| 3/25/2008 7:01:18 PM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
belladreams
Binghamton, NY
age: 38
| I am completely devastated and lost for words. The first time I hear about these things, I want to block my ears and I want to believe it is make believe or it is all a dream. Then I go in my bedroom or fall to the floor and start crying myself to death. It is with deepest sympathy that I am sorry for the loss of your wife, and you have three beautiful daughters. It makes it extremely difficult with children especially who are so young and yet do not what is going on around them, and so difficult to tell them mommmy and daddy are just not coming home....the healing process..i always asking myself is there one...my priest friend told me, it is much more easier to heal after a spouse or a parent passes away than to get over the loss of a child... I am picturing it in my mind. I have a 14 year old son...and now i believe i know why....I believe as you begin to move on and if you are ready, you will find the one you are looking for....you only have one mother and one father in your life, but i know the children will need long-term counseling as much as possible....Noone could ever take your spouses place, and that is what you need to remember....but life does go on...the world stops for noone...You do have to continue to remain strong and wake up each day and take care of those daughters as they depend on you. You will find the right one in due time..If a woman loves you enough, and is willing to step up to the plate, you will definitely know it. Once again, my thoughts and prayers are with you, and the best of luck to you.....
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| 3/26/2008 11:46:22 AM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
loralie1956
Canton, IL
age: 52
| Evan,
I am a widow too. A site I have found very help is www.youngwidows.com. Its a free site and there are people in all situations dealing with losing their spouses. There is even a section for widows with children. I have found it very helpful to read everyone's posts. I haven't found it necessary to join; just reading makes me feel less alone in my situation.
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| 3/26/2008 6:09:53 PM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
kary1
Grand Haven, MI
age: 33
| i want give you hug! I loss my love too!
i have drink and smoking ,sometime with frineds!
I am till unhappy with my heart!
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| 3/29/2008 11:41:11 PM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
jimbo911
Cheyenne, WY
age: 71
| I also lost my wife suddenly in February. It really sucks brother. We had 18 great years together. I agree with all the rest. Your girls come first. I have a therapist
who tells me, the grieving is a process and we must go through it. I truly know how
you feel and wish the best for you. Jimbo
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| 3/31/2008 4:13:03 PM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
nitamomma
West Chazy, NY
age: 43
| Evan, You are in a tough situation. I know I was there 14 yrs ago when my husband was killed in a car accident and I was left alone with my son then 5 and my daughter then 2. You say you know there are things only a mother can teach a daughter, well the same goes for what a father can teach, regardless if its a son OR daughter. What I did was focused on the kids until they were able to accept that it was only them and me. Do you have family close by, grandmothers, aunts, nieces etc?? They can be a great help as the girls get a little older. My father and brother were great to have around for those things that I would not do, but guys like to do, ex: watch wrestling, hunting, working on the car. But think about what you CAN do for and with the girls now. I know if you think about it there are many things you can offer them. Dads have a great many talents, experiences, and interests that even girls can enjoy!!! Best of luck to you and the girls. I am deeply sorry that you lost your wife and their mom. It is heart breaking everyday when you look at them. I know. God Bless you. 
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| 3/31/2008 4:51:47 PM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
ozarkhiker
Festus, MO
age: 67
| There should be a widow(er) support group around somewhere i n your area.
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| 3/31/2008 5:10:55 PM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
snides20
Mingo Junction, OH
age: 26
| my point of view tke your time on dating like you said you wanted to. If you need help raising the girls with what only a womanly figure could do if your mother or your mother inlaw is around dont be afraid to ask for help. One thing i will mention your girls are young it is unfortunate they lost their mother kids that young if they dont see something continuously they tend to forget. My son is 5 my dad his grandfaher passed away i didnt think to show him pictures on a regular basis one day i ws going through a photo album asked who is that it was my dad he had forgotten because i didnt talk about him nd show him pictures specifcally with your youngest talk about their mother to them remind them how great she was and show them picture JMO good luck to you though i wish you all the best
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| 3/31/2008 7:02:01 PM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
crazylisa
Newton, NJ
age: 40
| so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband in february...hardest thing in the world. Surely youve heard about the grieving process...probably as I have, too much of it actually. I have three boys...so believe me I know the challenge....just wanted to say keep on keeping on...my thoughts are with you. peace
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| 3/31/2008 9:10:47 PM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
kay46
Quitaque, TX
age: 46
| I am so sorry for all your losses. I wish I could help. You will all be in my prayers tonight. God bless
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| 3/31/2008 11:18:19 PM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
bella77
League City, TX
age: 89
| Theres nothing you can do, but to have resignation. Which was hard for me to do, after my partner, father of my two children tragically passed away in an automobile accident 13 1/2 yrs ago.Although, the years have gone by, til this date I still feel my life hasn't been the same. 
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| 4/1/2008 7:39:41 AM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
whosyour51
Plymouth, IN
age: 57
| My wife died also in a wreck 1997 been just over 10 years now and still think about her every day. It does get better, so good luck and take good care of them kids. They need you more than anyone.Wish you the best
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| 4/1/2008 12:49:55 PM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
1mauibabe1
Lahaina, HI
age: 52
| My sympathy to you too. Grieveing is a process.. and each one of us grieve differently. I lost my husband of 20 years on Nov 19 2003. My kids are grown so I am on my own....
Just put your beautiful daughters first with time you willl really start to heal..If you have any female family members that you are close to let them help with the mommy stuff.Don't be afraid to let your daughters know how much you love them and their mom...
PS there is a widow/widower group on this site. The people are great in there to...
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