| 3/27/2008 10:26:49 PM | Would you rather answer what Do you want or what Don't you want? | |
cincin3500
Lapeer, MI
age: 35
| All to often I get asked; what are you looking for, or what do you want out of a relationship?
I tend to lean toward, I have no idea, but I know EXACTLY what I don't want.
If we write in stone what we want, aren't we limiting ourselves?
The end result is we all want to be happy and respected, but how do we get there?
What are your opinions on this?
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| 3/27/2008 10:33:30 PM | Would you rather answer what Do you want or what Don't you want? | |
surelyugest
Nanaimo, BC
age: 50
| Like you . I am definite on what I don't want. been there done that
and I agree saying what you do want is limiting.. you may find a few things you had no idea were right up your.. alley!
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| 3/27/2008 10:42:46 PM | Would you rather answer what Do you want or what Don't you want? | |
gabisanic
Pleasant Hill, CA
age: 51
| I personally do not subscribe to long-winded and unattainable lists of requirements, however there are four basic elements that are essential... honesty, loyalty, confidence and integrity. Everything else will surely fall into place.
It is human nature and way easier to think in terms of what we do not like or do not want. I, oddly enough, concentrate fully on the things I like, not only because it is my nature to think that way but also because I believe that you get back what you project.
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| 3/27/2008 10:49:01 PM | Would you rather answer what Do you want or what Don't you want? | |
cincin3500
Lapeer, MI
age: 35
| Agreed, positive thinking works both ways. Perspective has a lot to do with it.
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| 3/27/2008 10:50:02 PM | Would you rather answer what Do you want or what Don't you want? | |
bestrong77
Achille, OK
age: 21
| I think it would be alot easier to tell someone what I don't want, your 100% right.
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| 3/27/2008 10:55:41 PM | Would you rather answer what Do you want or what Don't you want? | |
gabisanic
Pleasant Hill, CA
age: 51
| would you be able to tell someone instead what it is you want. Why is it easier to say... I do not want to be hurt instead of I want to be happy, loved and cherished? Or... I do not want to be neglected instead of I want to be held and be a constant in your life, an equal, a partner?
[Edited 3/27/2008 10:57:14 PM]
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| 3/27/2008 10:59:55 PM | Would you rather answer what Do you want or what Don't you want? | |
flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 46
| I know what I want and what I don't want. But it doesn't seem to matter.
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| 3/27/2008 11:05:48 PM | Would you rather answer what Do you want or what Don't you want? | |
luvinlifetou
Biddeford, ME
age: 41
| I like that Gab...the positive outlook gets you positive results.
I want...a man who makes me laugh...
I want....a partner who appreciates me like I appreciate him.
I want....a smart funny man who can appreciate that I can be a smartass but Im not trying to be mean...and dishes it right back and makes me laugh MORE!
I want......a man who fishes like a motherf@#*%r and will take me with him on his boat... Hi Captain Honey!
I do know what I dont want...but focusing on the negative I think brings you that.
JMO..
Luvin
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| 3/27/2008 11:06:58 PM | Would you rather answer what Do you want or what Don't you want? | |
cincin3500
Lapeer, MI
age: 35
| Response to gab-
I think what you are saying has merit, however speaking to most men in these terms is a sure way to send them running. This doesn't necessarily make them shallow, just afraid of potential commitment early on.
[Edited 3/27/2008 11:07:37 PM]
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| 3/28/2008 3:51:50 AM | Would you rather answer what Do you want or what Don't you want? | |
mbk1961
Farmington, IL
age: 46
| I'll plea the 5th!!!!
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| 3/28/2008 12:26:26 PM | Would you rather answer what Do you want or what Don't you want? | |
worhtlesswisdom
Dade City, FL
age: 41
| I want lots of sex
Don't want no sex.
Is that written in stone enough.
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| 3/28/2008 3:53:35 PM | Would you rather answer what Do you want or what Don't you want? | |
daddyduck
Splendora, TX
age: 54
| I think I'll plead the 5th as well, on second thought maybe I'd better drink the 5th
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| 3/28/2008 3:55:17 PM | Would you rather answer what Do you want or what Don't you want? | |
57rickie
Sioux Falls, SD
age: 57
| What I don't want, its harder to get out the Do Wants.
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| 3/28/2008 5:23:40 PM | Would you rather answer what Do you want or what Don't you want? | |
sitkarains
Sitka, AK
age: 48
| Great Question...
When I knew I was ready to start dating again. I sat down and wrote a letter to God of all the things I wanted in a man. The things I really thought about. The qualities that were important to me. Then to cover my bases I added a clause at the end for all the things I couldnt' even think of that would be the perfect man for me. I then placed that trust in God. I am out doing my part. I expect him to do his
I have also been asked many times what I want out of a relationship I have the answer all ready. To give when it is that time. In doing that I also am ready to listen to what their needs and expectations will be. Then I will really ask myself if I can live up to them? Can I give to this person what he needs. if at any time I feel I can't I will be upfront and honest about it. I will also always ask him to clarify.
Now getting to the negative side I have a list of things that will not make that person a bad person only a list of things I know I can't do or won't work for me.
Again great question. I think each and everyone one of us at any age should have some idea of what we are seeking. Don't you?
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| 3/28/2008 6:33:59 PM | Would you rather answer what Do you want or what Don't you want? | |
cincin3500
Lapeer, MI
age: 35
| Damn Sitka, you really hit it. You don't screw around. You have a list of both and a time for both. Thats the best answer so far. Got to love that.
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