| 3/30/2008 8:52:39 AM | Have you ever heard this? | |
lin37
Comstock Park, MI
age: 38
| This happened on another website...so let me add the disclaimer so no one here gets all bent out of shape.
After a few emails getting to know someone, has that person ever said "Sorry to bother you" ?
I'm not sure how I offended this person so deeply that he thought he was bothering me. We made a few cutsie comments about the weather and our bad experiences in dating to which I agreed 100% with him and told him that. But when he said something about not wanting one night stands and meaningless relationship, I (in another attempt to agree with him) said something in a way that meant "I can believe there's another person on the face of this earth who wants more out of a relationship than that". What I typed in a friendly and lighthearted way "You are way too agreeable". Yes I added a smiley face.
So I get back an email wishing me luck in my search for Mr. Right and Sorry I bothered you.
 What did I do wrong? I emailed him back an apologized profusely. I don't know what I did and what happened there. Is joking around good for the goose only?
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| 3/30/2008 9:03:27 AM | Have you ever heard this? | |
kfab1023
Jacksonville, FL
age: 52
| You didn't do anything wrong he lost out by not meeting with you
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| 3/30/2008 9:07:48 AM | Have you ever heard this? | |
sea_dragon
Crystal River, FL
age: 31
| I think he took it the wrong way. It could have been because of the mood he was in or other distractions. You could reply back explaining what you meant, and if he replies back, continue on. If not, I wouldn't lose any sleep over it.
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| 3/30/2008 9:11:18 AM | Have you ever heard this? | |
nowurtalking
Amarillo, TX
age: 42
| JMO Doesn't sound like you did anything wrong! Joking around breaks the ice - but I think this guy was full of it when he said "doesn't want one night stands, etc". I think that's exactly what he wants and was just feeling you out. Had you answered things differently, I'll bet sex talk would've come up in the conversation right away. This has happened to me also, so you're not alone
[Edited 3/30/2008 9:13:27 AM]
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| 3/30/2008 9:13:00 AM | Have you ever heard this? | |
bytar
Spokane, WA
age: 49
| Must have wanted you to disagree with him. 
You could ask him, "whats up with that?", he could have been in bad mood.
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| 3/30/2008 9:13:48 AM | Have you ever heard this? | |
lin37
Comstock Park, MI
age: 38
| I was hoping I hadn't offended him. I'm not trying to offend people. I'm just really sefl conscious lately. The dating experience is going badly. I thought to myself last night "I'm going to be single forever."
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| 3/30/2008 9:14:41 AM | Have you ever heard this? | |
lin37
Comstock Park, MI
age: 38
| Bytar. I did email him back for the second time after my appology to ask what about that bothered him. I haven't heard back. I tried.
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| 3/30/2008 9:20:18 AM | Have you ever heard this? | |
bytar
Spokane, WA
age: 49
| Everything happens for a reason, if you gave it your best shot, and it didn't help, maybe it is for the better. 
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| 3/30/2008 9:34:15 AM | Have you ever heard this? | |
lilguppy2bit
Auburn, WA
age: 53 online now!
| I would write him off understand my step dau likes to ...lead men on just for the H of it then she gets a fight going and just keeps the guys vying with each other.. I sure don't like it She is pretty so everyone just gives her what she wants..So yes I understand say one thing and mean another
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| 3/30/2008 11:02:46 AM | Have you ever heard this? | |
goodforfun51
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 53
| You didn't do a darn thing wrong! He for sure is one of those guys that are ultra-hyper-sensitive to anything and whatever you wrote (in email- and it being a two diminsional medium) would be taken wrong if he so chose to take it that way. No, voice inflection causes some to take every word literally and they don't see the humor in anything. This guy was too serious and you would see that from him time after time, over time!!! JMHO
His loss, write it off to experience and remember the type as you proceed on with your search for a Mr. Right!!!
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| 3/30/2008 11:27:21 AM | Have you ever heard this? | |
l2kids44
Lanesville, IN
age: 45
| You didn't do anything wrong. He was feeling you out for a one night stand.I've heard all the lines and the slickest ones always start out by saying they are not looking for one night stands. Perhaps your agreeing with him made him feel like he was busted. Good Job girl
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