| 4/2/2008 12:19:45 PM | Three-Month Thing | |
traveljunkie
Pittsburgh, PA
age: 38
| Just curious if others have experienced this...
Meet someone, things go well, you start dating, all is wonderful and then darn near the three month mark - the guy puts a wall up and that's the end. Nothing bad happened, the guy was into it completely and then poof - the potential for a great relationship was stopped dead in its tracks right around the 3-month mark.
This has happened to me several times in the past. I've chatted with a few girlfriends who have had similar situations. Just curious if we're the only ones and maybe you guys can give us some insight into this....
I'm thinking they are very into the potential early on and then after 3 months, it starts smacking of an actual 'relationship' they freak out and run the other way but I'm a chick, what do I know. Hahahaha....
 
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| 4/2/2008 12:25:13 PM | Three-Month Thing | |
smilin_bob
Broadway, VA
age: 47
| There is a known condition called 'Commit-itis'
People afraid to commit fully to a relationship, both men and women.
It is quite puzzling. Sometimes it make the other person go .. dayum, did I say or do something wrong?
dang, if you see that I have that condition, please do me a favor.. y'all can just get out the cast iron fryin' pan and whop me a good 'un.
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| 4/2/2008 12:28:38 PM | Three-Month Thing | |
tx38austin
Dallas, TX
age: 38 online now!
| I've known of a lot of guys that do this. I can't give you a reason, perhaps they're afraid of commitment or just plain immaturity. At best, it's better to know he'll do this before things get going than after a year or two into a relationship. 
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| 4/2/2008 12:32:47 PM | Three-Month Thing | |
lonesomeloser
Louisville, KY
age: 49
| He lasted 3 months? What was he waiting for?
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| 4/2/2008 1:32:04 PM | Three-Month Thing | |
uh_huh
West Palm Beach, FL
age: 35
| Had the same thing happen to me... 3 months... Just a couple days after we both admitted that there was real mutual admiration, POOF!... She's gone.. Never a word...
Next time, I'll be very leary around the 3 month mark.....
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| 4/2/2008 1:41:54 PM | Three-Month Thing | |
yellowroom
Grand Island, NE
age: 47
| Travel junkie, I know what you are talking about I have had several of the 3 month "things" too. In person and on the internet..it seems to be the cut off mark. I think more on my part than on their's though...so it is a definite problem for me. Sigh...
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| 4/2/2008 1:46:11 PM | Three-Month Thing | |
wino631
Huntington, NY
age: 53
| Lets see, June,July, August,..... FOOTBALL! What do think?
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| 4/2/2008 2:10:28 PM | Three-Month Thing | |
traveljunkie
Pittsburgh, PA
age: 38
| My last relationship actually lasted 9 months but after the first three months, he started pulling away. He told me it had nothing to do with me, he just wanted to slow things down. Funny thing was I didn't push things - he did. So, of course I said that was fine. I'm not a needy person. At that point he basically considered himself my boyfriend but spent no time with me. So, I suggested we meet for drinks one night after work - he was happy to do so. After a few drinks, I told him that I had a reason for meeting up and that the relationship just wasn't working for me. You would have thought I punched him in the stomach. He looked like he was tearing up and was completely caught off guard. He explained that he didn't want to end things and that he always does this and wanted to try again. So, we decided to stay together. Things were absolutely wonderful for yet another three months and he started his same crap again. It wasn't that he was rude to me or treated me like he didn't care - well after a few more months of this BS - we broke up. Not a bad break up or anything - my time is worth more to me, quite frankly. So, it's just so funny how it seems to run in 90-day intervals.
I tend to shut down as soon as I realize we are not compatible, I don't waste 90 days of a person's life. But that's just me.
Thanks for weighing in!
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| 4/2/2008 2:12:36 PM | Three-Month Thing | |
lovesflowers2
Fort Smith, AR
age: 47
| Yes have had this happen... someone called it the "rubberband effect" I don't care what it's called...it hurts and leaves you wondering what happened...especially if they never contact you again...
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| 4/2/2008 2:14:21 PM | Three-Month Thing | |
wino631
Huntington, NY
age: 53
| junkie, what was he thinking! Keep after it.
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| 4/2/2008 2:17:11 PM | Three-Month Thing | |
sweetbabeblues
Hannibal, MO
age: 52
| I think it's called getting to know the good, the bad, and the ugly... Three words..three months...Yupp.....
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| 4/2/2008 2:24:05 PM | Three-Month Thing | |
capt_bt
Brooklyn, NY
age: 46
| is that kind like the 5 year itch when your married
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| 4/2/2008 2:38:12 PM | Three-Month Thing | |
traveljunkie
Pittsburgh, PA
age: 38
| SweetBabe - that's an interesting concept.
At least it's not just me. I thought I was doing something wrong - attracting the same type of nit-wits over and over. And that's a tough pill to swallow when you are self-sufficient and not really looking for someone to take care of ya. I'm pretty easy to get along with but that's just my opinion of course.
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| 4/2/2008 2:38:57 PM | Three-Month Thing | |
traveljunkie
Pittsburgh, PA
age: 38
| Wino...thanks! I'll keep on keeping on....haha.
And earlier posters did point out, it is better to find out early.
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| 4/2/2008 2:40:00 PM | Three-Month Thing | |
harley9482
Fort Wayne, IN
age: 25
| 3-month is better than only a week.
I've experienced where the woman wanted me to act like a slave, in order for her to even act like she respected me, and i won't
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