| 3/19/2008 9:57:23 AM | When should you introduce someone you are dating to your child? | |
bama1234
Smyrna, TN
age: 37
| I have been in relationships in the past that have not worked out for whatever reason. My little girl will still ask me about certain woman from time to time. I usually wait a few weeks before introducing them, but should I maybe wait longer? 
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| 3/19/2008 11:21:28 AM | When should you introduce someone you are dating to your child? | |
shy2706
Syracuse, IN
age: 20
| I just took a class on divorce and how our children handle new mommies and daddies in their lives. It was recommended that parents should start off by introducing their children to the person as a friend. Keep the touchy-feely on a low profile around the children for the first 6 months to 1 year. Once the person is introduce as a significant other the children will have already had time to adjust to the person and probably feel more comfortable with that person your dating.
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| 3/19/2008 11:27:27 AM | When should you introduce someone you are dating to your child? | |
drub22boy
Kaukauna, WI
age: 32
| I think it depends upon the age of the child of course.
Under ten, I would wait a while. Kids any younger than that get attached very quickly.
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| 3/19/2008 3:12:43 PM | When should you introduce someone you are dating to your child? | |
hardrain
Myrtle Beach, SC
age: 45
| I'll think about it for 6 months then wait six months then think about it for 6 more months and then maybe i would.
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| 3/19/2008 6:49:14 PM | When should you introduce someone you are dating to your child? | |
hey_rucountry
Barre, MA
age: 41
| I believe that you should introduce them as a friend too. I just went through the same thing, however, my 10 year old does not have a father figure in his life, so any man that I even talk to, he gets attached to. Even the cable guy or anyone that he see's me talking to a man, he asks if I like him or tells me he would probably be a great dad as he is sooooo desperate to have a male in his life.
Be very careful - and never talk down about their mother when you have another woman in your life. It just doesn't go well together.
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| 3/19/2008 6:55:51 PM | When should you introduce someone you are dating to your child? | |
divorceddadof2
Vernal, UT
age: 38
| keep your kids out of your dateing life. they get attached, even as teenagers, and they get hurt. I've been here before. i would not introduce them untill your ready for marrage.
i believe kid's lives are screwed up enough after divorce. they don't need there parents dateing problems on top of it. always do what is in your childrens best intrest.
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| 3/19/2008 9:31:36 PM | When should you introduce someone you are dating to your child? | |
josiemae
Kissimmee, FL
age: 51
| divorceddadof2:
 I agree with you. What picture are we painting for our children, especially if the relationship doesn't work our and we keep changing or finding other partners frequently? What is our children thinking if they start to develop a relationship with our partner and eventually they are heartbroken too?
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| 3/19/2008 9:33:12 PM | When should you introduce someone you are dating to your child? | |
roggor
Merlin, OR
age: 80
| When it feels right.
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| 3/19/2008 9:44:14 PM | When should you introduce someone you are dating to your child? | |
gabisanic
Pleasant Hill, CA
age: 51
| I made the decision to start dating about seven months ago and one of the things I agonized over was my kids, how to protect them. I would not be opposed to introducing my boys to someone I feel positive about but for it would only be as friends and she would not be a constant presence in their lives. My children would not come into a relationship until I knew with certainty that said relationship was heading in the right direction, was on solid ground.
The woman in question would also be a deciding factor. She would understand that my children are the most important people in my life and always will be and that will unequivocally require a woman of unequaled and unbending strength, a generous soul filled with a quiet humility, uplifting personality, and a soft voice in the midst of chaos, secure and confident, someone who is not defined by what she has achieved in life but rather someone who has achieved by how she defines herself. It is a tall order I know, but my children and yes, I are worth it and she is bound to get this and much more in return.
[Edited 3/19/2008 9:45:56 PM]
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| 3/20/2008 6:25:27 AM | When should you introduce someone you are dating to your child? | |
foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 47
| Its such a hard call. For each of us I believe its different and that there really is no set time frame in this.
Kids do get attached quickly..we must be careful in how we handle it all.
One thing I refuse to do is allow a man to spend the night.This protects my kids to no false hopes. That position will be for the man who will be in the picture Long term. .
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