| 4/1/2008 10:29:31 AM | I'm curious if similar minded or opposite attract more | |
rosemaryy
Yuba City, CA
age: 29
| So, what do you think? Do similar minded or opposite attract more? Me personally I think its probably somewhere in the middle. If someone is to similar, then you might as well be dating yourself or if someone is to opposite than you will have nothing in common. Anyways, I'm very curious to hear what everyone else has to say
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| 4/1/2008 10:30:35 AM | I'm curious if similar minded or opposite attract more | |
sweetbabeblues
Hannibal, MO
age: 52
| I give up long ago trying to figure that one out.....
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| 4/1/2008 10:31:58 AM | I'm curious if similar minded or opposite attract more | |
evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35
| I think sexual attraction attracts.. then after yer lying there cooling down the yes yes places you figure out the personality.
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| 4/1/2008 10:35:10 AM | I'm curious if similar minded or opposite attract more | |
rosemaryy
Yuba City, CA
age: 29
| I'm very old fashion. I can't just jump into bed with someone without first being emotionally involved. And I don't hold anything against those that can....it just not me.
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| 4/1/2008 10:37:02 AM | I'm curious if similar minded or opposite attract more | |
evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35
| I don't just jump... I slowly slide in.
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| 4/1/2008 10:38:08 AM | I'm curious if similar minded or opposite attract more | |
lildifferent
Sacramento, CA
age: 47
| Eddy, just remember to put your blindfold on first.
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| 4/1/2008 10:40:21 AM | I'm curious if similar minded or opposite attract more | |
mkemelagh
Longview, TX
age: 19
| I think that opposites attract more. It makes the relationship more interesting. If you both feel the same way about everything then what the hell are you going to talk about!?
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| 4/1/2008 10:42:04 AM | I'm curious if similar minded or opposite attract more | |
libra75
Garfield, AR
age: 32
| Usually, I do a pretty good job of attracting my opposite.....
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| 4/1/2008 12:27:02 PM | I'm curious if similar minded or opposite attract more | |
rosemaryy
Yuba City, CA
age: 29
| Thanks everyone for your replies!
I do agree with Eddy to a certain point that there should be an initial physical attraction. It always interests what attract a person to another person.
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| 4/1/2008 12:29:32 PM | I'm curious if similar minded or opposite attract more | |
lonesomeloser
Louisville, KY
age: 49
| I actually prefer the simple minded ones.....
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| 4/1/2008 12:32:33 PM | I'm curious if similar minded or opposite attract more | |
sliver22
Meridian, ID
age: 41
|  I don't think we should jump in bed based on similarities and differences. I too threw all that nonsense out the window years ago, and it has worked out excellent.
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| 4/1/2008 12:32:50 PM | I'm curious if similar minded or opposite attract more | |
wandering_soul
Kelowna, BC
age: 53
| Seriously - who you attract all depends on where you are at emotionally and spiritually in your life (spiritual does not mean religious - it means interests, attitudes, outlook in life).
How the Law of Attraction works is that you will attract someone with similar energy to your own. Like attracts Like. ALWAYS. Not sometimes.
Where things go wonky on us is that most people are in complete denial of who they truly are, thus they are NOT ready to "face their truth" and are dysfunctional. They are running around trying to find someone that will "fill that hole" (created in their childhoods). These people are usually bewildered when they attract other dysfunctional people into their lives. That's a wake-up call for us to PAY ATTENTION...
Here's what I have learned...
When you are younger, if you don't have a strong sense of self growing up (or strong role models), you will be attracted to people who have had (or are having) completely different life experiences to our own, or have traits we wish we had. (They're a wild child, you're conservative; they have a "Leave it to Beaver" family, you had the "Simpsons"; they had a "real mom", and you had "the Devil Wears Prada" mom). In time, this will drive us crazy because the very thing we were attracted to becomes the thing we hate about them later! There is no true compatibility on any level.
As we mature, especially if you are still somewhat dysfunctional without a strong sense of self, but maybe a bit better at recognizing "red flags", you will attract people who you might connect with on some levels intellectually and spiritually. However, these people are STILL going to push your buttons and mirror your own reflection back to you. And if you still do not have a strong sense of self, you can even be shattered by seeing your own refection in this person. The purpose would be so that YOU eliminate the negative qualities in yourself. (That Eckhart Tolles book, "A New Earth", is all about this...)
I can personally say "been there, done that" to the two above relationships.
IF you finally get your act together and see your own Truth and have your RED FLAG radar up and fully functioning -- you might finally be able to take some responsibility for the failure in the other relationships... and finally ATTRACT someone that you can now SHARE life with! However, these people will still "mirror" your own reflection back to you. And if both of you are healthy -- emotionally and spiritually -- you might get to have a pleasant experience this time around!
Did you read my post on "Tips to Attract a Good Partner" thread in this forum??? If you keep attracting the wrong people -- then you need to examine what it is in you that attracted them in the first place.
And PS - I was married to someone VERY similar to myself (which made it nice and very comfortable because we liked a lot of the same things, and also our temperment was similar so we processed things similarly...) but there were enough differences to make it challenging (he was a morning person, I am a night / he is conservative about taking risks financially, I was a huge risk-taker / I work to live, he was a workaholic). What broke us down? Perceptions based on fears.
Good luck!
Ev 
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| 4/1/2008 12:35:33 PM | I'm curious if similar minded or opposite attract more | |
57rickie
Sioux Falls, SD
age: 57
| Kinda like you Reap what you Sow. If you come off as being a Plastic person, then you attract a Plastic person. If you are Real, hopefully you attract Real people
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| 4/1/2008 12:36:43 PM | I'm curious if similar minded or opposite attract more | |
lonesomeloser
Louisville, KY
age: 49
| thats a long ass answer for a simple question.....
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| 4/1/2008 12:37:14 PM | I'm curious if similar minded or opposite attract more | |
rosemaryy
Yuba City, CA
age: 29
| Ok Silver I'll bite.....if not similarities or differences than what?
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