| 4/1/2008 8:57:22 AM | interracial dating | |
jlf294u
Peoria, IL
age: 29
| I see black men & white women together, white men & black women together and I have never dated outside my race, but now that i am 29 years of age I suddenly have jungle fever. The thing is I have 2 beautiful African American daughters,if I their father dated a white woman would that effect them in a negative way? Please do not reply if you have racist comments
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| 4/1/2008 9:09:44 AM | interracial dating | |
basicwoman1
Grand Rapids, MI
age: 49
| I dont see anything wrong with it ,i have a interracial son from a relationship 20 plus years ago ,he is doing just great.i don`t see any problem with your children understanding what makes you happy.my first two children understood how i feel and was ok with it,i`am dating a black man now and its all good.so do what your heart feels ,and good luck
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| 4/1/2008 3:21:34 PM | interracial dating | |
tazzper23
Texarkana, TX
age: 45
| here what i can never understand i've travel and i not yet seen are heard of love that had colors . the only different i've see in a black and white woman in skin .
but i think of thing like would this woman white are black will be the type that when iam down with no job will she be there . w
will she help me when iam sick
will she love me for me
will she be faithful
we as prople on datehookup tends to thing of how i wamt him are her to look
are is he are she black are white . the question that is never ask on here is .
could this person be my soulmate
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| 4/1/2008 3:28:37 PM | interracial dating | |
pichick712
Brookhaven, PA
age: 50
| Hey, if you are attracted to a white women, go for it! YOu might be sending them a very positive message, like "it does not matter about the color of your skin, it's what kind of person you are inside". They might be very receptive to the idea and who knows,they might bring home a nice white boy. I'm all for it!
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| 4/1/2008 4:15:32 PM | interracial dating | |
striv4thebest
Verona, PA
age: 32
| As a black woman, I never had a problem with interracial dating. Do what you feel. Love has no colors, as was already stated. When two people get together from different cultures, think of the variety their lives contain. There are many firsts in this type of situation and much more growth. I'm all for it!   
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| 4/1/2008 4:22:06 PM | interracial dating | |
kfab1023
Jacksonville, FL
age: 52
| I say follow your heart love knows no color. And if you both are happy and treat each other with love and respect that is all that matters. If you are happy who cares and yes I dated a black man and we are the best for friends still and we always will be.
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| 4/1/2008 4:37:49 PM | interracial dating | |
tess_1016
Edmonton, AB
age: 43
| There's nothing wrong with it. My ex is caucasian and I'm Asian and our kids are beautiful, they have tan all year round
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| 4/1/2008 4:54:35 PM | interracial dating | |
mimi_2008
Cincinnati, OH
age: 36
| My two cents:
I don’t think that there is any problem with dating interracially or otherwise (cultural, etc). You; however, ask the question about the impact on your daughters…I think that it is important to make sure…
a) That person likes and is accepting of your children.
b) That the person is comfortable around children.
c) That you talk with your children about ‘daddy dating’ (not sure of the ages of your girls) because children see and understand a lot of things that sometimes we don’t think that they do. Personally think that this is very important, especially if you have not dated in a while.
d) Try to maintain as much normalcy as possible, i.e. if their mother is active in their life OR if you do a ‘daddy date night’ with them continue.
e) Make sure that you become involved with someone that you respect and intend a long term relationship with. This I say because as a father you represent how they (your daughters) will deal with men in their adulthood.
Best wishes on your dating endeavors!!
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| 4/1/2008 9:28:04 PM | interracial dating | |
mizzdragonfly
Savannah, GA
age: 45
| You displayed a racist inclination with every word you wrote. This was wrong at so many different levels and an insult on every aspect.
You stated that you will date “outside” your race, so since you are part of the human race that could only mean one thing....
...and if that was not disturbing enough, now we are adding “jungle fever” to this. What the #$@& is jungle fever???? Is this what you teach your offspring about interracial couples?
Are you taking on a new hobby(a white woman)? Or is it like the puppy that dad gets as a Christmas present for the kids, only to drop it off at the shelter after it gets inconvenient?
Why would you randomly expose your " African American" daughters to any women you are dating, period?
And why in God’s name could that relationship effect the children (may they be Asian, African, Indian, Caucasians.....)in a negative way?
Surely the fact that a bigot father will be dating a white woman will definitely effect them in a negative way.
Unless you are just trying to get a piece of white trashy @$$ (which I hope you will not introduce to your daughters), you should try to comprehend the following important facts.
As I stated before, on another Caucasian website( ruled predominantly by rednecks), I can assure you that there isn’t anything mediocre about the complex and divers nature of an interracial relationships.
Sadly this diversity is not something that too many people know how to embrace.
I know that the spiritual factor (not only in the religious aspect) is the most important one. Although this is something that people in the USA lack of, I strongly believe that even of different backgrounds or denominations, we can find common ground if spirituality is your driving force, and if you have a true understanding of altruism.
