 10:07:01 PM | No nice guys | |
chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47
| onelife2live ... you've got a really nice cover. Don't see an ass and I've not read any ass-inine stuff from you. So no ... not an ass
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| 3/16/2008 10:08:38 PM | No nice guys | |
belle37
Cocoa, FL
age: 37
| well glad some one sees my point ...nice man out to prove it ,read again please
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| 3/16/2008 10:36:31 PM | No nice guys | |
onelife2live
Janesville, WI
age: 43
| Thanks Chopper, you are such an ass............j/k Great cover as well.
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| 3/16/2008 11:21:46 PM | No nice guys | |
flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 46
| onelife2lilve - you are such a donkey!
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| 3/17/2008 1:46:34 AM | No nice guys | |
drumrman
Belmont, MA
age: 43 online now!
| can 1 read a book on howe to become a nice guy. 
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| 3/17/2008 2:26:36 AM | No nice guys | |
babygirl63
Holden, MO
age: 44
| I have to agree with one life
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| 3/17/2008 2:44:33 AM | No nice guys | |
mosplace
Boulder City, NV
age: 46
| No books no movies its combined in one word for all "RESPECT"
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| 3/20/2008 11:38:58 AM | No nice guys | |
nottoold1952
Manchester, NH
age: 55
| To be a nice guy is kind of a play on words.It is usually mistaken for being an easy target for a trip to the "friend zone".They always say they're looking for a nice guy but usually that makes it look like they are nice too. REALITY CHECK!!!
Bad boys win out most of the time because they are more sure of themselves and that's what women like.
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| 3/20/2008 11:49:34 AM | No nice guys | |
evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35
| I used to be nice.. then I remembered I have a huge penis.
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