| 4/4/2008 3:03:50 PM | texting the exs | |
geegollyholly
Columbia, MO
age: 23
| Okay so I'm curious about what others see as acceptable in a relationship. I had a friend who caught her bf texting a girl who liked him. Okay, no big deal. She asked if he had a gf, he said yeah,but things weren't great... blah, blah, long story short he ended it using " sweet dreams beautiful". He's actually driving through her town to visit her this weekend "as friends". Now my friend doesn't even get this kind of sweet talk- now I'm saying that she was in the wrong for reading it, but he's just pissed bc he got caught txting something that shouldn't have been sent in the first place and lying about talking to this girl. If you have to lie abt talking to someone- it's probably bc you know you're guilty of something- right? Any other opinions??? Stay or leave??  
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| 4/4/2008 3:08:40 PM | texting the exs | |
unc005
Seagrove, NC
age: 25
| Hmmm...RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN for da HILLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLs! LOL! GET OUT WHILE YA CAN!
Seriously..all joking aside..that's a bunch of shit..so...she's better off just ending it.
You're prob. right about him getting all pissy about her reading it, but...the writing's *probably* on the wall..sooooo...
She should prob. do herself a favor and just git out! *sighs*
She needs to save herself the hurt, misery, anger, bitterness/resentment/trouble...
She'll be better off, and there'll be a lot more fish in the sea...
Good luck to her !
unc
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| 4/4/2008 3:09:49 PM | texting the exs | |
snides20
Mingo Junction, OH
age: 26
| okmy 2 cents. I see both ways here. She was in the wrong for reading his texting trust is everything. Sweet dreams beautiful now i use terms like sweetheart, hun and beautiful to woman I know but we are just friends and i wouldnt push it past that.At the same time He is not using these same terms if not better terms for her something is wrong. I would say bye bye
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| 4/4/2008 3:10:40 PM | texting the exs | |
lonesomeloser
Louisville, KY
age: 49
| I only have text sex with mine.....it's harmless....
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| 4/4/2008 3:14:59 PM | texting the exs | |
geegollyholly
Columbia, MO
age: 23
| the reason she was on his phone was innocent, just happened upon the txts. I think it's wrong bc he doesn't tell her he loves her, just "back at you" and he's telling this other chick things like that, then completely denies talking to her. My friend feels bad bc he's helping raise her kids, but then again I'm sitting there telling her either way- he's great to them and ignoring you- right??
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| 4/4/2008 3:20:06 PM | texting the exs | |
forestrose
Calgary, AB
age: 55
| Is he a trucker? Can she join him for the weekend, and they both visit his friend??
Some people DO have trouble saying "I love you" for various reasons, so that in itself
doesn't mean he doesnt love her.
My personal standard is that I would do nothing in a relationship that creates questions.
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| 4/4/2008 3:25:55 PM | texting the exs | |
snides20
Mingo Junction, OH
age: 26
| helping raise her kids should mean nothing to her if she feels he is cheating. Does she want her children growing up thinking that is how a relationship should be. Kids are smarter then what people give them credit for. If she wants whats best for her kids she has to follow her heart. The last female i dated we helped raise each others kids, but we knew it would not work out so we backed out of our relationship. She will find a good man eventually that would be willing and love to help her raise her kids.
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| 4/4/2008 3:26:47 PM | texting the exs | |
geegollyholly
Columbia, MO
age: 23
| He is a trucker. She's met this girl- she treated her like a girl who had something to prove. Apparently they talk all the time, but he denys it- I'm of the mindset that if you lie about talking to a person then you're doing something wrong in the intentions? right?? We know for a fact he told his last gf he loved her constantly, only tells my friend once in a while- otherwise it's "back at you" . He has a personals acct on yahoo too and says he had it forever- switched the location when they moved across the country together- for her school. She asked him about that and it was the whole "I've had that forever" excuse. They fought over that too- he said he'd delete it if she felt insecure about it, but he never did. He doesn't see it as a big deal, but she sees it as putting yourself on the market. any takers on that one??
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| 4/4/2008 3:31:03 PM | texting the exs | |
snides20
Mingo Junction, OH
age: 26
| I'm sorry for everyone on here this may offend. I have met alot of nice people on here i consider my friend. If I met someone I fell in love with I would not be back on here. Granted I may email some in personal emails but nothing i would hide from my signifcant other and i would not be back on a singles site
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| 4/4/2008 3:33:08 PM | texting the exs | |
unc005
Seagrove, NC
age: 25
| Uhhh..*nervous look*. (LOL!) How old's the trucker, by chance?
(I ask b/c *I* am dating a trucker..LOL! We have yet to meet...and well..enough said..)
I met my guy on here....
I can see both/ALL sides to this "problem", and I hope your friend does what's in HER best interest (as well as for the sake of her children..)..whatever her decision may be...
unc
*edited* for a little more info. addition...
*I* am on here strictly for friends, and the forums...NO harm in that..so is he (on here for friends)...
We're both fine with it, and if it were an issue--we'd discuss it with each other, sooooo...
[Edited 4/4/2008 3:34:41 PM]
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| 4/4/2008 3:33:35 PM | texting the exs | |
geegollyholly
Columbia, MO
age: 23
|  I appreciate your help! I was trying to make sure everybody generally agreed w/ me b4 I told her to 86 the guy!! I didn't want to give bad advice and make a bad judgement call.
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| 4/4/2008 3:34:17 PM | texting the exs | |
goodforfun51
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 53
| Appears that he is exercising his desire to check out other "relationship" options!
She Should do exactly the same and see if he enjoys being the brunt of her search for another!!! While she signs off calling him "hunka hunka burnin man meat"!!!! 
He Won't enjoy it and she should say and  Buh Byyyyyeeeeeeee!!!!
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| 4/4/2008 4:10:06 PM | texting the exs | |
st3v3
Mahanoy City, PA
age: 31
| HAVE HER DUMP HIS ASS AND TEXT ME.. 
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| 4/4/2008 4:28:33 PM | texting the exs | |
sliver22
Meridian, ID
age: 41
| She could either confront and discuss, or simply move on.
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| 4/4/2008 5:00:36 PM | texting the exs | |
tara7c
Westerville, OH
age: 49
| Hmmm....my vote goes for moving on to "greener pastures". My man better talk sweeter to me than any other woman in his life....or out he goes. 
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