Forums: Dating General Discussion: Separated or divorsed???
3/30/2008 4:48:21 AMSeparated or divorsed??? 

yourlady2008
Fuquay Varina, NC
age: 49

What do you think if person says is separated for some amount of years.
If you want a serious relationship, would you date him???

3/30/2008 4:59:43 AMSeparated or divorsed??? 

ivanto
Victorville, CA
age: 52

That would depend on the situation. I'd have to talk to him and ask questions first then go from there

3/30/2008 5:08:40 AMSeparated or divorsed??? 

yourlady2008
Fuquay Varina, NC
age: 49

I believe that you should finish completely a relationship before starting the other.
Like I was saying to him, lets say that we want to go to second step...Then, you will need to get into a divorse and all the preavious children will see you like you are the one that broke their marrige. Starting a relationship like that is not very wise. Secondly, if the other part gets into a finantial trouble you are responsible as well. In other words you have no control over that

3/30/2008 5:12:54 AMSeparated or divorsed??? 

lookn4luv1969
Runnemede, NJ
age: 39

I won't even look at someones profile if it says SEPERATED, I feel the same way as you yourlady finish or end that relationship first then start another.

3/30/2008 5:23:28 AMSeparated or divorsed??? 

witchiepoo
East Hampton, CT
age: 48

Have to disagree ladies. I'm separated and I have it posted as such. I stay paper married for insurance and tax reasons. I haven't lived with him for 2 years this July and haven't had a HUSBAND for about 7 years.(had a hysterectomy since then does that make me a virgin again?) My ex and I get along well, actually better than when we were living together. So I withdrew the papers so insurance wouldn't cost him $600 per month. There is no way we would ever get back together the girl friend wouldn't have it When the time comes that I have someone in my life then the papers are in the court ready to go. If someone can't understand that then they are living in a fantasy world JMO

3/30/2008 5:38:14 AMSeparated or divorsed??? 

ivanto
Victorville, CA
age: 52

Witch that's why I said I would ask questions and see what the situation is before deciding. Many are apart for a longtime due to money or whatever reasons. It's over just no paperwork. My last one I didn't file for over 2 years cause I just didn't want to hassle with it. I didn't even know where he was. It was for sure over! Had to finally send papers to his cousin when I did finally file. So ask before judging...on anything

3/30/2008 5:39:22 AMSeparated or divorsed??? 

yourlady2008
Fuquay Varina, NC
age: 49

I understand the situation about the insurance, but 2 yrs...??? Come on, don't think you keep being part of that man "a stranger now" in a way... Is like too compromising, people change and now there ok, but anything happens and people change.

3/30/2008 5:46:18 AMSeparated or divorsed??? 

ivanto
Victorville, CA
age: 52

I waited because I didn't want the hassle and frankly he left me without much money to file for a while. Then he vanished anyway so I had to track down a relative so I had some place to serve the papers. I wasn't planning on getting married any time soon so why rush? Last I heard (when I finally found a relative)he was in Florida running from the law...so yeah....people change. Not always for the good though. LOL

All I'm saying is if you don't know the whole story, about anything, you shouldn't be so quick to judge. Just ask!

3/30/2008 5:51:59 AMSeparated or divorsed??? 

witchiepoo
East Hampton, CT
age: 48

Well If you don't understand the insurance part sorry for you. You must work for a company that gives you insurance. I work for a company that doesn't give benefits and I don't qualify for most jobs that do. I started to work another job that was to start benefits after 2 years but they scammed us and now I wasted all that time for nothing. And no way would I ever go back to my ex. We talk, nicely, and wouldn't touch that with a ten thousand foot pole ever again

3/30/2008 6:02:08 AMSeparated or divorsed??? 

reenie4
Milwaukee, WI
age: 51

Personally speaking, I would not consider dating a "seperated" man for many reasons, especially after several years, Hell no! I don't want that kind of baggage in my life.

3/30/2008 10:41:31 AMSeparated or divorsed??? 

magtag
East York, ON
age: 41 online now!

Yes I would, but would also ask questions to ensure the relationship was over and it was only a matter of paperwork.

I myself have been separated 6 years this July. We have never seen a lawyer, we have divided assets and agreed on visitation and support for our child and there are no problems. Why no divorce? Because it costs money and right now we both prefer to use that money for our son. If either was to decide to remarry, obviously the divorce would have to happen and the money would have to be spent. Until then, not likely to happen.

He has lived with his g/f for the last four years, we get along fine and she also knows that divorce is inevitable, just not happening until it's required.

3/30/2008 10:48:15 AMSeparated or divorsed??? 

garnetlady
Cincinnati, OH
age: 48

No, do not date separated, this person is not available. Not even with a legal separation. Unless the old relationship is over and done with, what is the sense of starting another? Just screams heartache to me and no thanks, have had my share. A person is either available completely or they are not. I don't share...not knowingly anyways.

3/30/2008 10:54:45 AMSeparated or divorsed??? 

adelinesmother
Fremont, NE
age: 37

For me, would depend on the situation.

3/30/2008 11:01:23 AMSeparated or divorsed??? 

dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 45

If you do date them, don't get your heart hooked on them. Protect your self from the BS that is most likely to arise.

Best bet, only date single people.