| 3/29/2008 6:12:15 PM | Rude phone behaviour, a hint of what is to come or...... | |
boricualady
Williamson, GA
age: 41
| Is it just an isolated bad habit? There is this guy (who I did not meet on this site but another) who has been nothing but charming on IM and e-mails. This morning we spoke on the phone for the first time and had a pleasant but short conversation (about 15 minutes) since he had some errands to run and promised to call me back later which he did a short time ago.
This time he called from his cell phone which was fine. However during the course of this 20 minute conversation (which I ended in frustration) he continually, without any prior warning, (ie; excuse me, or hang on one second, etc.) would start talking to someone else right in the middle of our conversation. The cashier at the bookstore when he purchased a book he had been reading shortly before he called me. 2 minutes later some guy he had went out to lunch with and passed on the way out of the bookstore. 3 minutes after that someone else he passed on the street.
I found this exceptionally rude and it has always been a pet peeve of mine as I have had friends (females) who did this all the time and it drove me up a wall. They would ask you a question and then two sentences into your answer they would suddenly start talking to someone near them.
Then when they were finally done they would say, "What?" 
After the third interuption in our phone call (remember he never bothered to say, "hold on" or anything of the sort) I said loudly into the phone, "When you are ready to speak to me instead of everyone who crosses your path you can call me back." and I hung up.
Less than a minute later he called back but I was so irritated I didn't answer it. Am I over reacting? He is an exceptionally intelligent man but goodness, who taught him manners?
What would you guys have done in the same situation and do you think this goes to show what type of person he is when it comes to respecting people in general? Or could this be an isolated bad habit he has that I just need to say something about and see if he makes a concious effort to work on it. We haven't even met in person yet and I just don't know if I'm now being too picky or what.
~Darlene~
|
| 3/29/2008 6:13:52 PM | Rude phone behaviour, a hint of what is to come or...... | |
soulcrazy
San Clemente, CA
age: 39
| Hey Darlene, after the 2nd time I would have hung up! You go girl... just a sign of things to come!
~Cajun~
|
| 3/29/2008 6:19:11 PM | Rude phone behaviour, a hint of what is to come or...... | |
dixiethelovebug
Auburn, GA
age: 44
| I agree totaly. I would have hung up also. If you cannot talk to me when you call me then dont call till you can. I have a freind that does that and I hang up on her lol. She knows me and will call me back when she is done. I dont like phones anyway and to call me then talk to someone else is plain rude.
|
| 3/29/2008 6:24:05 PM | Rude phone behaviour, a hint of what is to come or...... | |
capt_bt
Brooklyn, NY
age: 46
| you should of hung up the first time. i think he should of told you he was busy and offered to call you later when you could have some one on one time. i believe you call that RESPECT
|
| 3/29/2008 6:25:56 PM | Rude phone behaviour, a hint of what is to come or...... | |
mbk1961
Farmington, IL
age: 47
| It sounds to me like he wants you to think that he is important. Blow him off! He's on an ego trip..... JMO Mike
|
| 3/29/2008 6:30:02 PM | Rude phone behaviour, a hint of what is to come or...... | |
waterseeker
Bloomfield, CT
age: 45
| I think you over reacted. Take a que from your friends who do the same thing to you, this poor guy had no clue how irritating it was for you, but he called back probably to apologise and you did not answer. Just think what that says about you and your temper. I think you should call the guy back and apologise for not answering him and explain how you feel about that kind of phone etiquette. If he does it again you know what to do.
|
| 3/29/2008 6:30:12 PM | Rude phone behaviour, a hint of what is to come or...... | |
l2kids44
Lanesville, IN
age: 45
| You did the right thing. How rude of him not to give you his undivided attention. Granted, occasionally an interruption comes along but he didn't need to initiate a convo with all those other people while he was talking to you.
|
| 3/29/2008 6:35:17 PM | Rude phone behaviour, a hint of what is to come or...... | |
tualatinor
Golden, CO
age: 43
| Thanks for having the balls waterseeker. I thought the same thing.
|
| 3/29/2008 6:37:00 PM | Rude phone behaviour, a hint of what is to come or...... | |
sea_wench1
Chandler, AZ
age: 55
| I Feel you over reacted...Now if he was sitting in his living room or car..that would be a Whole different ballgame...but being out and about...and someone crossed his path..thats nothing..he probley just called at the wrong time not realizing ...and feel you should of took his phone call...Gl hun..( wink ) Sea
|
| 3/29/2008 6:41:30 PM | Rude phone behaviour, a hint of what is to come or...... | |
simplman4right1
Sarasota, FL
age: 51
| Phone ettiquite 101
People around you are direct interaction.... telephone calls are not.
Hang up and drive.... answer your front door.
IMO.... you're over reacting
|
| 3/29/2008 6:45:39 PM | Rude phone behaviour, a hint of what is to come or...... | |
waterseeker
Bloomfield, CT
age: 45
| thanks taulatinor
|
| 3/29/2008 6:49:18 PM | Rude phone behaviour, a hint of what is to come or...... | |
truegrace
Hagerstown, MD
age: 52
| get used to it honey its called life, sometimes things like that happen, if that bothers you then no will ever please you, you cant always be center stage
|
| 3/29/2008 6:55:21 PM | Rude phone behaviour, a hint of what is to come or...... | |
midnight08
Clarksburg, WV
age: 38
| I think you are over reacting. If he has a blue tooth headset on others do not know he is on the phone, therefore just walk right up and start a conversation without knowing he is in the middle of a conversation. If he ignores them they will think he is being rude to them. I do the same however I do try to warn the person I am on the phone with that I am going inside a store and to please be patient with me. He is calling you while he is busy doing other things and trying to talk to you whenever he can. you might try explaining to him how this aggravates you and try to work it out.
|
| 3/29/2008 6:55:33 PM | Rude phone behaviour, a hint of what is to come or...... | |
iwantyoutoo
Lubbock, TX
age: 42
| I personally think you overreacted! If I was him and you hung up on me, that would be the last time you ever did that to me. Furthermore in this fast paced world if you are not able to multitask in many things going on around you, you are considered way behind...If this is all it takes to get on your nerve, my o my, what a life you have ahead of you! JMO
|
| 3/29/2008 6:57:05 PM | Rude phone behaviour, a hint of what is to come or...... | |
soulcrazy
San Clemente, CA
age: 39
| Oh come on Trucker... if he can't even give her his full attention on their first phone conversation what is that saying?????
~Cajun~
|