| 3/23/2008 11:22:17 AM | Hey guys, what do you think ? | |
812allday
Seymour, IN
age: 42
| When a woman tells you she won't be controlled yet has the need to control everything about the relationship including where you go to dinner, buy your clothes and the tooth paste you use. I just left a relationship like this....and I am still scratching my head of that issue alone. Moving on is going well but I can't get that comment out of the back of my head. The only control I ever had was with the remote when she was not there..I left thinking she had real issues about control and selfworth but she later told me I was just "to controlling".....WTF......In 6 months I never told her to do anything or that something had to be any certain way.....Has anyone else experenced this..she was 48 and me, 41, was it just the age thing.....I was good with it( the age thing) as well as she was.
comments please....
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| 3/23/2008 11:47:39 AM | Hey guys, what do you think ? | |
chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47
| I don't know what to tell you here since I wasn't there to witness what was going on. Each person has their own perception of what took place during the relationship. There are always 2 sides of a story. If you are still in contact then I am thinking that there is still something there between the both of you but again I don't know both of your circumstances.
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| 3/23/2008 3:36:28 PM | Hey guys, what do you think ? | |
l2kids44
Lanesville, IN
age: 45
| Some woman use the phrase "you're too controlling" because they have no other excuse to get you to leave the relationship. She wanted out of the relationship but you being a good guy she had nothing to fault you with. So she used her own issues and projected them onto you. My Ex did the same to me.
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| 4/4/2008 12:58:43 PM | Hey guys, what do you think ? | |
spirited37
Columbus, IN
age: 37
| She obviously had a controlling parent and feels she must be in control of her relationships and wants that to be clear from the get go.She never wants to feel out of control which makes me wonder how was she in bed? But red flags like this really help you decide if you want to be in the relationship its not suttle. Shes obviously been in a relationship where she was controlled and promised never again but shes going in the wrong direction instead of healing and becoming more aware of the red flags shes gonna be defensive and ruin her chances of having a good relationship Thanks spirited37
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| 4/4/2008 1:03:43 PM | Hey guys, what do you think ? | |
kittyriffic
Georgetown, FL
age: 52
| I myself have been with "controlling" men, and let me tell ya, it is not fun. Count your blessings to be moving on past all that. Know who you are, and don't let anybody tell you what or who you are. All i can say is...........next...... good luck
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| 4/4/2008 1:04:01 PM | Hey guys, what do you think ? | |
wino631
Huntington, NY
age: 53
| We want to believe were in control, but lets face it, we all know that the women control the relationship. Some maybe too much. 
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| 4/5/2008 11:09:47 AM | Hey guys, what do you think ? | |
812allday
Seymour, IN
age: 42
| Thanks ladies. Don't have any idea what chopperbabe was attempting to say there, but, oh well. just a little FYI.....her father ran out on her and her mother but took an older sister with him....she still talks about it like it was yesterday( 35 years ago ).She also struggles with headaches and BPD.......I just though I was strong enough to help her thru it all. 
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