| 3/30/2008 6:21:56 PM | Does it bother you when... | |
lin37
Comstock Park, MI
age: 38
| someone from DH you have begun emailing posts in the forums? He or she isn't kissing and telling or bad mouthing you at all...just talking and maybe venting about silly things really and nothing about YOU. But basically harmlessly talking to people through the forums.
[Edited 3/30/2008 6:22:28 PM]
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| 3/30/2008 6:24:15 PM | Does it bother you when... | |
nicksterdemus
Little Rock, AR
age: 50
| Why would that bother ya unless ya have issues w/green eyed monster?
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I can be more generic.
Why would that bother said person that you're making reference to in your originl post unless that person had issues w/gren eyed monster?
[Edited 3/30/2008 6:39:54 PM]
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| 3/30/2008 6:27:34 PM | Does it bother you when... | |
lin37
Comstock Park, MI
age: 38
| i'm not the one bothered by it. I just wanted opinions. If I happen to be in contact with someone from here outside of this site. it just seems like you have to make a choice...post of the forum and talk to a bunch of cool people or don't and meet that one person who cound be special. It's like the big brother effect, but on a dating site. The people checking you out are judging you by what you post and where you post and what you say no matter how good or bad.
[Edited 3/30/2008 7:05:01 PM]
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| 3/30/2008 7:06:29 PM | Does it bother you when... | |
lin37
Comstock Park, MI
age: 38
| i think you're right with the green eyed monster.  sadly...i just didn't know how to internalise it. i've never had this problem and it seems that no matter what I do with anyone, it's taken wrong, out of context or just plain badly.
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| 3/30/2008 7:15:34 PM | Does it bother you when... | |
nicksterdemus
Little Rock, AR
age: 50
| If indeed the relationship had progressed to a serious and exclusive one then I can see one or the other not being thrilled about the other chatting online.
However, until the relationship advances to that, any serious request by one over the other concerning chatting would have to be viewed as a control issue.
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| 3/30/2008 7:20:32 PM | Does it bother you when... | |
midnight08
Clarksburg, WV
age: 37
| Maybe I am misunderstanding this a bit wrong. But for one you are just dating or just going out on dates. you have stated he is not flirting, just posting (chatting) what is wrong with that? Is he not allowed to have friends? would you put up with a guy telling you not to talk to anybody anymore because you are dating him?
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| 3/30/2008 7:24:37 PM | Does it bother you when... | |
lin37
Comstock Park, MI
age: 38
| we've never met. we aren't dating. we hadn't even talked on the phone and he makes me posting in the forums an issue because I might bring up something that he's sensitive about. I don't think I did anything wrong. so it no one was saying not to post in the forums or needed to have it at that level where there should be a mutual not post. if i start dating someone, I'm not here. I would expect the same. But we weren't at the level or even close and this became an issue.
[Edited 3/30/2008 7:26:48 PM]
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| 3/30/2008 7:27:24 PM | Does it bother you when... | |
midnight08
Clarksburg, WV
age: 37
| I understand now. He sounds like he is trying to control you already. jmo maybe I am wrong and I hope I am but tread lightly and watch for signs. this is a big red flag
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| 3/30/2008 7:30:18 PM | Does it bother you when... | |
lin37
Comstock Park, MI
age: 38
| I didn't know what to think. I'm not trying to offend people, but i am having a weird affect on people these days. I don't get it. He's already gone away on his own. Probably for the best, but still...I hate the whole situation.
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| 3/30/2008 7:30:21 PM | Does it bother you when... | |
nicksterdemus
Little Rock, AR
age: 50
| If it's an issue @ this juncture then I'd have some serious concerns about continuing any contact with this gent. It ain't gonna get better n it'll get worse.
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| 3/30/2008 11:25:35 PM | Does it bother you when... | |
flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 46
| This happened to me and I don't care who knows it. I was emailing a guy on here who seemed great and he seemed just as interested as I was but then this particular woman on here (who happens to require alot of male attention) started flirting with him on here. At first that didn't worry me. But then he just kept flirting with her on the posts and so I mentioned that he must like her and he said no because what he did on the website had no reflection on how he felt away from it. I understood because I am exactly the same so I left it alone. But then it got really bad because she kept going and I found out she had a crush on him which made everything worse. She even posted the crush with his name on one of my posts. It just went from bad to worse with me getting upset that he could flirt so openly with her after knowing what I told him.
Was I foolish to let that come between us? I don't think so because I woke up and thought about what if that had happened in real life and how his behaviour on here was a small indication of what I could expect in the real world.
So I would chase him on the threads and write things to say how I felt for a while because I was so annoyed and hurt.
Do I regret it - not at all. He should have stopped flirting in the first place but he didn't so he obviously didn't care how I felt.
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| 3/31/2008 4:17:17 AM | Does it bother you when... | |
lin37
Comstock Park, MI
age: 38
| yes he should have stopped flirting and this chick should have known her boundaries.
you did what you thought was best for you. no one can tell you it was wrong.
Whether it's over flirting or just talking when you get involved with someone, the relationship with the website should stop.
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| 3/31/2008 5:27:31 AM | Does it bother you when... | |
familyguy58103
Los Angeles, CA
age: 88
| Wow flowergirl, that sounds oddly familiar for some reason......
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| 3/31/2008 9:20:29 AM | Does it bother you when... | |
hummy63
Saint Louis, MO
age: 45
|  I met someone on DH & we are currently building a relationship. She pulled her profile for other reasons & has never gotten upset because I'm still here & still posting. I stay because I enjoy people, some of you truly make my day. I also want to give encouragement to those who feel like this site doesn't work. I share my story with them in order to give them hope. As far as flirting goes she knows I don't do that, it just isn't cool. We all need people in our lives even if it's just on the internet, alot of folks don't even have what we have on here. I know this is a dating site but it is so much more too. We are building relationships even if it isn't the romantic type. If the one I am currently with was still here & flirting then we would have a problem. Have a great day everyone! 
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| 3/31/2008 9:43:41 AM | Does it bother you when... | |
dragonheartpm
Galveston, TX
age: 56
| I think you should let him do what he wants to do. There is no commitment so dont worry about it.
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