| 3/22/2008 4:43:24 PM | trust yes or no | |
karokeman
Abita Springs, LA
age: 37
| My ex has given me no reason to believe or trust in her, now after only a month she wants me to trust her and get over everything that has happened. How soon is to soon to start trusting? When do u open back up and trust someone that has burnt u? I always heard if u put your hand in a fire and keep getting burned , eventually u wont put your hand in the fire again. If I could trust her again I would feel alot better.
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| 3/22/2008 5:11:19 PM | trust yes or no | |
rascalruss
Show Low, AZ
age: 60
| Trust? You bet! 
All My EX's Live In Texas... That's why I make my Home in Tennessee .. er AZ
It sounds as if it isn't so much a matter of "Trust" as perhaps "Forgiveness." 
Scripture says 70 X 7.  Maybe the other question can be answered by singing Jackson with her at Karaoke. 
Good Luck... 
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| 3/22/2008 5:27:43 PM | trust yes or no | |
usjunior
Albany, MO
age: 52
| Well I dont know what she done, but if it involves trust, my advice is not to jump back into it to quickly. One month isn't a very long time for her to get her priorities in order. It would take me a long time to build my trust in someone again if they had betrayed me. They would have to show me that I could put my faith in them again.
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| 3/22/2008 5:38:46 PM | trust yes or no | |
gr8stwoman
Napa, CA
age: 41
| The fact that you are questioning seems to imply that it is too soon to trust her. It sounds like you have actually answered your own question. Best wishes to you!
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| 3/22/2008 5:41:38 PM | trust yes or no | |
proracer1
El Cajon, CA
age: 28
| Isn't it dependent on the level of trust that was breached? I mean if she stayed out late with her friends, gambled too much etc is much different than cheating on you. IF you don't mind saying, what did she do to violate the trust factor with you?
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| 3/22/2008 5:41:54 PM | trust yes or no | |
mrswilliam
Ivel, KY
age: 41
| I'm going through a similar situation. I think trust should be earned. He thinks it should be given just because you care. Only you know, do you feel you should trust her? Do you feel you would be safe? Or do you have a lot of doubts? Good luck with whatever you decide.
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| 3/22/2008 5:47:04 PM | trust yes or no | |
koromba
Ozone Park, NY
age: 24
| I think once the trust is broken it can never truly be given again.As any trust given would be accompanied by doubt.It is human nature
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| 3/22/2008 7:40:25 PM | trust yes or no | |
onefunguy30
Twin Falls, ID
age: 30
| If a vase breaks and you glue it back together isn't it still a broken vase? Once trust is lost you can work hard to glue it back together but it won't ever be the same. It will still be broken...
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| 3/22/2008 7:46:43 PM | trust yes or no | |
babygirl63
Holden, MO
age: 44
| first she has to earn your trust, no matter how long it may take you
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| 3/23/2008 12:26:35 AM | trust yes or no | |
luvmiiorhatemii
Kent, WA
age: 25
| Once you lose the trust in your relationship there is no getting it back. Because you will always have that little conscience in your mind reminding you of all the wrong she has done to you. Your better of leaving her alone. What if you do trust her again and she hurts you again? Are you going to keep forgiving her and keep letting your guard down and trust her over and over? That's what's going to happen if you keep giving her those chances. So, think long and hard about the decision to whether or not to trust her again.
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| 3/23/2008 12:29:58 AM | trust yes or no | |
trance08
Boulder, CO
age: 44
| Read your first sentence, over and over
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| 3/23/2008 12:31:35 AM | trust yes or no | |
fourbars
Alva, OK
age: 23
| from my experience in my last relationship...if you put trust BACK into someone than it bites you in the ass.....but you do what you feel is right for you....everyone is different...if you feel that she deserves the chance than go for it....but if something feels uneasy about her than forget it....there will never be any trust built up...JMO
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| 3/23/2008 12:41:22 AM | trust yes or no | |
ldt
Houma, LA
age: 41 online now!
| I tryed to make it work with my ex, wanted so strongly to trust him but I couldn't forget, so the issue kept surfacing. every time it surfaced I'd start with all the same old questions that I had already asked a hundred times, still not getting the answer I was looking for. you can forgive, but forgetting is a diff. story..good luck to you
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| 3/23/2008 12:41:53 AM | trust yes or no | |
allyours4now
Glendale, AZ
age: 36
| great response trance!  and completely right! 
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| 3/23/2008 5:55:31 AM | trust yes or no | |
headstart68
Evansville, IN
age: 40
| Take Trance's advice. Then, take it one step further, and read the first sentence of your profile over and over.
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