| 3/24/2008 8:58:36 AM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
e_z_e
Belle Chasse, LA
age: 28
| My wife was kiled in a car wreck november 1st 2007.We have 2 daughters one 5 and one 20months I am at a greatly diffucult point in my life. I am a man and I am raising these girls on my own.And I know there are things that only a woman can teach a girl and I am not wanting to go look for a realationship.It is a big crapshoot and a long grueling process to find the right woman to be in my girls life.So I am asking for suggestions and help from a female point of view.So ladies if you have some insite or helpful advice please tell me your opinions.Thank you for the time.Evan you can see pics of my girls on my profile
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| 3/24/2008 9:01:13 AM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
kycountrygurl
Madisonville, KY
age: 32
| I'm so sorry for your loss Evan. I know that has to be hard on you. Take it one day at a time. Worry about your girls first, then worry about finding someone else. You don't want to just rush into anything. 
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| 3/24/2008 9:05:30 AM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
stormygrl
Longmont, CO
age: 42
| Just do the best you can do for your girls....don't hurry the finding of a woman too much, your girls deserve the best. Love has a way of entering our lives when we least expect it..so be patient. Love your girls with all your heart. Also I'm very sorry for your loss.
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| 3/24/2008 9:08:36 AM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
steve419
New Port Richey, FL
age: 29
| My fiance of 6yrs died 3yrs agoe. We had no kids, but I feel bad fore anyone who looses someone. I was out of town fore a week, and when i came home Dawn was dead fore 3 days when I found her. The most horrable thing I ever saw in my life, and it f*cked me up fore a while. But I've learned how to continue my life, and I know thats what she'd want me to do.
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| 3/24/2008 9:12:47 AM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
sea_wench1
Chandler, AZ
age: 55
| Wow hun...am so sorry for your loss...and hope you have good help..before you get involved with anyone..those girls NEED YOU...and you need to discover yourself first..don't jump into any relationship just because you may get lonely or things get overwhelmed..When..you do...make sure you see how she has high morals and comes from a good family and how SHE IS around her family and friends..make sure you have high morals too...and see how she is with kids..no not yours..around other children many times over..remember hun..she will be raising your and another womans children...I will be honest..it's a Facts of life it is hard for someone to Accept another persons child...So you are going to have your hands full finding the right woman and make sure you have approval from your family..because they will watch her like a hawk..knowing that She will be around your mother and dads grandchildren your brother and sisters neices, and cousins...And Your daughters grandparents, etc, etc, ....So hun I wish the best of luck and hope the best for you and your daughters future...Find the right woman and your daughters will grow up to be fine young ladies.............( wink ) Sea
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| 3/24/2008 3:54:30 PM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
babygirl63
Holden, MO
age: 44
| so sorry for your loss sweety, the best thing you can do right now is to focuse on your girls, theuy need you more than ever now, and you need them. just surround yourself with all the great memories of her life...not her death. you have much pain right now, and you will be for a long time. if you need to cry..then cry..if ya need to go hide... then go hide.. if ya need to hit some thing..then do it.yell out loud if ya have to, just to try and ease the pain.in the last 4 yrs, i have lost my mom and a brother to cancer, i know the pain you are feeling. its a lonely pain. but however you deal with it.just remember your girls are also lost,and hurt and not knowing what is really going on. seek help if ya have to. talking about it is the best medication i found. i wish you well and god bless you and your daughters. i am here if ya need to talk.
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| 3/24/2008 4:09:05 PM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
brneyes74
Loves Park, IL
age: 34
| I am very sorry to hear about your loss. From the sounds of it, you are an exceptional person because you are man enough to raise your daughters' yourself. I'm not bashing men, but not everyone could handle this challenge. Take your time, and discover who you are and what kind of a partner you would like. Of course, she would have to be a good role model for your girls. I come from a divorce, so I don't know what it is like to lose a signifcant other, but, you'll be in my prayers tonight. Hold your head up high, someone like you won't be single for long.
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| 3/24/2008 4:11:42 PM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
asl_1965
Frederick, MD
age: 42
| Sorry to hear about your wife....that must be really hard.
On a different note, when my X passes, I am gonna friggin party!!!
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| 3/24/2008 4:13:35 PM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
waytogo51
Prairie Grove, AR
age: 51
| One bit of advice I will give you. I haven't looked at your profile, but you said you had pictures of your daughters on there. If that is the case, I would remove them asap. Too many wackos out there just looking.
I am very sorry to hear of your lost. May god be with you. And you will find that you will have many friends on here whenever you feel the need to talk or ask a question.
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| 3/24/2008 4:18:15 PM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
kfab1023
Jacksonville, FL
age: 51
| I am so sorry for your pain. I lost my husband of 34 years he died in my arms and it is the worst pain in the world isn't it. And darling it isn't easy I know. One day at atime is all you can do.It has taken me 2 years to get to where I am at don't be afraid to ask for help or to talk to someone to help with the pain and the anger. Yes there is anger too. You will make it and love will find you again God bless you and your babies and may the angels watch over you all
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| 3/24/2008 4:22:24 PM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
steveredman
Spotswood, NJ
age: 37
| Sorry for your loss. As a professional Counselor, I have metother people who have gone through what you are. It sounds like you are a great dad. Do the best that you can for your girls. Do you have any female friends that could talk to them. Your children are young which is difficult. don't forget to take care of yourself while you are taking care of your children.
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| 3/24/2008 4:59:03 PM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
sylv6
Burgsvik
Sweden
age: 37
| Sorry for your lose; I my self don’t have any one to lose anymore, but you have got 3 kids.
What I would do in your situation? Look around in your location find some old women pensioner or couple I think old people they most trustful so you can look up to them they can watch your kids when you are at work
. You can find good people by church community. Only hope that you are not like me and have some one who care about your family. Just be smart and you finger something out. And don’t be to proud over your self use people’s help.
Good luck be strong and don’t give up!
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| 3/25/2008 8:19:44 AM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
libra75
Garfield, AR
age: 32
| That sucks, man....My wife shot herself in "06...sorry for your loss.
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| 3/25/2008 9:53:36 AM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
kandy2u
Belle, WV
age: 52
| Sorry about your loss. From your daughters' point of view I will say this, I lost my mother at a very young age. My dad was wonderful in that he did alot of things with me, shopping, teaching me to cook, how to work on a car,lol and a lot more. For the womanly stuff I was blessed to have my mother's sister to turn to. My dad would listen to anything I had to say and help me all he could, but it was nice to have a female family member to lean on. Keep up the good work hon, they are your world. Let them know every day that you are there for them in every way. If you are uncomfortable about something be honest with them. But let them know someone (grandmother, aunt or cousin) is there to discuss these issues with them. They won't think less of you if you turn the subject over to a respected female. Keep their mother's pictures around for them, even if you in time find someone special, let them know the girl's mother and her memories will be a part of their lives. Sorry to ramble but just some of my experience. Huggs, kandy.
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| 3/25/2008 10:06:52 AM | What to do when your spouse dies | |
josiemae
Kissimmee, FL
age: 51
| I am very sorry to hear of your loss, and do sympathize with the young ones who are left behind for you to raise. As you say, you are not looking for anyone to raise your children. However, if you have siblings keep a close relationship with them to develop family ties with your children. I still believe that one cannot do it on his or her own, we all seek advise in all aspects of life. We are here on DH as one family. Keep close to us, I am sure we can share logical advice in you so need any. Please, don't give up on these girls, they will need you to be strong and for survival. Good luck to you
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