| 3/23/2008 11:37:14 AM | ladies please tell the truth . | |
kaija
South Bend, IN
age: 35
| ladies uselly say that men don't know what they want but do ladies know what they what 
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| 3/23/2008 11:46:04 AM | ladies please tell the truth . | |
luvzhugz12
Richardson, TX
age: 42
| This one does 
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| 3/23/2008 11:52:01 AM | ladies please tell the truth . | |
cse5711
Shelbyville, KY
age: 50
| hmmm...good question. I am 100% sure of what I don't want.
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| 3/23/2008 12:20:04 PM | ladies please tell the truth . | |
wandering_soul
Kelowna, BC
age: 53
| To be honest, for many years, until recently, I only knew what I DIDN'T want.
When you have spent your entire life making sure everyone else's needs are met (your family, kids, husbands, bosses, friends) -- you didn't really have time, NOR was anyone ASKING, what I wanted! So I never contemplated it.
And men - how many of you focused on your careers most of your life? Do YOU really know what you want?
I didn't realize until about 5 years ago that I had no clue what I wanted. That question is also not easy to answer, because there are so many variables! I have learned how to attract what I want in life -- the only problem with that is -- what do I want to attract?
Where do I really want to live? (The door is wide open on that one for me). If I could choose 1 career that I was passionate about, what would I choose? (I am a Renaissance person and good at many things, skilled in many areas -- but choose ONE?) Which is more important to me in a partner? Mental or spiritual compatibility?
Too many choices! Not enough experience to answer.
What sorts of issues come up that make a partner/spouse frustrated about this issue with regard to the other people in their lives? Examples please?
Ev 
[Edited 3/23/2008 12:20:59 PM]
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| 3/23/2008 12:35:07 PM | ladies please tell the truth . | |
sitkarains
Sitka, AK
age: 48
| This is a really great question OP.
I can't speak for other women. But I can say, with out a doubt. I have some vital things I have to have in a relationship. I also have some things that would be a deal breaker for me. So I have an exact list of what I want no, I don't what I do have is an indepth knowledge of who I am, my strengths, what I can bring to a relationship. I also know my weakeness's. So I have somewhat of an idea what type of man will work for me and what won't.
Due to my carreer there are also somethings I have to be aware of, For example it doesn't matter how great of a person you are, if you are perfect in every way. IF you have a record of a felony arrest I can't date you. That is just a fact of life.
So yes, I do have somethings that are vital to me in a relationship. So I guess I know more what I want than what I don't want.
Hope this helps
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| 3/23/2008 12:45:42 PM | ladies please tell the truth . | |
alicebell
Sherbrooke, NS
age: 44
| This is only my opinion..I think that no one really knows what they truly want for sure,untill they get it..Man or woman..
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| 3/23/2008 12:53:28 PM | ladies please tell the truth . | |
happily47
New Middletown, OH
age: 48
| Honestly I think I am still a work in process. Only been divorced for a year in Feb, so what I thought I WANTED then and what I actually NEED now are 2 different things.
Learned an important lesson when I viewed the picture of a guy on line. Didn't think that there was going to be any chemistry there, but met him for coffee anyways. Turned out, we sat for almost 3 hours and talked, it was very relaxing and fun. Dated for a few months until a schedule change for him interrupted things. I never would have met such a nice man if I hadn't taken the chance.
I agree as mentioned above, knowing what your true deal breakers are makes a difference, but almost everyone deserves a chance. Men who talk to you without respect on line do not.
I have also had men meet me and were surprised on how nice the conversation was, that beauty is more than skin deep, that my eyes are so animated in person, and that I was so fun to be with.
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| 3/23/2008 12:54:41 PM | ladies please tell the truth . | |
kary1
Grand Haven, MI
age: 33
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| 3/23/2008 12:57:39 PM | ladies please tell the truth . | |
winesong
Bend, OR
age: 88
| I know who I am, and how I work in life. That is the only person I can work on.
I am **direct, confidant, loving, romantic, responsible, and compassionate.
I have a playful personality, with a business mind.**
I have so enjoyed my life so far...
if I can continue to know what works for me, I will
continue to have NO REGRETS.
Yes, I do know what I want to attract....
Wine
** looking for the above QUALITIES in a man.
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| 3/23/2008 1:08:12 PM | ladies please tell the truth . | |
wandering_soul
Kelowna, BC
age: 53
| Oh...
Ok... so the OP meant what we want about men...
I definitely know what I want there. I also know how to choose the right sort of person (see my "Tips for Finding a Good Partner" post... LOL)
Ev
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| 3/23/2008 1:45:37 PM | ladies please tell the truth . | |
chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47
| I like when a man knows what he wants and achieves to get what he wants also ... within reason. It took me 40 years to figure out what I want and what I don't want. So sometimes things take time.
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| 3/23/2008 3:23:40 PM | ladies please tell the truth . | |
rocket000
Murrayville, GA
age: 50
| I could make a laundry list of what I want in a man. However, he could be standing in front of me and we won't necessarily "click". A friend's therapist suggested she make an A, B and C list.
A. Non-negotiables: such as, intelligent, compassionate, charitable, loves animals, kind to those in a lesser station in life, sense of humor, financially sound, able to effectively communicate, no alcohol or drug dependence, attractive to me(my personal list).
B. Negotiable such as: like to go to the ballet or museums. If he doesn't you can go with a friend.
c. Icing on the cake: Not important but a bonus if they happen to "be or do", ie: over 6 ft, blue eyes, curly hair, good dancer. These are not things of any substance.
My friend was told if you get 80% of the important qualities that can make for a good relationship.
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| 3/23/2008 3:25:51 PM | ladies please tell the truth . | |
againnothing
Miles City, MT
age: 32
| um this one does. I just think they think im lieing cause i know they are.
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| 3/23/2008 3:35:23 PM | ladies please tell the truth . | |
italianlady05
Omaha, NE
age: 53
| hmmm.. I would have to say that I thought i knew what i wanted but I'm surprised once again by what that really is...Sometime what I want isn't necessarily what I really need.
the bacis of course...a guy who matches wits with me, teases, has a sense of humor, isn't afraid to try new adventures or take a chance. I think most of these are simply a personality compatibilty for me. I like an outgoing guy, or at least someone with confidence in themself.
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| 3/23/2008 3:44:30 PM | ladies please tell the truth . | |
collette44
Billings, OK
age: 44
| you don't know what u want til u get it, and once its gone u realize its value
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