Once you have established this strong foundation, all the basic ingredients such as communication, trust and perseverance will become second nature, making a loving relationship complete.
But again, as I mentioned before, diversity is not accepted by society yet. As an interracial/multicultural couple, not only you are dealing with the day to day challenges while learning about each other . Now you have to learn how to make your individualism part of your team strength, your armor against all that might cause disruption in this very unique relationship.
As you can see, this is far from mediocre, requiring very open-minded and intellectual individuals. After all said and done, years into this kind of relationship, if that’s not love I don’t know what is.
I only found this forum by coincidence and I normally ignore statements of such insignificant content . However, I felt compelled to leave a mark. I am not interested in further comments therefore I will not check into this forum again.
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| 4/2/2008 12:27:57 AM | interracial dating | |
flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 46
| I think you should always talk to your children if and when you do meet someone and it gets a bit more serious but otherwise no. I don't bring my children into that aspect of my life but they also don't live with me 24/7.
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| 4/2/2008 11:04:02 AM | interracial dating | |
lonelymantoday
Indianapolis, IN
age: 53
| I never considered it until one day a few months ago at my p/t retail job, a beautiful black lady, 36, came to me and asked me out WOW!!!! we went for coffee and a few hours later she had her 'way' with me. She was very determined. This woman is a very sweet but since I couldn't help he out of her financial wows, she has continuely moved on to others who might be able to help her I feel. She has dumped me 3 times already for others who "God" sent to her. Some didn't work out she says and now there is someone new again. It hurts. I was hoping it was/is me. She again came to me out of nowhere and I was very happy I found someone.
She has 3 young children the oldest being a 11yr girl. She doesn't call me until a few weeks later when she wants to do something or needs something. I will always be her for her and she knows that. I still see her in the black church praise team. I like the church alot but it will hurt to see her with someone else. So I might have to switch churches.
We all have the same blood and the same God. There is nothing wrong with interracial >If it would even be possible, I would marry this woman. RIght now I have no one and am searching for either race. I am very kind to her as she has stated her past 5-6 relationships have all been violent. Love is the greatest thing you'll ever learn. Everybody seeks it. Dont't let color stand in your way. I certainly will not. It does suck being alone though. Hope this helps somewhat.
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| 4/2/2008 11:06:46 AM | interracial dating | |
harley9482
Fort Wayne, IN
age: 25
| it shouldn't be determined by skin tone, whether or not you interact, or hook-up. It shouldn't soley or even majorly depend on finances, whether or not you try to connect.
It should depend vastly on whether or not you figuratively enhance or complete eachother.
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| 4/2/2008 11:26:24 AM | interracial dating | |
lost_in_albany
Albany, GA
age: 34
| If you're lucky enough to find someone that loves you, who cares what anybody else thinks. Sure, it's harder to be an interacial coupl ein some places but, who cares? If the two of you are happy, does my opinion, or anyone else's, really matter?
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| 4/2/2008 2:43:50 PM | interracial dating | |
mz_stuna
Addison, TX
age: 26
|  MY WORDS!
WELL I THINK THAT AS A BLACK WOMAN, THAT REALLY TO A CERTAIN POINT.
IT'S NOT BECAUSE OF RACISM, BUT I THINK MERELY BECAUSE OF THE THREAT THAT
OTHER RACES CAN'T MERGE TOGETHER WITH UNDERSTANDING.AND WE'VE NEVER GRASP,
THE CONCEPT THAT LOVE ISN'T A COLOR.BUT A STATE OF BEING, AND SIMPILY A FEELING!
AND NO IT'S NOT RIGHT! BECAUSE I HAVE 2 DAUGHTERS FROM AN INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIP.
AND IT DOESN'T AFFECT MY GIRLZ NONE. IT JUST GONNA BE A MAJOR CURIOUSITY FACTOR,
WHICH WILL BE FUN FOR THEM, AND EDUCATIONAL! AND I THINK THAT RACISM IS OVERRATED
AND I WOULDN'T CHANGE MY EXPIRENCE FOR NOTHING! I JUST TELL THEM THAT GOD MADE ALL BEAUTIFUL COLORS,AND YOU HAPPEN TO BE ONE OF GODS BEAUTIFUL CREATIONS OF COLORS.SO I SAY TO YOU IT'S NO PROBLEM! THEY'LL UNDERSTAND,AND WILL SHOCK U HOW WELL THEY CAN EXPLAIN WHO THEY REALLY R TO YOU! SO IT'S A FIGHT, BUT WE ALL HAVE TO CONQUER THIS FIGHT TOGETHER!
AS PEOPLE WHO'S HAD, AND HAVE A INTERRACIAL LOVE!
STAY STRONG, GODS STILL HAVE WORK TO DO FOR THE IGNORANT!!!!
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| 4/2/2008 3:10:59 PM | interracial dating | |
pichick712
Brookhaven, PA
age: 50
| Just a question to tack onto this thread if I may..............
Are interracial couples accepted more outside the US?
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