| 3/24/2008 5:14:53 PM | *sigh* why wouldnt he talk | |
biggirlneedluv2
Annapolis, MD
age: 19
| my frist date since my last relationship i think was a bust, I opened up fully and i felt like i got nothing back...he was so quiet made me wonder if he disliked the way i looked or something. he's a great guy but i guess he's just not interested. but why i wonder?did i do something wrong? did i open up to much? well could someone tell me what i did wrong or what i might have done wrong plzzzz
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| 3/24/2008 7:40:37 PM | *sigh* why wouldnt he talk | |
bestdadintexas
Marshall, TX
age: 42 online now!
| It is possible you opened up too much.It was the first date-a date to enjoy making a lasting impression and laughs. You can be too serious in conversation that you make someone step back.What did you mean when you said you was open? Tell your history or did you just talk without being shy??????? Not a good idea to talk about the past unless asked in some cases.JMO
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| 3/24/2008 7:42:41 PM | *sigh* why wouldnt he talk | |
tlc4u46
Santa Barbara, CA
age: 47
| I find most men aren't big talkers. I'm like you my life is an open book will spill all my beans to anyone willing to listen.
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| 3/24/2008 7:44:17 PM | *sigh* why wouldnt he talk | |
hotdoggy13
Nazareth, PA
age: 49
| have a beer lighten up it helps ya talk ... or just have a laugh...
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| 3/24/2008 8:50:08 PM | *sigh* why wouldnt he talk | |
biggirlneedluv2
Annapolis, MD
age: 19
| I think i was open in a non threating way i didnt talk about the past really he was quiet from the start i had to basically pry words out his mouth lol it sucks. 
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| 3/24/2008 8:51:04 PM | *sigh* why wouldnt he talk | |
tlc4u46
Santa Barbara, CA
age: 47
| Kinda like pulling teeth!
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| 3/24/2008 8:55:39 PM | *sigh* why wouldnt he talk | |
gruntster1949
Mountain View, AR
age: 58
| was it a blind date? wait a while and ask him wassup?
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| 3/24/2008 8:58:21 PM | *sigh* why wouldnt he talk | |
eroticartist
White Plains, NY
age: 49
| men don't start talking til after we're 35
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| 3/24/2008 9:00:28 PM | *sigh* why wouldnt he talk | |
vanir
Victoria
Australia
age: 38
| Well if he wasn't interested, the first date is where you see it, so it follows. I mean that's the whole idea, see if you like someone in the flesh, if not oh well, it's meant to be a majority conclusion (if you're an exclusive partner I guess).
Even if you did everything right it still doesn't matter if someone isn't interested, it's not a contest (unlike some believe). You have to get the right two people at the right time to get something really good, if that's what the participants are looking for.
So if you make your mind up quickly, maybe he was looking for a deeper connection than that, with someone I dunno, interested in baseball or something.
Never take it personally. People necessarily discriminate personal relationships heavily. You will too, with experience. The trick is to be honest about what you're looking for, that way you cut down wasted time, but that's still a common result.
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| 3/24/2008 9:23:24 PM | *sigh* why wouldnt he talk | |
daddyduck
Splendora, TX
age: 54
| nEVER ASSUME anything, you dont know the guy so youre not sure if he bored or overly impressed, maybe hie didn't want to talk about his wife and kids the list of possibliltes is endless. If he calls again he's interested if not, it was only one date and better to find it out before you get too deep.
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| 3/24/2008 9:50:11 PM | *sigh* why wouldnt he talk | |
nadia08
Media, PA
age: 38
| my frist date since my last relationship i think was a bust, I opened up fully and i felt like i got nothing back...he was so quiet made me wonder if he disliked the way i looked or something. he's a great guy but i guess he's just not interested. but why i wonder?did i do something wrong? did i open up to much? well could someone tell me what i did wrong or what i might have done wrong plzzzz
I was in the same boat as you ... we hit it off the 1st 4 weeks... we talk we email we text... he even insinuated getting together (he is from out of state), and one day... the email stop... the texting stop... and the calls... and what was crazy was when I call he sound enthusiastic... so as off yestereday I finally gave up on that route.. the point to all this blubber of mine.. is it is better now rather than later when you have invested so much time and emotion... But dont ever think it is your fault... never change anything about you... and eventually that one person who gets you will eventually come... 
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| 3/25/2008 5:17:14 AM | *sigh* why wouldnt he talk | |
eroticartist
White Plains, NY
age: 49
| I don't want to stereotype but my guess he doesn't know what to say to you. I was half joking in my earlier remark about guys not talking. It's VERY hard for some men, kids or whatever to express their feelings and be communicative especially with a girl or woman. That's why I think it takes alot of men a long time to mature emotionally and open up to women. I know this will be very high schoolish but ask his friends or your friends about how he feels. OR ASK him if you both like each other so much.
Now...go back to school
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| 3/25/2008 5:21:42 AM | *sigh* why wouldnt he talk | |
lin37
Comstock Park, MI
age: 38
| Maybe you opened up too much and he felt a little overwhelmed. Baby steps the opening up thing. I've learned to start small and work my way up to open fully. too much opening up tends to shut some men down and make them feel as if they are suddenly being roped into a serious relationship from day one.
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| 3/25/2008 7:34:32 AM | *sigh* why wouldnt he talk | |
a360
Mahanoy City, PA
age: 31
| Time will tell.. want me to break his kneecaps? lol
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| 3/25/2008 9:47:23 AM | *sigh* why wouldnt he talk | |
zuess
Lubbock, TX
age: 36
| some guys have nothung tosay
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