| 3/24/2008 10:34:41 AM | Have women figured out why they date destrucitive men? | |
jose1971
Amarillo, TX
age: 37
| They say they want someone sweet, caring, etc....... but they date the total opposites and then complain that there are no good men or are hard to find. When did people forget how to pick a good partner? I believe that if your in your mid 30's and still making bad choices you should neuter or spay yourself!!!!!!!!!
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| 3/24/2008 11:14:56 AM | Have women figured out why they date destrucitive men? | |
togot
Rockford, IL
age: 25
| suicide is also an option, no reason for everyone else to still have to deal with these people. granted about 80% of women on the face of the earth would die if that actually happened since the vast majority fall into that category. my brother's philosophy was "treat women like shit and they will love you for it" and he was never without a girlfriend. damn i wish i was more of an asshole, then maybe i wouldn't be so damn lonely 
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| 3/24/2008 11:36:08 AM | Have women figured out why they date destrucitive men? | |
jose1971
Amarillo, TX
age: 37
| Adapt or die off!!!!!!!
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| 3/24/2008 11:50:06 AM | Have women figured out why they date destrucitive men? | |
christi8680
Ithaca, NY
age: 39
| I think PEOPLE do this because they are in to big of a rush and put way to much pressure on themselves to be in a relationship. As my profile says, many people seem to enter into a relationship for all the wrong reasons... and sometimes it's simply just to say they are in one.
While I have been there and done that myself, I believe I have learned that lesson. I won't enter into any relationship...even a friendship, unless it's what feels right for BOTH people. If people are secure with themselves, then they don't rush into anything...they just let things happen naturally. Plus, they are more inclined to see the red flags when they are in front of them and act accordingly. JMO
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| 3/24/2008 11:56:27 AM | Have women figured out why they date destrucitive men? | |
jose1971
Amarillo, TX
age: 37
| Well stated Christi, I believe the fundamentals are simple; break the vicious circle, value yourself and others involved, and if you don't know how, learn.
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| 3/24/2008 12:16:49 PM | Have women figured out why they date destrucitive men? | |
metu
Mansfield, TX
age: 46 online now!
| The reason why women continuously choose toxic men is because inherintly, we are the "fixers" or the Florence Nightingales. We come by it honestly...Nature made us the Mothers & the Nurturers...hopefully by the time we hit our 30's or 40's we've learned that lesson...thank goodness there are no more "broken toys" in my attic!
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| 3/24/2008 12:42:25 PM | Have women figured out why they date destrucitive men? | |
newinil
Carlock, IL
age: 36
| I think I have figured this part out. Some women must always have something to complain about. So when they find a guy who treats them right and is respectful to them, they have nothing to complain about and therefore he must go.
So in their minds, they must be in relationships with people who are abusive or cheat on them, basically treat them like total crap. This in turn allows them the ability to complain about the man in their life, yet claim they stayed with them for so long because they "loved" him.
JMO
NOTE: I did not categorize all women into this category.
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| 3/24/2008 12:47:33 PM | Have women figured out why they date destrucitive men? | |
ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 41 online now!
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More appropriate...
[Edited 3/24/2008 12:50:27 PM]
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| 3/24/2008 2:34:47 PM | Have women figured out why they date destrucitive men? | |
susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 60
| I can truthfully say that it is not only women who complain. My ex-husband complained to me about Wife 1 and Wife 2. I am Wife 3. Guess who he is complaining about NOW???!!! Better yet, ask me if I care...my marriage to him was MY mistake and I admit it fully. Now I am into having a mutual good relationship and don't want to hear about his other wives, g/f's or mean bosses. I don't "fix things" anymore, I go forward and delete what is not to my liking.
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| 3/24/2008 2:36:23 PM | Have women figured out why they date destrucitive men? | |
evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35
| bad boys are good in bed.... so women think.
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| 3/24/2008 2:37:41 PM | Have women figured out why they date destrucitive men? | |
onelife2live
Janesville, WI
age: 43
| Why do you think I'm single....I refuse to be an ass.
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| 3/24/2008 2:38:48 PM | Have women figured out why they date destrucitive men? | |
onelife2live
Janesville, WI
age: 43
| unless I am on here..
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| 3/24/2008 2:49:19 PM | Have women figured out why they date destrucitive men? | |
theshygirl
Plymouth, MA
age: 20
| speaking from experience, i have had some bad experiences in life that lead me to think i wasnt worth one of the "nice boys" so i got into the worse relationships of my life. then i started to do better and then i got a job in the helping profession and realized the past 3 exes were all there to help them instead of for a healthy relationship. now that i know this i can look for genuine "nice guys" but it takes time for us to get to the point of relizing it.
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| 3/24/2008 2:49:57 PM | Have women figured out why they date destrucitive men? | |
daddyduck
Splendora, TX
age: 54 online now!
| GeOGeO, You know your aren't supposed give the truth away. The government finds out you did that they'll lock you up and make you listen to Barry Manilow records for a week
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| 3/24/2008 3:12:39 PM | Have women figured out why they date destrucitive men? | |
thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
| I will piggy back off of metu's post. Good point metu. I remember a thread I posted in a couple of months ago regarding the same thing you said.
Generally speaking many women do the opposite with the classic case being wanting the nice guy etc... etc... time and time again, many would dismiss a decent guy that shows no harm or intent. however, many choose the ones that do them wrong over and over, thus they continue the cycle of complaining and talking about how bad men are when in fact some of it has to do with decision making and some women even choose to stay in relationships with these destructive men becuase of other benefits...
the women do it especially in the 20s. However, there are some women 30-35 that still choose destructive men and some women themselves are destructive and play games as well making the situation a total time bomb...
some women wait too late to wake up and realize this. some wait until they have reached their 40s and mid 40s to realize their decision making mistakes selecting bad over nice men with good attributes and they start searching for these men in their 40s because 1. their looks start to fade, and 2. the lightbulb finally came on due to past mistakes and women really looking at themselves in the mirror (not physically) (figure of speech)
but most of the time not all the time, it's too late because 1. said women is considered either too old and attractive if the guy is younger 2. some other reason.
[Edited 3/24/2008 3:13:50 PM]
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