| 4/1/2008 9:02:51 PM | Which is better? | |
chesi
Florence, AL
age: 37
| | 1. To spend time here for a spell before meeting face to face | | 2. Meet right away, within the first 24 hours | | 3. Plan to be at the same place and time and 'bump' into each other |
If you choose option A.......what is the best time frame in your opinion?
Option B.....................what is the motivation behind this?
C............................what would be your ideal scenario?
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| 4/1/2008 9:04:39 PM | Which is better? | |
chesi
Florence, AL
age: 37
| I choose option A because it at least gives you time to see if the other persons sense of humor matches your. After all, eventually everything sags, sinks or shrinks so if you do not have laughter, what is left..........
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| 4/1/2008 9:05:43 PM | Which is better? | |
midnight08
Clarksburg, WV
age: 37
| yes spend time here and watch what they do in the forums, you can learn alot from what they say and do.
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| 4/1/2008 9:05:51 PM | Which is better? | |
sweetbabeblues
Hannibal, MO
age: 52
| A guy I met on a dating sight a couple years back and I decided we would both be at Walmart at the same time, and see if we could find each other.... It was fun looking around, and I know the guys had to think I was nutz..... 
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| 4/1/2008 9:09:03 PM | Which is better? | |
ladyinparis
Paris, TX
age: 41
| I don't know. I have only done option 1. But, after meeting online and emailing or im-ing, you kind of get a preconceived notion of what someone will sound like and look like. But, they rarely look exactly like their pic. I took my pic 2 weeks before I went on my first date. He said that I looked nothing like my picture...better though. He didn't really look like his pic that much either..his was recent as well. His voice sounded completely different than i'd imagined. I wouldn't mind option 2-3. Just plan on meeting somewhere right away--before you get any notions at all.
Oh, but the awkwardness of sitting with someone you know nothing about...or even if you have anything in common.
I am a very talkative person and on my first date (since the separation), even I had a difficult time keeping the ball rolling. If he wasn't a talker too, we would have been screwed! lol
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| 4/1/2008 9:09:51 PM | Which is better? | |
ladyinparis
Paris, TX
age: 41
| Sweet..did you find him?
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| 4/1/2008 9:10:17 PM | Which is better? | |
timetogolf
Au Gres, MI
age: 54
| sweetbabe....you are back!!!!! so glad to see you. hope you are doin' great.
my choice would be to spend time here and then perhaps have the face to face meeting. Seeing how we respond to things here is a good way to get your "comfort zone" with the person you are interested in.
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| 4/1/2008 9:12:52 PM | Which is better? | |
justme1122
Middletown, DE
age: 43
| A... these days can never be too safe and think its better to try and get to know them better first....as far as how long.. well guess it depends on how well the conversations go..and how comfortable you would feel meeting this person...
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| 4/1/2008 9:16:00 PM | Which is better? | |
dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 45
| If they are local, just go meet face to face over a cup of coffee.
Forget about wasting a bunch of time on the net. Just go do a light meet in a crowded place and have a nice get to know eachother talk.
If they are not local, get to know eachother as well as possible over the net, phone, web cam, or what ever means possible. You have more to loose in these relationships.
Time and money are just a few of the things you could loose. Also, make sure one of you is capable of relocating if the relationship is a success. No need torturing yourself with a LDR that will never end in a common location.
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| 4/1/2008 9:16:18 PM | Which is better? | |
belladreams
Binghamton, NY
age: 38
| I pick option A and thank god I did because it really worked. The guy turned out to be a creep over the phone and a player. Found out he had girls in all 50 states... Saved by the bell.....good post young lady....
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| 4/1/2008 9:17:51 PM | Which is better? | |
sweetbabeblues
Hannibal, MO
age: 52
| Lady...actually he found me......
And golf...  I am doing ok, but having surgery on Friday......
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| 4/1/2008 9:19:47 PM | Which is better? | |
timetogolf
Au Gres, MI
age: 54
| good to have you back, sweetbabe.....missed you.....and lots of prayers are yours, which you already know! sorry to be off topic...but it's well worth it.
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| 4/1/2008 9:22:57 PM | Which is better? | |
chesi
Florence, AL
age: 37
| Wow, this is good stuff I must say. After reading about the WalMart thing it actually looks like a great idea when considering it from the view point about not wasting time. I really do not like the idea of actually spending a lot of time together the first time meeting simply because you may find that you do not want to spend much time in the company of said other person. And there is the danger factor. Although, meeting here does not entirely mean you are meeting the real person anyway, huh. Things to ponder. Education and self awareness, two of the major tools of advancement. How complex the human is. Sorry, some of that Sag. stuff. Thank you all for joining and for the kudoes.
[Edited 4/1/2008 9:24:45 PM]
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| 4/1/2008 9:24:48 PM | Which is better? | |
christi8680
Ithaca, NY
age: 39
| #1 Take the time to get to know someone, not only by what they are saying to you behind the emails...but how they act & what they say to others as well. Watching & reading the posts definately give you much more insight into people, than a simple profile view.
Isn't the definition of "profile" something along the lines of being only one side afterall? The same applies to the many "profiles" here.
Everyone!
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| 4/1/2008 9:36:01 PM | Which is better? | |
katrina_sq
Mena, AR
age: 39
| I like the idea of meeting here and getting to know a little bit about the other person. I live in rural western Arkansas, and usually meeting someone from the site entails some travel $$, so I would rather chat/email for a week or so, talk on the phone a bit, then meet. On the other hand, I went out with a friend of a friend last weekend that I had talked to only a few times on the phone, but he came highly recommended. (nice guy, no spark)
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