| 3/19/2008 8:53:02 AM | What dose it take???? | | 
milo622
Massillon, OH
age: 39
| By most of the standards here I'm considered to still be a newbie.I've only been a member for a few months and gotta tell ya I'm very discouraged and frustrated right now.I'm 39 yrs old and divorced have been that way for almost 8 yrs now and have tried probably every form of dating known to man from dating services to internet dating and guess what?I'm still single.I'm a hard working honest guy. I did have some people show interest but it seems to quickly wane. I feel that I have a lot to offer. I have a good job, am honest, highly respect women. Yet being on here has brought my confidence level down. I am non religious and I work different hours. Also I don't smoke and rarely drink and the club scene does not interest me.I have taken the time to actually speak to women and write to them. After a while I've kind of started to feel like theres not much you can do to come off as appealing.I just have felt disillusioned from coming on here. I thought it would be easier to get to talk and converse with women than this. Show a sign of goodheartedness and genuinity to them. Yet it seems like your not really given much of a chance.I have a hard time believing it would be like this for me in real life.Anyway,I thought online dating would help.I feel like it's not worth it. Sometimes I feel like i'm not attractive anymore when I use this site. I eat very healthy and have a good shape. I take care of my body. I'm not muscular but I feel I look good for my age. This site has kind of maded me feel like women are impossible to meet.I feel like to women I don't exist.It just makes me feel dejected. Like being as I am is not good enough. I don't like being negative. I had a very high opinion of myself but I'm also humble.Now I feel just like theres no way to make women happy. It bothers me because im almost 40 now and I feel like the best years of my life are passing me by.I feel that I am very intelligent, knowledgeable, good looking but women seem to be cold towards me and now I just don't have any faith I can meet someone.I don't want to wake up one day at fifty looking at the mirror and saying why. Yet I feel like I don't "fit" like other people do.
Has dating changed so much in the last 8yrs?What dose it take to get a response from someone?If I play the odds and follow what society says then 1 out of every 10 women I reply to should respond back.Well,not the case.I've replied to well lets just say a lot and I get the same message......."Read" or "Deleted Read".Why is it so hard for someone to send along a little message even if to say "Sorry,not interested"at least then I will feel like I was taken seriously.Anyway,just my .02 cents
O k ladies,any advice or suggestions could help.I leave it to your lovely hands
Later
| | 3/19/2008 9:03:40 AM | What dose it take???? | | 
curious70000
Wyandotte, MI
age: 46
| I haven't looked at your profile yet, but i wonder how serious about "real" dating people are on this "free" hook up site? i have found most people upon speaking with via e-mail and on their profiles have honestly posted, just trying this out, just looking around, i was curious thought i'd see what this stuff is about. From reading some threads i also get this impression, also how many peeps are in your immediate area, many of us are curious and actually only curious about people who are close enough that we might take the plunge and actually meet them someplace, personally i'm not really that wild about this type of forum, and i'm sure like myself people are more picky about who they date from meeting on line, than they would be off the street? I'll check out your profile, maybe something on their is keeping you from getting responses. Have you checked out the place in your profile " who has viewed me recently"? I'll hit send, then check out your profile.
| | 3/19/2008 9:10:07 AM | What dose it take???? | | 
stormygrl
Longmont, CO
age: 42
| Ok I've got you beat - I've been divorced for 18 years........and in the past 12 almost 13 years - I've had maybe 4 - 5 dates. But I don't really look for love very hard...if it happens to me then that would be great, but also since I've been alone and single for so long I'm very used to it, yeah it gets lonely sometimes but I have a 12 year old daughter so I'm never alone. All I can say is hang in there....but don't let it get you down.
| | 3/19/2008 9:13:48 AM | What dose it take???? | |
curious70000
Wyandotte, MI
age: 46
| Well your profile surely states that you are picky, and you also state at least twice, if not more times you state, if this or that, " don't bother contacting me" (that is very stand offish, even if a person isn't paticularly this or that, it comes off negatively)ummmm here's a biggie, this is the one that cracks me up about alot of male ads,,,roflmbo, this one kills me, you admit, at least you admit it, you are overweight, YET you are looking for someone who can be a supermodel in a bikini for you over the summer, you mention also, you like movies but rather wait for the dvd's cause it's cheaper, and you are a bit on the shorter side,,,,, so,,, we have a short heavy dude, who is really picky and wants a hottie in a bikini, who unless you want to be in a seroius relationship is told not to contact you? Comes off very controlling and somewhat hypocritical? just my opinion, but you did ask.
| | 3/19/2008 9:21:39 AM | What dose it take???? | | 
lonesomeloser
Louisville, KY
age: 49
| everyone on this site is full of shit...including myself......i think it's more of a time killer then a place to meet anyone...i know i wouldnt wanna meet anyone from here....
| | 3/19/2008 9:24:23 AM | What dose it take???? | | 
sunnyboy59
Queensland
Australia
age: 48
|  Lonseome...
| | 3/19/2008 9:36:47 AM | What dose it take???? | | 
ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 41 online now!
| Hey Milo, I use to live in your area. Heck goto Kenmore. Lots of chicks who put out over there.
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